My query is without a warning letter, can my senior send me home without asking for any justification? Please revert.
The basis of this is I had a fight with a female staff member because of sales. She was a new joiner, and I was just telling her what she did was wrong, but I was a little rude. I have been working with my firm for over 3 years.
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The basis of this is I had a fight with a female staff member because of sales. She was a new joiner, and I was just telling her what she did was wrong, but I was a little rude. I have been working with my firm for over 3 years.
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Kindly check your company policies, if your behavior with that lady is classified under "sexual harassment" then you can be terminated without notice and without explanation.
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Dear Mr. Anshoo Kapoor,
I wonder why your senior would send you home for being a little rude with a female sales staff. This matter needs to be sorted out once and for all. If you knew that she was wrong, there is a way to explain things. In case you can't explain it to her in the easiest/simplest way, you could have updated your senior about her mistake and helped her learn and unlearn procedures or processes, or whatever it may be.
If you had realized your mistake, it's better to apologize and ensure that it is not repeated in the future. Kindly, don't take undue advantage of being with the same firm for the past three years.
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I wonder why your senior would send you home for being a little rude with a female sales staff. This matter needs to be sorted out once and for all. If you knew that she was wrong, there is a way to explain things. In case you can't explain it to her in the easiest/simplest way, you could have updated your senior about her mistake and helped her learn and unlearn procedures or processes, or whatever it may be.
If you had realized your mistake, it's better to apologize and ensure that it is not repeated in the future. Kindly, don't take undue advantage of being with the same firm for the past three years.
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Hi Friend,
Please clarify the following:
- Whether the girl made any complaint against you to the Principal Employer?
- Fight Means Verbally or by Physical movement?
- Refer to Sexual harassment policies in your company standing order.
Please note that handle women employees genuinely. Because this policy is applicable to women; i.e., if women are harassed physically, visually, through symbols, etc., it will be considered against men. Also, the beauty of this law is that if men are harassed by women, no action will be taken against the women.
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Jana
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Please clarify the following:
- Whether the girl made any complaint against you to the Principal Employer?
- Fight Means Verbally or by Physical movement?
- Refer to Sexual harassment policies in your company standing order.
Please note that handle women employees genuinely. Because this policy is applicable to women; i.e., if women are harassed physically, visually, through symbols, etc., it will be considered against men. Also, the beauty of this law is that if men are harassed by women, no action will be taken against the women.
Thanks,
Jana
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Dear Mr. Sanjeev,
Kindly consider my advice below. Your assumptions will definitely confuse all those members reading this thread. Kindly try to acquire more details/information before you post your comments. A verbal fight with a lady arising due to xyz reason cannot be classified under the sexual harassment policy. I hope you understood what I meant.
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From India, Chennai
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Kindly consider my advice below. Your assumptions will definitely confuse all those members reading this thread. Kindly try to acquire more details/information before you post your comments. A verbal fight with a lady arising due to xyz reason cannot be classified under the sexual harassment policy. I hope you understood what I meant.
With profound regards
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Dear Anshoo,
Going by your brief description, we are not able to make out what went wrong. In the first place, legally speaking, your so-called senior doesn't have any power to send you out because he is not the appointing authority. Legally, other than the appointing authority, no one has the power to do so. Friends have touched upon a sensitive subject of "sexual harassment to women in the workplace". I think everybody should understand the topic first and then discuss whether Anshoo is in this bracket or not. Please refer to the attachment for some details about it.
I'm not sure whether you are covered under the Factories Act or Shops Act. But provisions under both are more or less similar.
Secondly, if she had complained against you, what picture did she describe about the incident which weighed more heavily in the whole episode, that you have to talk to your senior or Management to find out what went wrong. Most probably, her part of the story should have been very severe as it resulted in the marching orders to you.
If you consider yourself genuinely blameless, which could be supported by eyewitnesses, you can fight it out. Otherwise, the choice is yours.
Kumar S.
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Going by your brief description, we are not able to make out what went wrong. In the first place, legally speaking, your so-called senior doesn't have any power to send you out because he is not the appointing authority. Legally, other than the appointing authority, no one has the power to do so. Friends have touched upon a sensitive subject of "sexual harassment to women in the workplace". I think everybody should understand the topic first and then discuss whether Anshoo is in this bracket or not. Please refer to the attachment for some details about it.
I'm not sure whether you are covered under the Factories Act or Shops Act. But provisions under both are more or less similar.
Secondly, if she had complained against you, what picture did she describe about the incident which weighed more heavily in the whole episode, that you have to talk to your senior or Management to find out what went wrong. Most probably, her part of the story should have been very severe as it resulted in the marching orders to you.
If you consider yourself genuinely blameless, which could be supported by eyewitnesses, you can fight it out. Otherwise, the choice is yours.
Kumar S.
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The very first thing I don't understand is why you came with this thread title "RESEARCH WHY."
Are you here to resolve your query, to get answers to your questions, or to know what is right and wrong after what has happened with you, or are you here to make research on these kinds of issues?
"You are here to know whether what your senior has done with you is right or wrong and how you can proceed now to save your job," so you must have come with a similar subject/title and not with "RESEARCH WHY."
I hope next time you will take care of that and consider these things while choosing your Thread/Discussion Topics.
Secondly, I agree with Mr. Khadir and Mr. Amit. This kind of issue can be sorted out easily without showing this unprofessional behavior that your employer/seniors have shown in your case.
A warning letter of MISCONDUCT according to the general procedure could have been issued to you or any employee found with this kind of act, but cannot be terminated. But if found with this kind of act/behavior again under the company/organization premises for two or more times even after issuing a Warning Letter, can be terminated without further warning or notice. In your case, there is nothing like that, therefore, they certainly have done wrong with you.
And this is not a Sexual Harassment case, not at all.
One more thing, Mr./Ms. Anshoo Kapoor, I would like to say here is that you must have control of yourself while talking to your Juniors as they are not just your juniors/trainees but new to the environment and have no experience and maturity at work like you have. Mistakes are expected from them as it is a learning time for them, being new and just have joined you. And if they are found with any mistake, it doesn't mean you have the right to treat them as you have done. (You have accepted above.)
Even it is your duty to handle these situations wisely and let your trainees/juniors know how they can prevent making mistakes, and you need to play a role of guide/mentor being a senior person.
Now back to your case, how many days have you not been continuing your services? And if they have not issued you any termination letter yet, you need to speak to them again and say sorry to your seniors, even to the girl whom you have wronged. The situation at the time of the act, we all can understand what has impacted your seniors, but now the time has passed, and you must visit them again. I'm sure this will work for you, and you can also set an example for others.
Do not make phone calls or speak to anyone in your company but need to make a direct visit and speak to your HR personnel first and later to your Senior/Boss/Supervisor.
From India, Gurgaon
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Are you here to resolve your query, to get answers to your questions, or to know what is right and wrong after what has happened with you, or are you here to make research on these kinds of issues?
"You are here to know whether what your senior has done with you is right or wrong and how you can proceed now to save your job," so you must have come with a similar subject/title and not with "RESEARCH WHY."
I hope next time you will take care of that and consider these things while choosing your Thread/Discussion Topics.
Secondly, I agree with Mr. Khadir and Mr. Amit. This kind of issue can be sorted out easily without showing this unprofessional behavior that your employer/seniors have shown in your case.
A warning letter of MISCONDUCT according to the general procedure could have been issued to you or any employee found with this kind of act, but cannot be terminated. But if found with this kind of act/behavior again under the company/organization premises for two or more times even after issuing a Warning Letter, can be terminated without further warning or notice. In your case, there is nothing like that, therefore, they certainly have done wrong with you.
And this is not a Sexual Harassment case, not at all.
One more thing, Mr./Ms. Anshoo Kapoor, I would like to say here is that you must have control of yourself while talking to your Juniors as they are not just your juniors/trainees but new to the environment and have no experience and maturity at work like you have. Mistakes are expected from them as it is a learning time for them, being new and just have joined you. And if they are found with any mistake, it doesn't mean you have the right to treat them as you have done. (You have accepted above.)
Even it is your duty to handle these situations wisely and let your trainees/juniors know how they can prevent making mistakes, and you need to play a role of guide/mentor being a senior person.
Now back to your case, how many days have you not been continuing your services? And if they have not issued you any termination letter yet, you need to speak to them again and say sorry to your seniors, even to the girl whom you have wronged. The situation at the time of the act, we all can understand what has impacted your seniors, but now the time has passed, and you must visit them again. I'm sure this will work for you, and you can also set an example for others.
Do not make phone calls or speak to anyone in your company but need to make a direct visit and speak to your HR personnel first and later to your Senior/Boss/Supervisor.
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Hi everyone,
Thank you for replying, but I am going to explain everything. It was the 12th of May, a Sunday afternoon. Everybody was on the floor, and sales were really not happening in our company. We had to attend to customers in turns; every other staff member was at 0 till the afternoon. My sales were around 44 thousand individually. So, my manager called me and told me to help others as well. I started by assisting a girl with attending to her customer, who ended up making a purchase worth 17 thousand. After a couple of more customers walked in, I tried to use my turn, but the girl came between us. I thought she was trying to help me, so I stepped back. These customers bought around 6 thousand worth of stuff. When I tried to process the bill, the girl staff snatched the clothes from me and rudely claimed the sale was hers. I told her we could discuss it later, but she refused to listen. I went ahead and processed the bill, thanking and apologizing to the customers. After they left, I held the girl's hand and suggested we discuss the matter outside. Later, my manager resolved the issue, and we all went home.
The next morning when I opened the store, my manager and regional manager came in and told me to leave for home. It had been a week, and they hadn't asked for any clarification. They asked for my resignation, reinstated the girl, and withheld my salary. Feeling upset, I submitted my resignation. After dedicating over 3 years to the company, being recognized as a star performer on multiple occasions, I don't understand why my manager is taking this situation so personally. He was the one who hired the girl, who also frequently called out. Please advise.
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Thank you for replying, but I am going to explain everything. It was the 12th of May, a Sunday afternoon. Everybody was on the floor, and sales were really not happening in our company. We had to attend to customers in turns; every other staff member was at 0 till the afternoon. My sales were around 44 thousand individually. So, my manager called me and told me to help others as well. I started by assisting a girl with attending to her customer, who ended up making a purchase worth 17 thousand. After a couple of more customers walked in, I tried to use my turn, but the girl came between us. I thought she was trying to help me, so I stepped back. These customers bought around 6 thousand worth of stuff. When I tried to process the bill, the girl staff snatched the clothes from me and rudely claimed the sale was hers. I told her we could discuss it later, but she refused to listen. I went ahead and processed the bill, thanking and apologizing to the customers. After they left, I held the girl's hand and suggested we discuss the matter outside. Later, my manager resolved the issue, and we all went home.
The next morning when I opened the store, my manager and regional manager came in and told me to leave for home. It had been a week, and they hadn't asked for any clarification. They asked for my resignation, reinstated the girl, and withheld my salary. Feeling upset, I submitted my resignation. After dedicating over 3 years to the company, being recognized as a star performer on multiple occasions, I don't understand why my manager is taking this situation so personally. He was the one who hired the girl, who also frequently called out. Please advise.
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Dear Mr. Anshoo Kapoor,
Why did you hold the girl's hand? Was it necessary for you? You were emotional, and it is not the right way to explain, especially to a female, because it is not acceptable under any circumstances due to our culture. Love your job, but not the company. Learn to live in the world of cut-throat competition and never think of doing good just to prove yourself good. The proverb "do good, be good" doesn't support this generation due to various reasons.
When an organization fails to recognize your talent and achievements, there is no use in offering your services to them. Move ahead in your life and search for a better job. Do not repeat this mistake in your life, and thank God for not being mistaken by the lady for holding her hand; otherwise, the situation would have been worse for you. Good luck.
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Why did you hold the girl's hand? Was it necessary for you? You were emotional, and it is not the right way to explain, especially to a female, because it is not acceptable under any circumstances due to our culture. Love your job, but not the company. Learn to live in the world of cut-throat competition and never think of doing good just to prove yourself good. The proverb "do good, be good" doesn't support this generation due to various reasons.
When an organization fails to recognize your talent and achievements, there is no use in offering your services to them. Move ahead in your life and search for a better job. Do not repeat this mistake in your life, and thank God for not being mistaken by the lady for holding her hand; otherwise, the situation would have been worse for you. Good luck.
With profound regards,
From India, Chennai
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Dear Anshoo, I agree with the points mentioned by Mr. Shaik. Also, work out on your behaviour and don’t react like this in future ever. Take it as a learning and move on. Good luck!!
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Dear (Mr.) Anshoo,
Yes, as I suspected, the picture is opening up. Anshoo indeed had physical contact with a lady colleague (holding her hand), and it has definitely been projected as sexual harassment. Anshoo has no case despite whatever defense he would have had legally. I'm sorry for him. Better luck next time, pal.
Kumar S.
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Yes, as I suspected, the picture is opening up. Anshoo indeed had physical contact with a lady colleague (holding her hand), and it has definitely been projected as sexual harassment. Anshoo has no case despite whatever defense he would have had legally. I'm sorry for him. Better luck next time, pal.
Kumar S.
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Dear Anshoo,
Sorry to hear about your plight. However, these things happen. Your statement "...because he appoints the girl staff and they go out very regularly..." seems to imply that the manager and the new appointee are familiar and meet regularly. Let me narrate a case in an American firm where a Vice President was relieved of his position after he had worked diligently and received excellent appraisals. Later, his job was given to a lady with whom his boss's boss was having an affair.
I take this opportunity to appeal to bloggers that we should provide all the information at the outset to avoid unnecessary discussions with half-knowledge of the scenario.
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Sorry to hear about your plight. However, these things happen. Your statement "...because he appoints the girl staff and they go out very regularly..." seems to imply that the manager and the new appointee are familiar and meet regularly. Let me narrate a case in an American firm where a Vice President was relieved of his position after he had worked diligently and received excellent appraisals. Later, his job was given to a lady with whom his boss's boss was having an affair.
I take this opportunity to appeal to bloggers that we should provide all the information at the outset to avoid unnecessary discussions with half-knowledge of the scenario.
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Hi, Please talk to you senior person first and understand the matter, before reacting on it. Regards, Alm.
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Dear Anshoo Kapoor, Are u working in spencers retail, which region. If you are in south region i can help you. Rgds JAAK
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Hello Anshoo Kapoor,
You didn't answer Anil Arora's query about why you chose the Subject as "RESEARCH WHY".
Based on what you mentioned in detail, you obviously made a mistake in 'holding her hand(s)'. Like Jana mentioned, such acts can be very easily misconstrued, misunderstood, or manipulated to imply sexual harassment, even though that may not have been your intention at all.
You mention that '.....girl staff did (not?) put any complaints......'. On many such occasions, complaints are not in written form. So how can you be so sure that she didn't complain? Obviously she did--else the response/reaction & the subsequent action of the manager the next morning would not be what it was. For all you know, she may be well-connected & the manager preferred her over you for that very reason--you know in India how such 'small' things matter a lot.
Coming to another aspect of the whole situation, your manager sent you to 'help others'. Which means that maybe he was trying to groom you as a Team Lead? And since you tried to prevent the girl from taking credit for the sale of 6,000, she could have complained verbally to the manager that you were sent to help her, but you attempted to take the credit for her sale--which, again, could have given an impression to the manager that you took advantage of what he instructed you. Does it sound possible?
Also, look at it this way: does the 6,000 sale make a lot of difference for you--after the stage you reached in your career?
Yet another way you could have handled the situation: instead of objecting when the girl snatches the clothes, you could have allowed her to punch the bill & waited for the customer to leave, before taking the matter to the manager & telling the girl the right way to behave--if both you & your manager think she has done wrong.
The very fact that you think that she behaved 'rudely' is proof that she is immature & needs to be corrected, but the 'how' & 'when' is what finally matters. But you too, frankly, didn't behave like a Team Lead/Senior should have.
Coming to 'what next'? Since you mentioned that you got quite a few awards too for your work here, just look for other jobs--you can definitely get one easily. Except that select those where reference checks of the current employer aren't there. Else, you know what can happen--unless you make peace with your manager or regional manager, whoever has to give the reference when the time comes.
And 'learn' from the mistake.
All the best.
Rgds,
TS
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You didn't answer Anil Arora's query about why you chose the Subject as "RESEARCH WHY".
Based on what you mentioned in detail, you obviously made a mistake in 'holding her hand(s)'. Like Jana mentioned, such acts can be very easily misconstrued, misunderstood, or manipulated to imply sexual harassment, even though that may not have been your intention at all.
You mention that '.....girl staff did (not?) put any complaints......'. On many such occasions, complaints are not in written form. So how can you be so sure that she didn't complain? Obviously she did--else the response/reaction & the subsequent action of the manager the next morning would not be what it was. For all you know, she may be well-connected & the manager preferred her over you for that very reason--you know in India how such 'small' things matter a lot.
Coming to another aspect of the whole situation, your manager sent you to 'help others'. Which means that maybe he was trying to groom you as a Team Lead? And since you tried to prevent the girl from taking credit for the sale of 6,000, she could have complained verbally to the manager that you were sent to help her, but you attempted to take the credit for her sale--which, again, could have given an impression to the manager that you took advantage of what he instructed you. Does it sound possible?
Also, look at it this way: does the 6,000 sale make a lot of difference for you--after the stage you reached in your career?
Yet another way you could have handled the situation: instead of objecting when the girl snatches the clothes, you could have allowed her to punch the bill & waited for the customer to leave, before taking the matter to the manager & telling the girl the right way to behave--if both you & your manager think she has done wrong.
The very fact that you think that she behaved 'rudely' is proof that she is immature & needs to be corrected, but the 'how' & 'when' is what finally matters. But you too, frankly, didn't behave like a Team Lead/Senior should have.
Coming to 'what next'? Since you mentioned that you got quite a few awards too for your work here, just look for other jobs--you can definitely get one easily. Except that select those where reference checks of the current employer aren't there. Else, you know what can happen--unless you make peace with your manager or regional manager, whoever has to give the reference when the time comes.
And 'learn' from the mistake.
All the best.
Rgds,
TS
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Dear Anshoo,
Keep your hands clean always because nobody will stand behind you in this type of scenario. Try to avoid personal intimacy with your subordinates. Just love your work.
Wishing you all the best.
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Keep your hands clean always because nobody will stand behind you in this type of scenario. Try to avoid personal intimacy with your subordinates. Just love your work.
Wishing you all the best.
From India, Calcutta
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I wonder what this word 'Costumer' means ! Is it a combination of Consumer Plus Customer.... One more new word to English Dictitionary...
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Dear Mr. Arora,
Please remember, while my typing can be classified under typographical error, 'Customer' occurs not once but umpteen times. I type at almost 80 words per minute, and hence, typos can occur. If knowingly you type a word repeatedly, I don't think you can call it a typographical error...!!!!!!!
Best wishes.
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Please remember, while my typing can be classified under typographical error, 'Customer' occurs not once but umpteen times. I type at almost 80 words per minute, and hence, typos can occur. If knowingly you type a word repeatedly, I don't think you can call it a typographical error...!!!!!!!
Best wishes.
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Hi, I am Samantha. I have a doubt, please help me. Recently, I got a job in a consultancy, and they gave me the designation of "relationship executive." I want to know if this designation is relevant to my job or not.
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Hello Kapoor,
Your senior can send you home without asking for justifications from you. That may be a temporary situation handling mechanism used to avoid unwanted consequences.
Secondly, it appears that it may not fall under any harassment-related act, but it may be advice from all that anyone needs to have control over their emotions at the workplace.
Thirdly, there is a lot of difference between sending you home and suspension or termination. Hopefully, it is not the latter of the two.
You may have a talk with your senior to settle down with these small matters, and in case of any complaint from a girl against you demanding justification from you, you may also call for witnesses.
So, nothing to worry much about if you have maintained your decorum at your workplace.
Instead of making it an issue, take a moment and amicably settle that off without dragging the matters.
Have a nice time.
From India, Bangalore
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Your senior can send you home without asking for justifications from you. That may be a temporary situation handling mechanism used to avoid unwanted consequences.
Secondly, it appears that it may not fall under any harassment-related act, but it may be advice from all that anyone needs to have control over their emotions at the workplace.
Thirdly, there is a lot of difference between sending you home and suspension or termination. Hopefully, it is not the latter of the two.
You may have a talk with your senior to settle down with these small matters, and in case of any complaint from a girl against you demanding justification from you, you may also call for witnesses.
So, nothing to worry much about if you have maintained your decorum at your workplace.
Instead of making it an issue, take a moment and amicably settle that off without dragging the matters.
Have a nice time.
From India, Bangalore
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Hi All,
My own advice to all after my observation and gathering of information in several companies regarding happenings of this nature is that male staff members at any cost should be extra careful with lady staff in any company while dealing with them in the office. I do not want to cite any cases I know of, but this is the only advice I can give to male staff members: any moment anything may happen, and the entire event may be wrongly or completely misinterpreted or extra fittings will be added. Always remember "prevention is more powerful than cure." Let Ashoo's case be an eye-opener. Sometimes "one minute of happiness will give you later hours of misery." Let your communication always be positive, polite, and purposeful. If anything goes wrong with a lady staff or she doesn't listen to you, always refer the matter to your higher authorities; let them make their own decision. And even when the decision is adverse to you, please accept it gracefully. Only time will tell you who is right or wrong. God is a great leveler, and certainly, you will have your day. I fully endorse S. Khdir's statement.
Kapil Dev, for example, who brought the first World Cup to India in cricket, was accused of taking a bribe of Rs. 25 lakhs to fix a cricket match. These allegations were made by a past president of BCCI. While giving an interview to BBC, Kapil Dev literally wept and cried before the camera and said he was innocent. I was one of those who was moved by that scene. Subsequently, it was proved he was not involved in match-fixing, and the person who accused him was sent to jail!
It was again Kapil Dev who started ICL with the noble intention of helping cricket players who could not get a chance to play for India and had no means of livelihood. Subsequently, BCCI threatened the players of ICL to quit it and started IPL, which has become a great success. But it was Kapil Dev's idea that was borrowed by BCCI! Very recently, all the past players were given a huge amount of money except Kapil! I personally feel that this great cricketer, who also received the "Best Cricketer of the Century" award from Wisden Cricket Club of England (of all the cricket players who played for 100 years, Kapil was considered the best player both on and off the field by the judges), would be suitably rewarded by God, putting BCCI to shame.
So have faith in yourself, let your communication be straightforward, polite, and positive. Always keep a distance from lady staff in the office as a matter of abundant precaution.
M.J. Subramanyam, Bangalore
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My own advice to all after my observation and gathering of information in several companies regarding happenings of this nature is that male staff members at any cost should be extra careful with lady staff in any company while dealing with them in the office. I do not want to cite any cases I know of, but this is the only advice I can give to male staff members: any moment anything may happen, and the entire event may be wrongly or completely misinterpreted or extra fittings will be added. Always remember "prevention is more powerful than cure." Let Ashoo's case be an eye-opener. Sometimes "one minute of happiness will give you later hours of misery." Let your communication always be positive, polite, and purposeful. If anything goes wrong with a lady staff or she doesn't listen to you, always refer the matter to your higher authorities; let them make their own decision. And even when the decision is adverse to you, please accept it gracefully. Only time will tell you who is right or wrong. God is a great leveler, and certainly, you will have your day. I fully endorse S. Khdir's statement.
Kapil Dev, for example, who brought the first World Cup to India in cricket, was accused of taking a bribe of Rs. 25 lakhs to fix a cricket match. These allegations were made by a past president of BCCI. While giving an interview to BBC, Kapil Dev literally wept and cried before the camera and said he was innocent. I was one of those who was moved by that scene. Subsequently, it was proved he was not involved in match-fixing, and the person who accused him was sent to jail!
It was again Kapil Dev who started ICL with the noble intention of helping cricket players who could not get a chance to play for India and had no means of livelihood. Subsequently, BCCI threatened the players of ICL to quit it and started IPL, which has become a great success. But it was Kapil Dev's idea that was borrowed by BCCI! Very recently, all the past players were given a huge amount of money except Kapil! I personally feel that this great cricketer, who also received the "Best Cricketer of the Century" award from Wisden Cricket Club of England (of all the cricket players who played for 100 years, Kapil was considered the best player both on and off the field by the judges), would be suitably rewarded by God, putting BCCI to shame.
So have faith in yourself, let your communication be straightforward, polite, and positive. Always keep a distance from lady staff in the office as a matter of abundant precaution.
M.J. Subramanyam, Bangalore
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You seem to be a pioneer of such experiences, aren't you, Mr. Subramanyam! Hehe... hahaha. But please keep in mind that they are only exceptions, regardless of gender. Colors may vary, but the painting remains the same. So, never generalize such issues.
Have a nice time.
From India, Bangalore
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Have a nice time.
From India, Bangalore
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Hey Anshoo, As a senior u thought it is ur right to be rude to ur subordinates??????????? Whats wrong if ur superiors also thought in ur lines n used their might? Think it over buddy.
From India, Jamnagar
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Dear M.J. Subramanyam,
It appears you are inexperienced and have not yet encountered such unpleasant life situations. However, my statement is based on the experiences of many people whom I have contacted and observed throughout my life. This is why I recount such incidents and write here. You should start observing people and situations more keenly and try to learn from such events. This will also help sharpen your intellect.
I witnessed a friend, a Vice President in a prestigious company, being dismissed (just 8 months ago) because he offered a suggestion to one of his female staff members regarding her attire, and this was done in private. It was a well-intentioned piece of advice from a fatherly figure to a daughter. Unfortunately, she exaggerated the situation, turning a molehill into a mountain, which ultimately led to the boss being asked to leave.
The sarcastic tone of your letter indicates a lack of emotional intelligence. I suggest experiencing life on a broader scale and revisiting my letter. Perhaps wisdom will dawn on you. It is always advisable to tread cautiously through life.
M.J. Subramanyam, Bangalore
From India, Bangalore
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It appears you are inexperienced and have not yet encountered such unpleasant life situations. However, my statement is based on the experiences of many people whom I have contacted and observed throughout my life. This is why I recount such incidents and write here. You should start observing people and situations more keenly and try to learn from such events. This will also help sharpen your intellect.
I witnessed a friend, a Vice President in a prestigious company, being dismissed (just 8 months ago) because he offered a suggestion to one of his female staff members regarding her attire, and this was done in private. It was a well-intentioned piece of advice from a fatherly figure to a daughter. Unfortunately, she exaggerated the situation, turning a molehill into a mountain, which ultimately led to the boss being asked to leave.
The sarcastic tone of your letter indicates a lack of emotional intelligence. I suggest experiencing life on a broader scale and revisiting my letter. Perhaps wisdom will dawn on you. It is always advisable to tread cautiously through life.
M.J. Subramanyam, Bangalore
From India, Bangalore
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Greetings of the day.
So far, Mr. Anshoo has received many answers/responses from experienced individuals and our seniors, which I believe are sufficient to guide him. Now, it is important to receive a response from the individual who permitted us to discuss this concern/problem. However, I have noticed that he has either lost interest or does not want to respond. Therefore, I kindly request him to provide a response.
Have a great day ahead.
From India, Gurgaon
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So far, Mr. Anshoo has received many answers/responses from experienced individuals and our seniors, which I believe are sufficient to guide him. Now, it is important to receive a response from the individual who permitted us to discuss this concern/problem. However, I have noticed that he has either lost interest or does not want to respond. Therefore, I kindly request him to provide a response.
Have a great day ahead.
From India, Gurgaon
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Hi Anil,
Thanks for the support. I would like BSSV to read about Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, World Bank President Paul Wolfowitz and his girlfriend Shaha Ali Ritz, etc., who lost their jobs/positions because of ladies!!
In India, we read in papers about Sri. N.D. Tiwari being asked to give blood samples under the direction of the Court. Then there were allegations about Sri. Abhishek Manu Singhvi. There are many such incidents happening in India and the world, and I do not want to mention them for obvious reasons.
But there is sufficient opportunity for us to learn from these. We can learn and increase our knowledge from these provided our mind antenna is kept always wide open.
M.J. SUBRAMANYAM, BANGALORE
From India, Bangalore
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Thanks for the support. I would like BSSV to read about Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, World Bank President Paul Wolfowitz and his girlfriend Shaha Ali Ritz, etc., who lost their jobs/positions because of ladies!!
In India, we read in papers about Sri. N.D. Tiwari being asked to give blood samples under the direction of the Court. Then there were allegations about Sri. Abhishek Manu Singhvi. There are many such incidents happening in India and the world, and I do not want to mention them for obvious reasons.
But there is sufficient opportunity for us to learn from these. We can learn and increase our knowledge from these provided our mind antenna is kept always wide open.
M.J. SUBRAMANYAM, BANGALORE
From India, Bangalore
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