You can try and convince your manager by showing evidence of family issues etc.
Company may not give you a choice if relocation is vital for them
You should be able to judge the importance of your move.
Otherwise start looking for change of job.
18th June 2016 From India, Pune
This is in addition to what Mr Nathrao has said.
Please note that postings are part and parcel of our career. In order to progress in one's career, one should strike balance between professional growth and family responsibility. India is highly family-centric country. Against this backdrop we cannot abdicate our filial or sororal or fraternal responsibilities. Nevertheless, career is also equally important. Following are the advantages of relocating to Bangalore:
a) From the career point of view, you could learning something new. Relocation will help you in your professional growth.
b) Bangalore is IT capital of India. Therefore, you will interact with large number of birds of your feather. This will improve your general knowledge of the IT industry as a whole. Above all, I have interacted with the IT professional spread across the India. They have opined that IT companies in Bangalore have far more professional atmosphere. Companies that have branches at other places too. However, the work atmosphere may not be world-class.
c) In the social context, you will come across with a different culture. Relocation will be departure from the homogeneous atmosphere that you could living in. Please note that exposure to diverse culture also builds personality. This exposure blunts unwarranted pride of one's culture.
On the opposite side, relocation could impose following challenges:
d) Separation from family members. If you have strong family affiliation then the relocation may make you distraught.
e) You might have to stay in Paying Guest (PG) accommodation. This demands changes in your daily routine or general lifely. If you are staying with family members then you could be relying on the supporting mechanism that elders have created. You will have to live without this mechanism.
f) Living in some other city increases expenditure. This additional expenditure could offset the increase in salary that your company may offer.
g) This is with respect to (e) above. Living in PG makes one lazy too. Once a habit of laziness is built, it is difficult to get rid of. The second problem is living in PG may convert you into a disorganised, lethargic person. This is also negative side-effect. However, this is only a possibility. If the habit of staying organised is deep-rooted in your personality, then relocation will not make you disorganised. On the contrary, you may become role model to other on staying organised.
With all said and done, I strongly recommend you for the relocation. As a third party or member of this forum, I can only help you in doing pros and cons analysis. Rest the decision is yours.
All the best!
19th June 2016 From India, Bangalore
Dineshji has given a very detailed reply and I fully agree with him.I would like to narrate my own experience.In the CPSU where I worked , there was a peculiar transfer policy.Men and women were recruited for the same positions with identical pay scales and appointment letters which stated that they would be transferred to any where as per company's requirement.However such women employees were never ever transferred unless they volunteered for it.But when it came to male employees they were compulsorily transferred for 1yr/3yrs.If someone had a very genuine domestic problem even then he was not spared and disciplinary proceedings were initiated against him if he did not accept transfer order.I fought on this gender based discrimination and took the fight right upto the CMD.However he side tracked the issue and I was warned not to pursue the matter any more.I do admit that I lacked the courage to take on a monolith CPSU single handedly(the union leaders were granted exemption and were in managements pocket !)
to court because frankly our legal redressal system can not be relied upon to give timely justice.
As a result during my career of three and half decades I was transferred to seven places.But having said all that I still feel that transfers broaden your understanding and one gets indepth knowledge of the job by facing different situations which a person sitting in one place will never get.Therefore accept the transfer even if it means some family hardship because in the long run it shall be immensely beneficial.
20th June 2016 From India, New Delhi
Transfers are apart of normal career.
You get to see new places,work atmosphere and experiences.
Armed forces people get transferred regularly and it is good for new blood to come in and rotate people from establishing roots in one place .
In many PSUs,people hang around in same place,same department and same table which creates nexus.
Transfer policy should be open and transparent and is vital for any organisation.
20th June 2016 From India, Pune
I fully agree with you.Transfer to a different pkace in different cultural surrounding is an experience in itself.For example the recent 'toppers scam' in Bihar is something I tasted thirty years ago.Nothing has changed since then so it seems ! I was transferred to many places in North-East and could closely observe the living condition of people over there and realised that its no wonder that insurgency thrived over there all these years.Only in last few years things have started changing but the malady has taken very deep roots.
21st June 2016 From India, New Delhi