I am a banker with 4 years of experience. Last week, one of my colleagues misbehaved with me. When I complained to the Branch Manager, he threatened me in front of others. I immediately sent an email to HR detailing the incident and requested them to accept my resignation, as well as waive my notice period. Shortly after, HR contacted me, asking me to stay calm. They mentioned that they will not accept my resignation but will take necessary actions against the employee. However, they did not provide any written confirmation.
I made it clear that I cannot return to work until some action is taken. It has been a week, and I have not received any updates from HR. Will I be considered as absconding since I technically resigned? Can I pursue legal action against my colleague and the organization to have my notice period waived? After this incident, I do not feel safe returning to work.
From India, New Delhi
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I made it clear that I cannot return to work until some action is taken. It has been a week, and I have not received any updates from HR. Will I be considered as absconding since I technically resigned? Can I pursue legal action against my colleague and the organization to have my notice period waived? After this incident, I do not feel safe returning to work.
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Dear Friend,
I believe there is much that is hidden from view. Any answers to the above questions will be vague. You need to answer the questions below first:
1. The person has said, "Meet me outside and I will show you" (now that you are outside and alone, he could harm you at any time).
2. Is the person so dangerous that you feel insecure?
3. What communication have you had in the last week with the BM and the HR?
4. Why did you wait a week before filing a police complaint, if you were so scared?
5. You have also been out of the office for a week. How do you know they have not taken any action against the colleague?
6. You sent an email to HR to accept your resignation. Why not to the BM, as he was in the office?
7. When you say "misbehaved," what exactly happened?
Answers to these questions will help us better understand the situation and assist you accordingly.
Regards,
From India, Mumbai
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274I believe there is much that is hidden from view. Any answers to the above questions will be vague. You need to answer the questions below first:
1. The person has said, "Meet me outside and I will show you" (now that you are outside and alone, he could harm you at any time).
2. Is the person so dangerous that you feel insecure?
3. What communication have you had in the last week with the BM and the HR?
4. Why did you wait a week before filing a police complaint, if you were so scared?
5. You have also been out of the office for a week. How do you know they have not taken any action against the colleague?
6. You sent an email to HR to accept your resignation. Why not to the BM, as he was in the office?
7. When you say "misbehaved," what exactly happened?
Answers to these questions will help us better understand the situation and assist you accordingly.
Regards,
From India, Mumbai
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Dear friend,
You have written, "Last week one of my colleagues misbehaved with me, and when I complained to the BM, he threatened me to see outside in front of others." Therefore, instead of taking action against the person who misbehaved with you, why did the BM threaten you in a manner that suits a leader of a crime syndicate? What exactly happened in your meeting with your BM? Have you provided us with all the necessary information?
In a fit of annoyance, you took the drastic step of tendering your resignation. HR's action was correct in advising you to calm down, and further clarification was given that they were not accepting the resignation. Even then, why did this not calm your temper?
Your post indicates a desire for retaliation with intensity equal to that of your colleague or even the BM. Therefore, the right decision would be to resume your duties immediately. If your company interprets your absence as an abandonment of your duties and decides to terminate your employment, it would be a significant loss for you. With just one incident of workplace conflict, risking your employment or even your career would be the height of imprudence.
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Dinesh Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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You have written, "Last week one of my colleagues misbehaved with me, and when I complained to the BM, he threatened me to see outside in front of others." Therefore, instead of taking action against the person who misbehaved with you, why did the BM threaten you in a manner that suits a leader of a crime syndicate? What exactly happened in your meeting with your BM? Have you provided us with all the necessary information?
In a fit of annoyance, you took the drastic step of tendering your resignation. HR's action was correct in advising you to calm down, and further clarification was given that they were not accepting the resignation. Even then, why did this not calm your temper?
Your post indicates a desire for retaliation with intensity equal to that of your colleague or even the BM. Therefore, the right decision would be to resume your duties immediately. If your company interprets your absence as an abandonment of your duties and decides to terminate your employment, it would be a significant loss for you. With just one incident of workplace conflict, risking your employment or even your career would be the height of imprudence.
Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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Dear sir,
The person has an attitude problem. He used to behave improperly and pass comments on anybody in the office. He is always into gossiping, and one senior supports him. He is my backup and always a mess creator in one way or another, tries to put his work on me. Because of this, there have been arguments many times between us, and I had reported the same to HR. But he was just issued an oral warning.
This time also, he misbehaved by arguing and talking aloud. I took the matter to BM's cabin, and it was he who started panicking and threatening as soon as he entered the cabin. Everybody was there, but nobody replied to this. I came out and marked an email to HR. I am at home but have not received any call from HR. On Thursday, I called HR to ask about the status, on which they said they will update. I have put my resignation cc to my Gmail id so that I receive a response on my personal mail.
I have not yet filed an FIR since the same has happened in the office, and HR has assured me verbally that they will take action. Further, my query is, can I leave the organization without serving the notice period? Because after this incident, I feel that the organization is not capable of maintaining proper work culture and acting to preserve employee security. No longer do I have trust in my senior that they will be able to deal with such a situation if it arises in the future. Furthermore, it's affecting my morale, and I am mentally harassed due to such humiliation.
From India, New Delhi
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The person has an attitude problem. He used to behave improperly and pass comments on anybody in the office. He is always into gossiping, and one senior supports him. He is my backup and always a mess creator in one way or another, tries to put his work on me. Because of this, there have been arguments many times between us, and I had reported the same to HR. But he was just issued an oral warning.
This time also, he misbehaved by arguing and talking aloud. I took the matter to BM's cabin, and it was he who started panicking and threatening as soon as he entered the cabin. Everybody was there, but nobody replied to this. I came out and marked an email to HR. I am at home but have not received any call from HR. On Thursday, I called HR to ask about the status, on which they said they will update. I have put my resignation cc to my Gmail id so that I receive a response on my personal mail.
I have not yet filed an FIR since the same has happened in the office, and HR has assured me verbally that they will take action. Further, my query is, can I leave the organization without serving the notice period? Because after this incident, I feel that the organization is not capable of maintaining proper work culture and acting to preserve employee security. No longer do I have trust in my senior that they will be able to deal with such a situation if it arises in the future. Furthermore, it's affecting my morale, and I am mentally harassed due to such humiliation.
From India, New Delhi
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Dear Dinesh sir,
Thank you for your review, but I am unable to explain clearly. The guy who threatened me was my colleague, not the BM. As far as my concern to join the organization, my office is quite far away from my home, and I am the only female employee there. Furthermore, this is not the only incidence of misbehavior by the same employee. In the past, I have raised concerns with HR and my BM, but every time, only oral warnings were issued. He has also misbehaved with other coworkers as well, but nobody complains as he has personal relations with someone in management. Since this time he has crossed the limits, and I feel insulted and humiliated by this behavior, I have taken this step. Request you to please guide me about the steps that should be taken by me, or shall I wait for HR to respond.
Thank you.
From India, New Delhi
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Thank you for your review, but I am unable to explain clearly. The guy who threatened me was my colleague, not the BM. As far as my concern to join the organization, my office is quite far away from my home, and I am the only female employee there. Furthermore, this is not the only incidence of misbehavior by the same employee. In the past, I have raised concerns with HR and my BM, but every time, only oral warnings were issued. He has also misbehaved with other coworkers as well, but nobody complains as he has personal relations with someone in management. Since this time he has crossed the limits, and I feel insulted and humiliated by this behavior, I have taken this step. Request you to please guide me about the steps that should be taken by me, or shall I wait for HR to respond.
Thank you.
From India, New Delhi
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It is surprising that you have lost faith in the organization but trust the verbal confirmation of a staff. Also, if it is really so troublesome, then running away will only boost his arrogance. So, my advice is to file an FIR with the police station. Moreover, the company has every right to ask you to hand over in a proper manner and in a controlled environment. You can request to waive off the notice period but cannot demand it. The person has not done anything that he said in the past week, so he seems to be all talk. A police complaint will keep him and someone in the management in their place.
I feel that by running away, you are proving that he was right and you are wrong. Stand and fight back, take the legal resources available to you. Just saying that you are insecure will not help. Stop thinking that you are weak and cannot confront a person with high connections. Let it all out; anyway, you have resigned and seem not to care at all in this regard, whether you keep the job or not. So go all out and teach that monster (in your words) a lesson.
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From India, Mumbai
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I feel that by running away, you are proving that he was right and you are wrong. Stand and fight back, take the legal resources available to you. Just saying that you are insecure will not help. Stop thinking that you are weak and cannot confront a person with high connections. Let it all out; anyway, you have resigned and seem not to care at all in this regard, whether you keep the job or not. So go all out and teach that monster (in your words) a lesson.
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From India, Mumbai
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Dear Lavi,
My reply is to your third post (Sl. No. 5). If there was a series of bad behavior, especially towards multiple employees, all of you could have filed a joint application to HR. If the oral warning had no impact, then all of you could have escalated the issue to the GM of the company. If that also did not yield results, you could have approached the MD of the company. Why did you not escalate the matter following the hierarchy of the organization?
If your colleague repeatedly misbehaves with you and neither the Branch Manager (BM) nor HR takes any conclusive action, it can be frustrating. In a moment of frustration, if you put in your resignation and stop reporting for duty, HR may construe it as unauthorized absence and may initiate disciplinary action against you. Instead of your wayward colleague, you could end up bearing the brunt.
I recommend going to the Head Office (HO) and personally speaking with senior management professionals like the VP, Director, or the MD. Request a change of branch. Partially, your BM, with his laissez-faire leadership style, is also responsible for aggravating the situation. With timely feedback to HO, the delinquent employee could have been held accountable, but that has not happened.
In your post, you mentioned, "my office is quite far away from my home, and I am the only female employee there." The distance between your office and home, as well as your gender, are not relevant issues in this case.
Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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My reply is to your third post (Sl. No. 5). If there was a series of bad behavior, especially towards multiple employees, all of you could have filed a joint application to HR. If the oral warning had no impact, then all of you could have escalated the issue to the GM of the company. If that also did not yield results, you could have approached the MD of the company. Why did you not escalate the matter following the hierarchy of the organization?
If your colleague repeatedly misbehaves with you and neither the Branch Manager (BM) nor HR takes any conclusive action, it can be frustrating. In a moment of frustration, if you put in your resignation and stop reporting for duty, HR may construe it as unauthorized absence and may initiate disciplinary action against you. Instead of your wayward colleague, you could end up bearing the brunt.
I recommend going to the Head Office (HO) and personally speaking with senior management professionals like the VP, Director, or the MD. Request a change of branch. Partially, your BM, with his laissez-faire leadership style, is also responsible for aggravating the situation. With timely feedback to HO, the delinquent employee could have been held accountable, but that has not happened.
In your post, you mentioned, "my office is quite far away from my home, and I am the only female employee there." The distance between your office and home, as well as your gender, are not relevant issues in this case.
Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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Thanks to Dinesh Sir and Ashutosh Sir for your valuable replies. What I extracted from the replies is that I should join back and file a complaint against him. Since I already told you that he has good terms with management personnel, I am sure that once I resume, action will be taken against him and it will boost his arrogance. As earlier, he has made a statement when I complained about him last time that "jo karna h karo, mera kuch ni hoga" and on every argument, he says "mark kar lo mail." It's very humiliating to live in this type of environment and very mentally stressed, and this time, this has come to the level of self-respect.
I am with this organization for the past 1.9 years, and I have never faced any problems with my previous employers in the same industry. This is a small bank with no clarified policies on many matters. I am feeling insignificant after this incident. I really wanted to quit; can there be any way in which I can take my experience letter and the organization relieves me.
From India, New Delhi
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I am with this organization for the past 1.9 years, and I have never faced any problems with my previous employers in the same industry. This is a small bank with no clarified policies on many matters. I am feeling insignificant after this incident. I really wanted to quit; can there be any way in which I can take my experience letter and the organization relieves me.
From India, New Delhi
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Dear member,
This is a reply to the Post Sl. No. 8 of this thread. Overall, from the description in your post, it can be inferred that it is an unprofessional company. If you had already completed 1.9 years, you could have shown a little more patience and allowed two years to complete before looking for a new job.
Needy employees are expected to show patience or swallow their pride and continue. When the time comes, they can quit. Even now, you may go back and rejoin. The person who has some internal connection may take potshots at you, but ignore them. Concentrate on your work and then quit.
If you deem it appropriate, you may write a letter to the MD of the company. However, you need to support it with evidence. When this arrogant person shows arrogance, try recording his voice on your mobile. This audio file could serve as impeccable evidence to show his arrogance.
Nevertheless, these types of persons do not thrive without support from the top-most management. Therefore, check how much support this person has from the top management.
Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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This is a reply to the Post Sl. No. 8 of this thread. Overall, from the description in your post, it can be inferred that it is an unprofessional company. If you had already completed 1.9 years, you could have shown a little more patience and allowed two years to complete before looking for a new job.
Needy employees are expected to show patience or swallow their pride and continue. When the time comes, they can quit. Even now, you may go back and rejoin. The person who has some internal connection may take potshots at you, but ignore them. Concentrate on your work and then quit.
If you deem it appropriate, you may write a letter to the MD of the company. However, you need to support it with evidence. When this arrogant person shows arrogance, try recording his voice on your mobile. This audio file could serve as impeccable evidence to show his arrogance.
Nevertheless, these types of persons do not thrive without support from the top-most management. Therefore, check how much support this person has from the top management.
Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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