A Hindu saint who was visiting the river Ganges to take a bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples, smiled, and asked, "Why do people shout in anger at each other?"
The disciples thought for a while. One of them said, "Because we lose our calm, we shout."
"But why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner," asked the saint.
The disciples gave some other answers, but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally, the saint explained, "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance, they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.
What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small."
The saint continued, "When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper, and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally, they even need not whisper; they only look at each other, and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."
He looked at his disciples and said, "So when you argue, do not let your hearts get distant. Do not say words that distance each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return."
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9The disciples thought for a while. One of them said, "Because we lose our calm, we shout."
"But why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner," asked the saint.
The disciples gave some other answers, but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally, the saint explained, "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance, they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.
What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small."
The saint continued, "When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper, and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally, they even need not whisper; they only look at each other, and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."
He looked at his disciples and said, "So when you argue, do not let your hearts get distant. Do not say words that distance each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return."
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Pramod
From India, New Delhi
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Hi Pramod, It is an excellent post. Message is LOVE / AFFECTION brings people and hearts closer. Out bursts of anger distances people and their hearts. thanks for the post, V.Raghunathan
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It is a very nice parable signifying the futility of anger which, in due course, metamorphoses slowly into hatred, and eventually, the distance between the hearts becomes unbridgeable! That's why the great Tamil poet of the Sangam era, Thiruvalluvar, says, "Very bad is anger where you can't have it, and nothing is worse than anger even where you can have it!" If we analyze deeply, we will find that the source of anger is always our inability.
A Zen Parable on Anger
A temperamental Samurai known for his mood swings and talkativeness called on a Zen Master and started asking many irrelevant questions about hell and heaven but refuted every answer given by the Master. At one point in time, the Master stopped answering, closed his eyes, and started meditating. The Samurai, as usual, lost his temper, unsheathed his sword, and shouted at the Master, "If you don't answer, I will kill you. Tell me, what is hell?" The Master calmly looked at him and said, "This is hell." The Samurai understood the hint, threw away the sword, fell at the feet of the Master, and asked for his forgiveness. The Master smilingly said, "This is heaven!"
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A Zen Parable on Anger
A temperamental Samurai known for his mood swings and talkativeness called on a Zen Master and started asking many irrelevant questions about hell and heaven but refuted every answer given by the Master. At one point in time, the Master stopped answering, closed his eyes, and started meditating. The Samurai, as usual, lost his temper, unsheathed his sword, and shouted at the Master, "If you don't answer, I will kill you. Tell me, what is hell?" The Master calmly looked at him and said, "This is hell." The Samurai understood the hint, threw away the sword, fell at the feet of the Master, and asked for his forgiveness. The Master smilingly said, "This is heaven!"
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Thanks for this statement. It is an eye-opening, spiritual explanation of why we get angry with others, no matter how close the relationship may be, even between husband and wife, and parents and children. I appreciate this piece of knowledge. I used to think that anger is a manifestation of our weakness, an inability to explain our viewpoint, and a distrust of the other person's perspective. Anyhow, thanks again.
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Mahavir Mittal
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Mahavir Mittal
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Thanks for sharing this. Nowadays, people are in such a hurry to reach their destination. Many people don't have the patience to listen to others; some argue that whatever they say is right, even if it is wrong. For such kind of people, this is an eye-opening message.
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Ashwini S.K.
From India, Dharwad
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Ashwini S.K.
From India, Dharwad
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