My dear Friends,
Experts in medicine and psychology time and again warn us not to get angry. Anger is called by them as negative, and it affects our nerve system, they say.
Several Indian saints and sages have talked much about the evils of anger, and spirituality pertaining to all religions teaches us the ways and means to control it.
However, friends, anger is one of the essential emotions required in our three arenas of life: domestic, social, and official. By calling anger destructive, we tend to set aside the constructive aspects of anger. Fire cannot be banished as bad as it burns everything. Knives cannot be banned altogether as they are used for cutting. Everything depends on how and why we use it. Motive is more important than the results. Good and bad do exist together in this world. By using the sixth sense, one should handle everything wisely. Even poison is used as a panacea. So is the case with anger!
A Sadhu who is known for his patience and endurance became wild when one of his disciples made a mistake. An onlooker became shell-shocked at this unusual behavior of the Sadhu and asked, "Swamiji, how can you shout like this out of anger when you must set an example for us to follow?" The Sadhu just smiled and replied, "Beta, Anger is a fire. Is not fire required to burn down the rubbish? I burnt down what is not wanted in my disciple's mind."
Listen to this other story told by Swamy Dhayanand Saraswathi. A man came to him and said, "Swamiji, I have given up the bad habit of getting angry." Swamiji smiled and replied, "Is it so? Good, but that is not possible." "No, Swamiji, you ask my people. I spent nearly one month in solitude to tame my mind so that I can avoid anger creeping in." Again Swamiji repeated, "No, it's not possible." The man persisted, "No, Swamiji, you can take it from me, I can remain cool and composed even when provoked." To this, Swamiji replied in a stern voice, "Listen, you cannot avoid anger. Go away from here now, don't tell me what is not possible for you." "You bloody old nut, in spite of my telling you about my practice of not getting angry, you belittle my efforts and affront me in front of all these ladies," yelled back the man. Swamiji simply smiled – so did the devotees around Him. The man became embarrassed. He didn't know that he had become angry at all! Swamiji told him, putting his hand on the man's shoulder, "you see, anger is an accident and not an incident. Those who sense it in advance are wise and clever, those who realize that they are in anger and move away from the spot are intelligent, and those who repent for what they did in anger later on are fools."
When we use anger as a weapon with complete awareness - that is, there should be heat and not fire - we achieve many things. Especially those who are in managerial cadre handling human minds should definitely have this skill of using this weapon carefully. This twin-edged weapon can and should be used to guide and goad the erring employees, those who flout rules and regulations, who are in the habit of committing repeated mistakes, and to establish discipline in the organization.
This Anger-Weapon should be used with a fair motive and for a specific good purpose. We must see that no residual effect should be there in our minds. When it is used rightly, there will never be any ill feeling and rancor. As told by Lord Krishna in Gita, use this weapon with vairagya, that is without ego or doership.
Those who get angry always are hated.
Those who get angry unnecessarily are neglected.
Those who get angry with a reason are respected.
All the best.
Ganesh Ramachandran
From India, Tiruppur
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179Experts in medicine and psychology time and again warn us not to get angry. Anger is called by them as negative, and it affects our nerve system, they say.
Several Indian saints and sages have talked much about the evils of anger, and spirituality pertaining to all religions teaches us the ways and means to control it.
However, friends, anger is one of the essential emotions required in our three arenas of life: domestic, social, and official. By calling anger destructive, we tend to set aside the constructive aspects of anger. Fire cannot be banished as bad as it burns everything. Knives cannot be banned altogether as they are used for cutting. Everything depends on how and why we use it. Motive is more important than the results. Good and bad do exist together in this world. By using the sixth sense, one should handle everything wisely. Even poison is used as a panacea. So is the case with anger!
A Sadhu who is known for his patience and endurance became wild when one of his disciples made a mistake. An onlooker became shell-shocked at this unusual behavior of the Sadhu and asked, "Swamiji, how can you shout like this out of anger when you must set an example for us to follow?" The Sadhu just smiled and replied, "Beta, Anger is a fire. Is not fire required to burn down the rubbish? I burnt down what is not wanted in my disciple's mind."
Listen to this other story told by Swamy Dhayanand Saraswathi. A man came to him and said, "Swamiji, I have given up the bad habit of getting angry." Swamiji smiled and replied, "Is it so? Good, but that is not possible." "No, Swamiji, you ask my people. I spent nearly one month in solitude to tame my mind so that I can avoid anger creeping in." Again Swamiji repeated, "No, it's not possible." The man persisted, "No, Swamiji, you can take it from me, I can remain cool and composed even when provoked." To this, Swamiji replied in a stern voice, "Listen, you cannot avoid anger. Go away from here now, don't tell me what is not possible for you." "You bloody old nut, in spite of my telling you about my practice of not getting angry, you belittle my efforts and affront me in front of all these ladies," yelled back the man. Swamiji simply smiled – so did the devotees around Him. The man became embarrassed. He didn't know that he had become angry at all! Swamiji told him, putting his hand on the man's shoulder, "you see, anger is an accident and not an incident. Those who sense it in advance are wise and clever, those who realize that they are in anger and move away from the spot are intelligent, and those who repent for what they did in anger later on are fools."
When we use anger as a weapon with complete awareness - that is, there should be heat and not fire - we achieve many things. Especially those who are in managerial cadre handling human minds should definitely have this skill of using this weapon carefully. This twin-edged weapon can and should be used to guide and goad the erring employees, those who flout rules and regulations, who are in the habit of committing repeated mistakes, and to establish discipline in the organization.
This Anger-Weapon should be used with a fair motive and for a specific good purpose. We must see that no residual effect should be there in our minds. When it is used rightly, there will never be any ill feeling and rancor. As told by Lord Krishna in Gita, use this weapon with vairagya, that is without ego or doership.
Those who get angry always are hated.
Those who get angry unnecessarily are neglected.
Those who get angry with a reason are respected.
All the best.
Ganesh Ramachandran
From India, Tiruppur
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Thank you for your "express" reply, Sir. My humble request is that you please avoid the word "control" - when you control, your mind will tend to resist. Use anger usefully instead.
Respects and regards,
Ganesh
From India, Tiruppur
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Respects and regards,
Ganesh
From India, Tiruppur
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