Being Happy: 17 Timeless Secrets of Happy People
By Donald Latumahina, July 23, 2008
[IMG]http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3282/2462608262_6c2048beab_m.jpg[/IMG] So I studied what the great minds in history say about being happy. I went through hundreds of quotes on being happy and extracted the best lessons out of them. Not only are these lessons useful, they are also timeless in nature.
Here I’d like to share what I learned with you. Without further ado, here are 17 timeless secrets of happy people:
1. Forget the past
2. Take responsibility for your life
But, as the quote above says, freedom takes courage. Freedom to choose requires the courage to take responsibility for your life. You shouldn’t blame someone else when something goes wrong. Take the responsibility and you have the power to choose.
3. Build relationships
4. Develop multiple passions
The key to expanding to new passions is curiosity. If you are curious, you will have an endless stream of exciting things waiting for you.
5. Build your character
The way to start building character is by making promises and keeping them. For example, you make promise to yourself that you won’t smoke. When you keep it, you are building your character. Or you make promise to others to be punctual. When you keep it, you build your character.
6. Be who you are
7. Live your life purpose
8. Count your blessings
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9. Have positive mind
10. Work creatively
11. Start with what you have
12. Change
13. Use your talents
14. Beware of small things
15. Distill your ambitions
16. Make others happy
17. Practice compassion
But of course, it requires practice. Start with thinking about the people around you. Look at their needs and find ways to meet them. Even if you don’t do it out of compassion in the beginning, your compassion will grow over time.
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All in all, this quote by Aristotle can summarize the lessons above:
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41By Donald Latumahina, July 23, 2008
Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.There are many ways for people to be unhappy, but happy people have common characteristics. That’s why a good way to be happy is to learn the common characteristics of happy people and apply them.
Leo Tolstoy
[IMG]http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3282/2462608262_6c2048beab_m.jpg[/IMG] So I studied what the great minds in history say about being happy. I went through hundreds of quotes on being happy and extracted the best lessons out of them. Not only are these lessons useful, they are also timeless in nature.
Here I’d like to share what I learned with you. Without further ado, here are 17 timeless secrets of happy people:
1. Forget the past
One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory.You won’t be happy if you carry the burden of the past. Did you make mistakes? Did you have terrible experiences? Whatever they are, you should let them go. There’s nothing you can do about the past, so you’d better let them go and focus your energy on the present.
Rita Mae Brown
2. Take responsibility for your life
The secret of Happiness is Freedom, and the secret of Freedom, Courage.To be happy you should have freedom and the most essential freedom is the freedom to choose. No matter how bad a situation is, you can always choose how you respond to it. People can annoy you, but it’s up to you whether or not you will resent.
Thucydides
But, as the quote above says, freedom takes courage. Freedom to choose requires the courage to take responsibility for your life. You shouldn’t blame someone else when something goes wrong. Take the responsibility and you have the power to choose.
3. Build relationships
Life’s truest happiness is found in friendships we make along the way.Relationships is where we can get true happiness in life. The reason is simple: only through relationships can we love and be loved. Make relationships your top priority and you are on your way to true happiness.
Unknown
4. Develop multiple passions
The more passions and desires one has, the more ways one has of being happy.Passions lead you to happiness. So not only should you discover your multiple passions, you should also expand yourself to new passions. This way you will create new ways to happiness.
Charlotte-Catherine
The key to expanding to new passions is curiosity. If you are curious, you will have an endless stream of exciting things waiting for you.
5. Build your character
Character is the basis of happiness and happiness the sanction of character.Building your character is essential for happiness. When you are true to yourself and others, you will be in peace.
George Santayana
The way to start building character is by making promises and keeping them. For example, you make promise to yourself that you won’t smoke. When you keep it, you are building your character. Or you make promise to others to be punctual. When you keep it, you build your character.
6. Be who you are
The summit of happiness is reached when a person is ready to be what he is.You can only be happy if you become who you are. Don’t live other people’s life by trying to meet their expectations. People may expect you to have certain job or certain way of living but don’t be intimidated by them. Find who you are and be yourself.
Desiderius Erasmus
7. Live your life purpose
The only true happiness comes from squandering ourselves for a purpose.To have a fulfilling life, you should find your life purpose and follow it faithfully. Find what matters to you and build the courage to follow it. Having a one-liner will help you internalize and communicate your mission.
William Cowper
8. Count your blessings
Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have.Being happy is easy if we are grateful. Unfortunately, seeing what we don’t have is often easier than seeing what we have. Sometimes we need to experience loss before appreciating what we have. So don’t take things for granted. Look at what you have and soon you will have plenty of reasons to be happy. You may start with these simple things.
Unknown
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9. Have positive mind
It is not the place, nor the condition, but the mind alone that can make anyone happy or miserable.Happy people know how to control their mind. They don’t let negative thoughts come in. While a situation may seem bad to others, happy people look at them in a positive way. They always believe that no matter how bad a situation seems, there is always something positive to take from it. Your mind can make or break you, so guard it well.
Roger L’Estrange
10. Work creatively
Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort.When you work creatively on something you will find happiness. There is a well-known phenomenon regarding this called flow. When you are in the state of flow, you are fully focused on the task at hand that you no longer realize the passage of time. This state of flow allows you to achieve high productivity and being happy at the same time. Here are some tips to achieve it.
Franklin D. Roosevelt
11. Start with what you have
The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.Happy people don’t need something they don’t have to be happy. They don’t need certain job or certain level of income. Instead, they learn to be happy with what they already have. They have learned the art of contentment. Be content with what you have and you will be happy.
James Oppenheim
12. Change
They must often change who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.Being happy requires you to constantly grow. In fact, the process of learning itself is essential for happiness. Have you ever felt the excitement of being enlightened about something? Have you ever felt the excitement of achieving a new level in life? Top 10 Things You Should Change in Your Life gives you some practical tips on changing your life.
Confucius
13. Use your talents
True happiness involves the full use of one’s power and talents.There are two lessons to take from this quote. First, you should find your talents and second, you should use them to the fullest. Working in your talents is a sure way to enjoy your work because it’s something you are “hardwired” to do. Using your talents fully will make you even happier because of the satisfaction of doing your best.
Douglas Pagels
14. Beware of small things
The happiness of most people we know is not ruined by great catastrophes or fatal errors, but by the repetition of slowly destructive little things.This is very true. Often it’s not big things that ruin your happiness. It’s the small things that do. Perhaps you don’t like someone or break some “small” promises. But even small leaks can sink your ship of happiness, so beware of them.
Ernest Dimnet
15. Distill your ambitions
Where ambition ends happiness begins.While wanting to achieve more in your life is good, being obsessed by it is not. Do your best to improve yourself but don’t be obsessed by it.
Author Unknown
16. Make others happy
Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.This is my favorite secret of happiness. The way to being happy is to make others happy first. The more you help other people and make them happy, the more you will be happy. Happiness doesn’t come through selfishness but through selflessness. You reap what you sow.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
17. Practice compassion
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.Compassion is perhaps the highest level of selflessness we could have. As this quote aptly says, practicing compassion can make both others and you happy.
The Dalai Lama
But of course, it requires practice. Start with thinking about the people around you. Look at their needs and find ways to meet them. Even if you don’t do it out of compassion in the beginning, your compassion will grow over time.
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All in all, this quote by Aristotle can summarize the lessons above:
Happiness depends upon ourselves.I choose to be happy. What about you?
It’s you who decide whether or not you are happy in life.
Regards
Shabbar Suterwala
www.LeaderWorkshop.5u.com/ <link updated to site home> ( Search On Cite | Search On Google ) Leader Workshop Website
http://shabbarsuterwala.blogspot.com/ Pearls of wisdom
http://leaders-workshop.blogspot.com/ Inspirational & Motivational Videos & Presentations
http://time-managementor.blogspot.com/ Time Management Tips, Tricks & Suggestions
http://training-and-trainers.blogspot.com/ International Trainers & their Sharing
http://nlp-sharing.blogspot.com/ NLP stuff and video
http://seeandgetinspired.blogspot.com/ Inspirational & Motivational Posters
http://bust-the-stress.blogspot.com/ Bust the Stress - Stress Busters
http://earn-lot-of-money.blogspot.com/ Earn a lot of Money
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