Dear (Mr.) Anshoo,
Yes, as I suspected the picture is opening up. Anshoo indeed had physical contact with a lady colleague (holding her hand) and it definitely has been projected as sexual harassment. Anshoo has no case despite whatever defense he would have had legally. I'm sorry for him. Better luck next time pal.
kumar.s.
From India, Bangalore
362Yes, as I suspected the picture is opening up. Anshoo indeed had physical contact with a lady colleague (holding her hand) and it definitely has been projected as sexual harassment. Anshoo has no case despite whatever defense he would have had legally. I'm sorry for him. Better luck next time pal.
kumar.s.
From India, Bangalore
Dear Anshoo,
Sorry to hear about your plight. However these things happen. Your statement "..bcoz he appoint the girl staff and they goes out also very regular .." seems to imply that the manager and the new appointee are familiar and meet regularly. Let me narrate a case in a American firm where a Vice President was relieved of his postion after he had worked like anything and had received Excellent appraisals. Later, his job was given to a lady with whom his bosses boss was having affairs.
I take this opportunity to appeal to bloggers that we should give all the information at the outset, to avoid unnecessary discussions with half knowledge of the scenario.
From United Kingdom
Sorry to hear about your plight. However these things happen. Your statement "..bcoz he appoint the girl staff and they goes out also very regular .." seems to imply that the manager and the new appointee are familiar and meet regularly. Let me narrate a case in a American firm where a Vice President was relieved of his postion after he had worked like anything and had received Excellent appraisals. Later, his job was given to a lady with whom his bosses boss was having affairs.
I take this opportunity to appeal to bloggers that we should give all the information at the outset, to avoid unnecessary discussions with half knowledge of the scenario.
From United Kingdom
Hi, Please talk to you senior person first and understand the matter, before reacting on it. Regards, Alm.
From India, Mumbai
From India, Mumbai
Dear Anshoo Kapoor, Are u working in spencers retail, which region. If you are in south region i can help you. Rgds JAAK
From India, Karur
From India, Karur
Hello Anshoo Kapoor,
You didn't answer Anil Arora's query about why you chose the Subject as "RESEARCH WHY".
Based on what you mentioned in detail, you obviously did a mistake in 'holding her hand(s)'. Like Jana mentioned, such acts can be very easily misconstrued/misunderstood/manipulated to imply sexual harassment, even though that may not have been your intention at all.
You mention that '.....girl staff did (not?) put any complaints......'. On many such occasions, complaints are NOT in written form. So how can you be so sure that she didn't complain? Obviously she did--else the response/reaction & the subsequent action of the manager the next morning would not be what it was. For all you know, she may be well-connected & the manager preferred her over you for that very reason--you know in India how such 'small' things matter a lot.
Coming to another aspect of the whole situation, your manager sent you to 'help others'. Which means that maybe he was trying to groom you as a Team Lead? And since you tried to prevent the girl to take credit for the sale of 6,000, she COULD have complained verbally to the manager that you were sent to help her, but you attempted to take the credit for HER sale--which, again, COULD have given an impression to the manager that you took advantage of what he instructed you? Does it sound possible?
Also, look @ it this way: does the 6,000 sale make a lot of difference for you--after the stage you reached in your career?
Yet another way you COULD have handled the situation: instead of objecting when the girl snatches the clothes, you could have allowed her to punch the bill & waited for the customer to leave, before taking the matter to the manager & telling the girl the right way to behave--if both you & your manager think she has done wrong.
The very fact that YOU think that she behaved 'rudely' is a proof that she is immature & needs to be corrected, but the 'how' & 'when' is what finally matters. But you too, frankly, didn't behave like a Team Lead/Senior should have.
Coming to 'what next'? Since you mentioned that you got quite a few Awards too for your work here, just look for other jobs--you can definitely get one easily. Except that select those where Reference checks of the current employer aren't there. Else, you know what can happen--unless you make peace with your manager or regional manager, whoever has to give the Reference when the time comes.
And 'learn' from the mistake.
All the Best.
Rgds,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
You didn't answer Anil Arora's query about why you chose the Subject as "RESEARCH WHY".
Based on what you mentioned in detail, you obviously did a mistake in 'holding her hand(s)'. Like Jana mentioned, such acts can be very easily misconstrued/misunderstood/manipulated to imply sexual harassment, even though that may not have been your intention at all.
You mention that '.....girl staff did (not?) put any complaints......'. On many such occasions, complaints are NOT in written form. So how can you be so sure that she didn't complain? Obviously she did--else the response/reaction & the subsequent action of the manager the next morning would not be what it was. For all you know, she may be well-connected & the manager preferred her over you for that very reason--you know in India how such 'small' things matter a lot.
Coming to another aspect of the whole situation, your manager sent you to 'help others'. Which means that maybe he was trying to groom you as a Team Lead? And since you tried to prevent the girl to take credit for the sale of 6,000, she COULD have complained verbally to the manager that you were sent to help her, but you attempted to take the credit for HER sale--which, again, COULD have given an impression to the manager that you took advantage of what he instructed you? Does it sound possible?
Also, look @ it this way: does the 6,000 sale make a lot of difference for you--after the stage you reached in your career?
Yet another way you COULD have handled the situation: instead of objecting when the girl snatches the clothes, you could have allowed her to punch the bill & waited for the customer to leave, before taking the matter to the manager & telling the girl the right way to behave--if both you & your manager think she has done wrong.
The very fact that YOU think that she behaved 'rudely' is a proof that she is immature & needs to be corrected, but the 'how' & 'when' is what finally matters. But you too, frankly, didn't behave like a Team Lead/Senior should have.
Coming to 'what next'? Since you mentioned that you got quite a few Awards too for your work here, just look for other jobs--you can definitely get one easily. Except that select those where Reference checks of the current employer aren't there. Else, you know what can happen--unless you make peace with your manager or regional manager, whoever has to give the Reference when the time comes.
And 'learn' from the mistake.
All the Best.
Rgds,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
Dear Anshoo,
Keep your hands clean always, bcoz nobody will stand behind you in this type of scenario. Try to avoid personal intimecy with your subordinates. Just love your work.
Wish you All the Best...........
From India, Calcutta
Keep your hands clean always, bcoz nobody will stand behind you in this type of scenario. Try to avoid personal intimecy with your subordinates. Just love your work.
Wish you All the Best...........
From India, Calcutta
I wonder what this word 'Costumer' means ! Is it a combination of Consumer Plus Customer.... One more new word to English Dictitionary...
From India
From India
Dear Mr. Arora,
Please remember, while my typing can be classified under typographical error, 'Costumer' occurs not once but umpteen times. I type at almost 80 words per minute and hence typos can occur. If knowingly you type a word, repeatedly, I dont think you call it a typographical error...!!!!!!!
Best wishes.
From India
Please remember, while my typing can be classified under typographical error, 'Costumer' occurs not once but umpteen times. I type at almost 80 words per minute and hence typos can occur. If knowingly you type a word, repeatedly, I dont think you call it a typographical error...!!!!!!!
Best wishes.
From India
Hi,
iam samatha i have a doubt please help me, recently i got a job in a consultancy, they gave "relationship executive" designation to me. i want to know that this designation is relevant to my job or not?
From India, Hyderabad
iam samatha i have a doubt please help me, recently i got a job in a consultancy, they gave "relationship executive" designation to me. i want to know that this designation is relevant to my job or not?
From India, Hyderabad
Hello Kapoor,
Your senior can send you home without asking for the justifications from you. That may be a temporary situation handling mechanism used to avoid the unwanted consequences.
Secondly, it appears that it may not fall under any harassment related act, but it may be the advice from all that any one need to have control over their emotions at work place....
Thirdly, there is lot of difference between sending you home and suspending or termination. Hope it is not the latter either of two......
you may have a talk with your senior to settle down with these small matters, and in case of any complaint from a girl against you demands justification from you also you may call for witnesses.......
So nothing to worry much about it, so far you if have maintained your decorum at your work place......
So, instead of making it an issue, call a moment and amicable settle that off without dragging the matters......
Have a nice time.........
From India, Bangalore
Your senior can send you home without asking for the justifications from you. That may be a temporary situation handling mechanism used to avoid the unwanted consequences.
Secondly, it appears that it may not fall under any harassment related act, but it may be the advice from all that any one need to have control over their emotions at work place....
Thirdly, there is lot of difference between sending you home and suspending or termination. Hope it is not the latter either of two......
you may have a talk with your senior to settle down with these small matters, and in case of any complaint from a girl against you demands justification from you also you may call for witnesses.......
So nothing to worry much about it, so far you if have maintained your decorum at your work place......
So, instead of making it an issue, call a moment and amicable settle that off without dragging the matters......
Have a nice time.........
From India, Bangalore
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