Indian Marriages: A Choice between Wife and Mother
Introduction
Getting married is a stage in one's life where two people decide to be together for the rest of their lives and share their time, emotions, and feelings. The decision can be made either by the concerned couple on their own or by the wishes and choice of their respective parents. The end result in both cases is that you are accepting a new person into your life, thereby trying to "change" the pattern of your life. We all know that any kind of change is often resisted and requires a high level of maturity, understanding, and adjustment. Many people fail to address this issue, leading to high levels of stress, burnouts, violence, and health-related issues. In this article, we will explore the position, situation, role, expectations, and challenges of a husband.
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Expectations of a Mother
1. A mother is the one who gave you life and carried you in her womb for nine long months.
2. She was the one who understood your needs, wants, and expectations when you were not even able to speak.
3. She fought for you and defended you all the time, even when you were wrong. She was your first teacher.
4. She taught you lessons that you would not have learned on your own or in any university in the world.
5. She fought with her husband when you were in need of money.
6. She woke up early in the morning to prepare breakfast for you and pack lunch for you. She always made sure that you ate on time.
7. She never slept at night when you were sick; she just sat beside you.
8. She was your first friend.
9. When you were sad, hurt, and in pain, she listened to you, motivated you, and gave you hope.
10. You shared your emotions, feelings, and experiences with her without hesitation, and she always listened to you without complaining, even when she couldn't fully understand. She did all this and much more for you without complaining.
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Expectations of a Wife
Just as your mother has done for you and sacrificed for you, the mother of your wife has also gone through the same. She has the same feelings, emotions, and attachment to her mother as you have to yours. However, she has left her house, comfort, and attachment to be with you for the rest of her life, to create your home. She is connected to your house and family through you. Always remember the promises you made to her during the marriage ceremony, as they hold significant importance in Hindu marriages. The groom goes around the Holy Fire (Agni) with the bride, taking seven steps and reciting mantras addressing the bride with each step. These steps symbolize the seven vows exchanged, including food, strength, prosperity, wisdom, progeny, health, and friendship.
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Solution and Conclusion
Only get married when you are prepared to take on new responsibilities and embrace change in your life. Do not marry just because others around you expect you to. While your marriage may be a function for others, including your parents, relatives, and friends, it is a lifelong commitment for you. Do not make commitments you are not sure you can fulfill. Mothers should encourage their sons to treat their wives as they would want their sons-in-law to treat their daughters. Similarly, wives should encourage their husbands to treat their mothers as they would want their brothers to treat their mother. Remember, your life is the sum of the choices you make. These are my thoughts and views; you may or may not agree with the solutions and conclusions. Your feedback and opinions are welcome. Take care of yourself.
Regards,
Sanjeev Himachali
Emails: sanjeev.himachali@gmail.com; ss_himachali@yahoo.com
Twitter: sanjeevhimachali
Blogs: www.sanjeevhimachali.com and http://sanjeevhimachali.blogspot.com/
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100Introduction
Getting married is a stage in one's life where two people decide to be together for the rest of their lives and share their time, emotions, and feelings. The decision can be made either by the concerned couple on their own or by the wishes and choice of their respective parents. The end result in both cases is that you are accepting a new person into your life, thereby trying to "change" the pattern of your life. We all know that any kind of change is often resisted and requires a high level of maturity, understanding, and adjustment. Many people fail to address this issue, leading to high levels of stress, burnouts, violence, and health-related issues. In this article, we will explore the position, situation, role, expectations, and challenges of a husband.
Link to the article: Dynamics of Human Resource Management: Indian Marriages: A Choice between Wife and Mother <link updated to site home> (Search On Cite | Search On Google)
Expectations of a Mother
1. A mother is the one who gave you life and carried you in her womb for nine long months.
2. She was the one who understood your needs, wants, and expectations when you were not even able to speak.
3. She fought for you and defended you all the time, even when you were wrong. She was your first teacher.
4. She taught you lessons that you would not have learned on your own or in any university in the world.
5. She fought with her husband when you were in need of money.
6. She woke up early in the morning to prepare breakfast for you and pack lunch for you. She always made sure that you ate on time.
7. She never slept at night when you were sick; she just sat beside you.
8. She was your first friend.
9. When you were sad, hurt, and in pain, she listened to you, motivated you, and gave you hope.
10. You shared your emotions, feelings, and experiences with her without hesitation, and she always listened to you without complaining, even when she couldn't fully understand. She did all this and much more for you without complaining.
Link to the article: Dynamics of Human Resource Management: Indian Marriages: A Choice between Wife and Mother <link updated to site home> (Search On Cite | Search On Google)
Expectations of a Wife
Just as your mother has done for you and sacrificed for you, the mother of your wife has also gone through the same. She has the same feelings, emotions, and attachment to her mother as you have to yours. However, she has left her house, comfort, and attachment to be with you for the rest of her life, to create your home. She is connected to your house and family through you. Always remember the promises you made to her during the marriage ceremony, as they hold significant importance in Hindu marriages. The groom goes around the Holy Fire (Agni) with the bride, taking seven steps and reciting mantras addressing the bride with each step. These steps symbolize the seven vows exchanged, including food, strength, prosperity, wisdom, progeny, health, and friendship.
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Solution and Conclusion
Only get married when you are prepared to take on new responsibilities and embrace change in your life. Do not marry just because others around you expect you to. While your marriage may be a function for others, including your parents, relatives, and friends, it is a lifelong commitment for you. Do not make commitments you are not sure you can fulfill. Mothers should encourage their sons to treat their wives as they would want their sons-in-law to treat their daughters. Similarly, wives should encourage their husbands to treat their mothers as they would want their brothers to treat their mother. Remember, your life is the sum of the choices you make. These are my thoughts and views; you may or may not agree with the solutions and conclusions. Your feedback and opinions are welcome. Take care of yourself.
Regards,
Sanjeev Himachali
Emails: sanjeev.himachali@gmail.com; ss_himachali@yahoo.com
Twitter: sanjeevhimachali
Blogs: www.sanjeevhimachali.com and http://sanjeevhimachali.blogspot.com/
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On the contrary, most wives think that since they (she) are at home, the husband should be more inclined towards his wife than his mother because she (the wife) has left everything for her husband. Therefore, he should also prioritize his wife over his mother. They also fear that their husbands are more devoted to their parents at the expense of their wives. What a pitiable thought and manifestation of insecurity.
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