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I am miserable, and I have only myself to blame. I am 44 years of age, MA, B.Ed, very sincere and hardworking with excellent communication skills. I was a teacher for about 9 years, founder headmistress of a very good school for about 2 years. Thereafter, I joined a very good education firm as an Ops Head for their preschool chain. The blunder was to quit that wonderful place and profile for very trivial reasons. I joined an American firm (the Indian office at Gurgaon) a year back. They began a project of Indian teachers' recruitment in the US with me. The project couldn't take off due to recession, and I have been retained with an HR profile with the company. I joined MBA in HR 6-7 months back and am trying to do my best. I have obviously not been given much of an increment. I feel that I'm starting all over again, not being able to make use of what I've been good at and have done all my life and learning something absolutely new. I'm in a dilemma as to whether to quit and go back to my domain, which is education, or learn HR and try to grow in this field. I'll really be grateful if all you experienced HR people out there please find time and advice. Please feel free to ask me anything I've forgotten to mention. Thanks!
From India, Gurgaon
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Ms.Anju, My suggestion is to go back to your original domain where you are well capable. In stead of trying a new field, it will be better to be in the field where you have already mastered.
From India, Lucknow
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Hi, I suggest you should switch over to your earlier profile as your experience in the same would give you more confidence.
From India, Madras
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Dear Anju,

As the question, what really gives you personal satisfaction? And then follow that field. Listen to your inner voice.

Have a nice day,

Simhan
A retired academic in the UK
"It is never too late to learn or improve oneself."

From United Kingdom
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Dear Ms. Anju (I assume that's your name, if not, apologies).

Wow, I like the career curve! It's interesting - a smooth upward sail, then an uninvited role of an HR.

I think you need to re-evaluate your priorities. What is the "end" result you look at while working? I am not asking for the generic answer of satisfaction; please go in-depth - what gives you satisfaction? Here are a few examples to help you:

I am here to work for:
a) Using my creative ability
b) Experimenting
c) Doing something completely different from the usual process - if the new idea seems easier and beneficial
d) I love interacting with people and trying to figure out ways in which I can help them sort out any issues they feel could be shared with me (I don't advise - but counsel)
e) Of course - I need to see my efforts materialize into a monetary figure.

So the above is mine - you need to know what your priority is. What makes you feel more passionate and more like yourself?

Or a simple question: "What will not make you feel miserable?"

Please note: Don't settle for only what life throws at you - you need not take an HR profile if that's the only available option now. You can still think of something that matches what you need; you know where you need to be.

You are not doing anything wrong by trying something different (as you mentioned you feel you are not being able to put whatever you have learned to use). I guess you have done pretty well in your domain. If your priorities are more linked to experimentation and, if at this point, it's okay to venture into a new field - then why not.

Remove your fears. It's just that - you need to take some time to unwind, be on your own "good mood," no harm in a bit of pampering with what you have started to avoid recently (fast food? Spa???).

You are 44 - you deserve a moment on your own like this where you can just take time to relax and then decide.

Mom told me once that 40 was when she felt life had begun for her (quite long back..I would say - long, long back).

Good luck!

From India, Madras
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Hey Anju,

I read your plight, and the very first words said it all - "Miserable," "Blame."

First and foremost, stop feeling the way you are feeling. It's not the end of the world, girl. You took up this opportunity because you thought it would work wonders (besides, it's natural that everyone wants to be a master of all and try their hand at things they haven't tried). So cheer up. You have not committed any crime. It's your life, and you have the right to live it according to your priorities.

Now, regarding your future prospects:

1. This recession is not going to stay forever; the market will become stable by December.

2. You have to find out if the current company will still be interested in the project they hired you for. If yes, stay on. If no, quit and find an organization that is already doing similar projects. I think you won't enjoy HR roles because it will remind you that you compromised. (In the meantime, you can still be associated with the teaching line in the form of coaching classes; that won't leave you with any cash crunch.)

I would suggest that now, since you have already put your feet in the shoes, why not walk a mile and check if it is actually that bad. You might just miss it once you take those shoes off.

Make the most of the present because at the end of the day, you are learning something new.

Cheers!

Best of luck.

Amrita Nambudiri

From India, Mumbai
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Hi,

I would suggest you look into the points below with respect to your current job:

Are you satisfied with the complete domain, or are you just working for the sake of livelihood? If you are satisfied, then go ahead, deep dive, and put in hard work. This will certainly give you results, but it will take time.

If you are not satisfied "at all" and it feels like a burden to you, start looking into alternatives. Based on your analysis of alternatives, build a plan and move on accordingly. This could even involve going back to your previous domain.

Lastly, if you feel you have a moderate interest in what you are currently doing, try to see the connection between teaching and HR. This can encompass areas like Training & Development, Counseling—although you will need to delve deeply into these subjects and concepts to a large extent.

Think about it... All the Best!!

Shreya

From United States, Basking Ridge
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shabz
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Hi Anju,

Thanks for posting your query on this forum. I am sure you will receive a lot of suggestions that will help you make the right decision.

Recession has affected most of us, so there is nothing to feel miserable about. You have achieved so much in life. When people get bored of their same profession, you have been lucky to do something new. Take it as an opportunity to revive your career. You can be a good trainer based on your teaching career. But please be prepared as it will be very challenging and innovative.

If you don't find the HR career satisfactory, you can always go back to your previous profession, which is teaching. Consider taking coaching classes or keep applying to institutes. Meanwhile, you can also stay connected with an American firm as the recession won't last long. If this project starts up again, it could be a breakthrough in your teaching career.

It's a little hurdle but certainly not the end of the world. Wish you all the success.

"I am miserable and I have only myself to blame. I am 44 years of age, MA, B.Ed, very sincere and hardworking with excellent communication skills. I was a teacher for about 9 years and a founding headmistress of a very good school for about 2 years. Thereafter, I joined a very good education firm as an Ops Head for their preschool chain. The blunder was to quit that wonderful place and profile for very trivial reasons.

I joined an American firm (the Indian office at Gurgaon) a year back. They began a project of Indian teachers' recruitment in the US with me. The project couldn't take off due to the recession, and I have been retained with an HR profile within the company. I started an MBA in HR 6-7 months back and am trying to do my best. I have obviously not been given much of an increment. I feel like I'm starting all over again, not being able to make use of what I've been good at and have done all my life, and learning something absolutely new.

I'm in a dilemma as to whether to quit and go back to my domain, which is education, or learn HR and try to grow in this field. I would be really grateful if all you experienced HR people out there could please find time to advise. Please feel free to ask me anything I've forgotten to mention. Thanks!"

From India, Mumbai
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Hi, Ms. Anju,

From your post, it seems you shifted for more monetary reasons. As a Headmistress, you should have a proven track record, and there are plenty of opportunities available. So, consider returning to something you have worked on before and where you felt comfortable. Your misery will fade away. We expect positive vibes from you once you are back in academics and sharing with us the wealth of your experience.

From India, Madras
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Dear Ma'am,

I must say that you are at an advantage to have a diverse profile. I too worked with a school for a couple of years and then entered corporate training. I discovered that this field is still in need of people who have the right kind of skills. Maybe you could also try out this side too... All the best.

From India, Indore
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Hello,

When I have dilemmas in my life, I always consider the positive and negative aspects of both choices. Then, I determine which one is more important to me. This system has clarified many things for me.

One thing you could do is seek evaluations from ex-colleagues or advice from your closest acquaintances. Good luck - talent is everywhere, but sometimes it can be challenging to find or may require more time to blossom.

Denise

From Belgium, Sint-niklaas
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similar plight...HR is really walking on a tight rope..we cant brood on the past...understand the deliverables n work on it...easy for u rather... regards, shobha bhat
From India, Bangalore
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Hi Anju,

Well, what to say... Don't feel bad that you have to start again. HR is a quite easy job with a lot of pressures, so stay cool and enjoy your work. Let it be whatever job it is. Just listen to your inner mind and what you feel.

From India, Madras
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Hi Ravi, I don't know if you are doing this for fun or if you are serious at all. But see how many things you have that others don't? If you start seeing only the bad aspects or aspects that can be changed and take no efforts in being positive, I guess you are the problem here, not life.


From India, Madras
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Hi Anju,

I am not aware of your personal financial status at 44 years of age and the load of current liabilities. If you are the sole earner or have a load of financial liabilities like kids' education, house loan, kids' settlement, etc. (which is obvious for this age group), then try for a safe domain where you have expertise, and you will be paid for your experience. Else, the sky is the limit for you. Whether in HR or any other creative field that interests you, you will progress as you have years of rich experience of practical life. If you have the aptitude to learn and apply in life, your previous experience will help you to make learning and apply your learnings. The only thing that can become an obstacle for you is that with age, people tend to fix their notions and thinking beyond. So, let this not happen to you. Have an open mind. Go beyond the boundaries and create a new history for yourself.

From India, Delhi
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Hi!

Please do not feel miserable. At this time of recession, your company has given an opportunity for you to learn and grow, and has retained you knowing that you have the potential to develop and be helpful in their future operations. Look around, and you will find a lot of people who have been retrenched from companies for lack of work. You are a lucky one who has not only been retained but also given an opportunity to learn and grow. I respect your management for the commitment they are showing to employees.

Talk to management about their future plans for you. Based on that, you can decide your course of action. Also, as you have been a teacher by profession, you can easily adapt to a training and development role and can be of help to the company in molding teachers sent abroad.

Be happy and enjoy.

Happy Teachers' Day.

Regards,
SNB

From India, Bhopal
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Hi,

I think this is a dilemma many face when they try their hand at a new job. You are 44 and have been successful in a field. If the only reason you quit is for more pay, I think you have to go back. It is not difficult to succeed in studying or working in HRM. But is your heart there? Is that what you had set for yourself? If not, GO BACK.

Edwin :-P

From India, New Delhi
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Hi,

My suggestion is to go back to the earlier field itself as you have vast experience. Teaching is a very good and respectable profession where you can grow to even higher positions. The MBA degree you have obtained can also be put to use by teaching college students after completing the course.

With regards,
Nandini M S

From India, Bangalore
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Madam/Sir,

I can understand your situation, although I did not experience this kind of situation, but I have witnessed many people frequently changing jobs and even fields. If you have started your career with one particular job, then gradually you gain experience as well as expertise in that subject. Your experience and expertise are being paid as an experienced teacher/lecturer/reader, etc.

But suddenly changing your highly valuable experience and expertise damages your total achievements, and you focus on another field. In this new field, you are a novice unlike in your previous job where you gained more value-added experience, and your market price will be higher compared to the newly acquired field.

The market pays for your experience and expertise, but you got tempted by a lucrative HR job profile where you sacrificed your highly rated and priced experience job.

This is your mistake; you cannot reverse your age to start rebuilding what is lost or invested in the past experience. You have to spend the same years to become as valuable as your previous experience.

You are wasting only your time and energy with no guarantee of restoring your reputation and achievements in the previous field.

Partho


From Saudi Arabia
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Dear Anju,

I felt very pained to read your post. Indeed, you are in a situation where you need to be very careful. Thank God you have been retained as HR and you have taken a good initiative by completing 6-7 months in MBA HR.

I strongly suggest you hold on and save your job, continue your HR MBA. It sends the right signals to your employer that you are keen to work with them in your present profile and that you have started acquiring knowledge on the subject. However, silently and without any fuss, smartly approach your previous employer, i.e., the school, and express your interest in reverting back. They may consider you again for a similar position if they accept it.

In these harsh times, it's better to hone your existing skills than to acquire entirely new skills. Starting at a new position, especially at the age of 44+, may not be the best idea.

All the best, Cheers! God Bless.

Exserg

"God helps those who help themselves."

From India, New Delhi
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I would like to suggest that you should switch to your previous profile as you have much experience in that. As you mentioned your age is 44, it might be challenging to start a new career in HR. Companies may not consider your past experience, viewing you as a fresher. Therefore, do what you think is correct. Don't act on emotions; instead, use your brain to make the right decision. I hope you will find your way. Goodbye.

Sarita

From India, Panipat
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Dear Ms. Anju,

Don't lose your confidence and try to continue with the current job. You will definitely get a path to prove yourself. Alongside, try to become a full-fledged trainer.

You mentioned that the condition is miserable. What do you exactly mean? Is it a low increment? Then, for your information, at present, everywhere they only give meager increments. Since yours is an American-based firm, the fortune cycle will come soon, and you can expect a good hike in salary.

SINCERE PRAYER GIVES ANSWER DEFINITELY. DO SINCERE PRAYERS.

Regards,
Uniquenaga:)

From India, Madras
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Dear Anju,

I am not quite clear on what your role was as Ops - Head of the Preschool chain and thereafter what the demands of your current role are.

Also, would like to be clear on what prompted you to join the American firm.

Were there any common threads in the nature of responsibilities you handled as Op - Head at the Educational Firm and then subsequently offered by the American Firm?

What were the factors that contributed to your considering the offer from the American firm?

Was there anything genuinely exciting about the profile or was it more of a monetary consideration?

If the decision was more on the monetary front, then you lmay ook for opportunities more in line with your competencies or even better closer to what you would be happy doing. For an educated and an experienced individual the opportunities today are limitless...

On the other hand, if the decision to join the American firm had more to do with the nature of responsibilities then you may explore the following options!

Given the fact, that the American firm has been considerate and chose to retain you in a different role rather than taking a drastic step such as retrenchment, you may discuss with them on possible avenues more in line with what you would like to do...Who knows in the process you may just land up with your dream job without changing the organization…Alternatively, upon completing your HR course you may explore opportunities within the HR discipline as a natural progression to your degree… ...HR is a vast domain where there are several opportunities specially in areas such as Learning & Development (L&D), Employee Engagement, where your background and skills as a teacher can be gainfully employed....

Hence, you may need to do some amount of introspection on this and then decide for yourself the best course of action...

Best of luck...

Satya

From India, Bangalore
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Hi Anju,

My suggestion is to go back to your teaching because training is different from teaching, especially corporate training. With your experience, I am sure you will manage your HR role, but you will shine in your teaching career. Please decide which one you want.

I am also concerned about your statement: "The blunder was to quit that wonderful place and profile for very trivial reasons." Please analyze whether your inner self is comfortable with corporate culture.

DR. J. VASANTHA KUMARI INCAD


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Hi Anju,

First, stop feeling miserable and blaming anyone, including yourself, for the present situation. Try to analyze and make the right decision now. I suggest that it is best for you to utilize your domain knowledge of Education and return to the same field. Education is currently one of the best fields, and you should leverage your experience in an area where you have always been comfortable and have expertise. There are numerous opportunities for you both in India and abroad in this field. Please explore these opportunities and move forward.

Udayalakshmi


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Dear Anju,

Sorry to hear about the things at your end. Anyway, my sincere suggestion to you is to get back to the domain you were handling for the last 9 years - Education. Currently, you are unnecessarily taking on the troubles and pains that a fresher should be experiencing in their respective field, not someone with your level of experience. This could severely impact your confidence, as there are inevitably hurdles in learning all the HR functions and becoming proficient in them.

There is nothing that you have lost due to the recession or any other similar circumstances. It's simply a matter of readjusting your decision, that's it.

My Best Wishes!

From India, Hyderabad
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Hi Anju,

Please have a pen and paper handy with you. Write down on a paper what your strengths and weaknesses are. If you are a person who accepts changes, then I recommend you to stay in the HR role. It's a new learning experience; you already know what's there in the teaching field, so explore the HR field as well. Then, you can always go back to your profession with additional experience.

Regards,
Anitha

From India, Bangalore
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