Hello,
I have worked with 3 MNCs. In all of these MNCs, I have observed that the management expects employees to engage in physical relationships with colleagues, and if you refuse, they begin to harass you mentally, affecting your experience within the company. What should be done about this? The way some female colleagues approach you in the office involves giving various inappropriate signals, as you may be aware. This is the third company where I have encountered this issue. What actions can I take? Is it possible to take legal action against them? If so, what steps can I follow? Please advise. This is the third job I have lost due to this situation.
Thank you.
From India, Bangalore
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I have worked with 3 MNCs. In all of these MNCs, I have observed that the management expects employees to engage in physical relationships with colleagues, and if you refuse, they begin to harass you mentally, affecting your experience within the company. What should be done about this? The way some female colleagues approach you in the office involves giving various inappropriate signals, as you may be aware. This is the third company where I have encountered this issue. What actions can I take? Is it possible to take legal action against them? If so, what steps can I follow? Please advise. This is the third job I have lost due to this situation.
Thank you.
From India, Bangalore
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Hello,
I have worked with 3 MNCs. In all of these MNCs, I have observed that the management expects employees to engage in physical relationships with colleagues, and if you refuse, they may resort to mental harassment to make your time in the company difficult. What should be done about this? The way female colleagues approach you in the office is by giving various inappropriate signals, as many of you may be aware. This is the third company where I have encountered this issue. What actions can I take? Can I take legal action against them? If yes, what should I do? Please advise. This is the third job I have lost due to this issue.
From India, Bangalore
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I have worked with 3 MNCs. In all of these MNCs, I have observed that the management expects employees to engage in physical relationships with colleagues, and if you refuse, they may resort to mental harassment to make your time in the company difficult. What should be done about this? The way female colleagues approach you in the office is by giving various inappropriate signals, as many of you may be aware. This is the third company where I have encountered this issue. What actions can I take? Can I take legal action against them? If yes, what should I do? Please advise. This is the third job I have lost due to this issue.
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Dear friend,
It seems that there is a sort of apprehension on your part. Better analyze the situations you were supposed to be in with an open mind. Probably, you might have mistaken or you might not have been able to adjust to the behavioral shift.
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V. Santhanaraman
From India, Velluru
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It seems that there is a sort of apprehension on your part. Better analyze the situations you were supposed to be in with an open mind. Probably, you might have mistaken or you might not have been able to adjust to the behavioral shift.
With regards,
V. Santhanaraman
From India, Velluru
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Dear Abhay,
Interesting query! Can you please answer the following questions? This will help our readers and seniors suggest good solutions:
- What is your age?
- What is your profile background?
- In which industry are these MNCs you mentioned located?
- How long were you employed at each MNC?
Thanks
From Kuwait, Salmiya
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30Interesting query! Can you please answer the following questions? This will help our readers and seniors suggest good solutions:
- What is your age?
- What is your profile background?
- In which industry are these MNCs you mentioned located?
- How long were you employed at each MNC?
Thanks
From Kuwait, Salmiya
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Dear Abhay,
The information that you have given is inadequate. This is your side of the story. Unless we know the other side of the story, it would not be fair on our part to give our opinions.
Nevertheless, Mr. Zulfikar has raised valid questions. What was your position in each of the companies?
Overall, in MNCs, the culture is a little open. For a conservative society like India, it may not be amenable. But then from your post (though it is repeated thrice), what is not clear is what was the motive behind the sexual overtures from the other gender. Why would anyone do that? What was the business of those MNCs? Were they running some dating agency? Discreetly, did you find out the reason why some women staff were currying favor with you?
Generally, higher-level staff gets involved in some sort of affair with 1-2 odd women employees. A few even go to the extent of terminating women employees if they do not respond to the sexual overtures. Otherwise, some odd seductress does her job, and a senior-level official gets involved with her, though willy-nilly.
Now what has happened in your case is quite different. In your case, some third party has a vested interest in developing an affair with you through a second party! This did not just happen in one odd company but three companies in continuity. And for not obliging to their overtures, you ended up losing your job! Will this story be logically acceptable to any other person?
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Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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The information that you have given is inadequate. This is your side of the story. Unless we know the other side of the story, it would not be fair on our part to give our opinions.
Nevertheless, Mr. Zulfikar has raised valid questions. What was your position in each of the companies?
Overall, in MNCs, the culture is a little open. For a conservative society like India, it may not be amenable. But then from your post (though it is repeated thrice), what is not clear is what was the motive behind the sexual overtures from the other gender. Why would anyone do that? What was the business of those MNCs? Were they running some dating agency? Discreetly, did you find out the reason why some women staff were currying favor with you?
Generally, higher-level staff gets involved in some sort of affair with 1-2 odd women employees. A few even go to the extent of terminating women employees if they do not respond to the sexual overtures. Otherwise, some odd seductress does her job, and a senior-level official gets involved with her, though willy-nilly.
Now what has happened in your case is quite different. In your case, some third party has a vested interest in developing an affair with you through a second party! This did not just happen in one odd company but three companies in continuity. And for not obliging to their overtures, you ended up losing your job! Will this story be logically acceptable to any other person?
Thanks,
Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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Hello Abhai,
I felt a little surprised upon seeing the issue you stated above. By expressing this in a general manner, I felt you were generalizing the topic and the issue. The issue you mentioned is not a simple matter and could potentially result in disciplinary action, up to and including termination of employment.
The statement above seems to suggest that all industries are filled with women seeking someone to satisfy their physical desires. This allegation appears to stem from a biased view you may hold towards the industry or the female workforce.
I would suggest that if you are of marriageable age, you consider getting married to broaden your perspective and refresh your outlook on the industry. Alternatively, if you believe that women approach with ulterior motives, perhaps you should give it a chance, as not everyone in the industry may have such intentions. (Inserting humor: :P) Jokes aside, I would greatly appreciate it if you could provide the requested details for further discussion if you are indeed facing this issue.
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Jay
Director HR
From India, Bangalore
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I felt a little surprised upon seeing the issue you stated above. By expressing this in a general manner, I felt you were generalizing the topic and the issue. The issue you mentioned is not a simple matter and could potentially result in disciplinary action, up to and including termination of employment.
The statement above seems to suggest that all industries are filled with women seeking someone to satisfy their physical desires. This allegation appears to stem from a biased view you may hold towards the industry or the female workforce.
I would suggest that if you are of marriageable age, you consider getting married to broaden your perspective and refresh your outlook on the industry. Alternatively, if you believe that women approach with ulterior motives, perhaps you should give it a chance, as not everyone in the industry may have such intentions. (Inserting humor: :P) Jokes aside, I would greatly appreciate it if you could provide the requested details for further discussion if you are indeed facing this issue.
Regards,
Jay
Director HR
From India, Bangalore
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Dear Mr. Abhay,
None of us is clear with your query. Even though many organizations are following an OPEN CULTURE, whatever you have mentioned cannot happen nor can it be promoted in any way. Maybe you were asked to develop INTERPERSONAL SKILLS for A HEALTHY EMPLOYEE RELATIONSHIP @ THE WORKPLACE, but it cannot go beyond this.
Regarding INTERNAL AFFAIRS between employees of the opposite sex, it may be happening, but again, this is not promoted in any organization to any extent because it is not a part of BUSINESS OBJECTIVES. Forget about those selfish employees (maybe holding higher positions) who want to have a physical relationship with employees just to fulfill their desires.
Could you please let me know, "why would management want you to engage in a physical relationship with female employees?" What does this have to do with THE ORGANIZATION'S BUSINESS OBJECTIVES?
You have to disclose whatever is on your mind, and please don't post anything that is "IMAGINARY" or try to play games. Please think wisely before you reply to us.
I am really curious to study your behavior to understand you better and would appreciate it if you could email me the names of those MNCs where you have served, including your current employer.
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
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None of us is clear with your query. Even though many organizations are following an OPEN CULTURE, whatever you have mentioned cannot happen nor can it be promoted in any way. Maybe you were asked to develop INTERPERSONAL SKILLS for A HEALTHY EMPLOYEE RELATIONSHIP @ THE WORKPLACE, but it cannot go beyond this.
Regarding INTERNAL AFFAIRS between employees of the opposite sex, it may be happening, but again, this is not promoted in any organization to any extent because it is not a part of BUSINESS OBJECTIVES. Forget about those selfish employees (maybe holding higher positions) who want to have a physical relationship with employees just to fulfill their desires.
Could you please let me know, "why would management want you to engage in a physical relationship with female employees?" What does this have to do with THE ORGANIZATION'S BUSINESS OBJECTIVES?
You have to disclose whatever is on your mind, and please don't post anything that is "IMAGINARY" or try to play games. Please think wisely before you reply to us.
I am really curious to study your behavior to understand you better and would appreciate it if you could email me the names of those MNCs where you have served, including your current employer.
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
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Dear All,
This is a serious issue.
There are two sides to this issue. For individuals like me who are outside the MNCs, it is inappropriate to comment without any first-hand information. It is also fair not to generalize based on things said and done in a single instance. However, if such incidents have occurred or are happening, as a human being, it concerns me greatly, especially if it involves female colleagues who are like my sisters and friends. In such a case, I am genuinely concerned. As an outsider, it is challenging to ascertain the exact circumstances if such a thing has indeed happened. Nevertheless, such occurrences may not be limited to MNCs but could happen in non-MNCs as well; good and bad exist everywhere. The prevention of such incidents relies on the strong determination of the women affected. If it occurs repeatedly involving more than one female, collectively, it can be addressed, and action can be taken against those responsible. This is the need of the hour. The power of women is formidable, and it is gaining strength.
Kumar S.
BG
From India, Bangalore
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This is a serious issue.
There are two sides to this issue. For individuals like me who are outside the MNCs, it is inappropriate to comment without any first-hand information. It is also fair not to generalize based on things said and done in a single instance. However, if such incidents have occurred or are happening, as a human being, it concerns me greatly, especially if it involves female colleagues who are like my sisters and friends. In such a case, I am genuinely concerned. As an outsider, it is challenging to ascertain the exact circumstances if such a thing has indeed happened. Nevertheless, such occurrences may not be limited to MNCs but could happen in non-MNCs as well; good and bad exist everywhere. The prevention of such incidents relies on the strong determination of the women affected. If it occurs repeatedly involving more than one female, collectively, it can be addressed, and action can be taken against those responsible. This is the need of the hour. The power of women is formidable, and it is gaining strength.
Kumar S.
BG
From India, Bangalore
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All my friends opined so rightly from their standpoints. I agree with every one of them. There should be some sociable/attitudinal problems with the writer. Mr. Kadhir rightly raised a question in bold and blue. Anyways, it all depends upon one's family background, upbringing, and social acquaintance. Blaming one but three MNCs means something wrong with the writer.
R. Ganesh
From India, Tiruppur
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Employer himself encouraging you means you are very lucky. Boys and girls also giving indication means enjoyment in the job. 😛 Kash meri bhi kismet aisi hoti MNC job, MNC salary, and enjoyment hehehehe. What a joke, good luck.
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Hi All Seniors,
Let us stop posting this type of article as I feel it's not worth spending time on. We need to focus on guiding and training the juniors who are waiting for our replies to the important doubts they post on a day-to-day basis. Even if this is true, we should only consider it as a 1% exception for such postings that can waste our valuable time and energy.
For Juniors, please refrain from sending such posts. HR is an ocean, and all seniors are ready to help by providing valuable suggestions in many postings.
From India, Madras
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Let us stop posting this type of article as I feel it's not worth spending time on. We need to focus on guiding and training the juniors who are waiting for our replies to the important doubts they post on a day-to-day basis. Even if this is true, we should only consider it as a 1% exception for such postings that can waste our valuable time and energy.
For Juniors, please refrain from sending such posts. HR is an ocean, and all seniors are ready to help by providing valuable suggestions in many postings.
From India, Madras
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Since this has been posted in this forum, I feel Mr. Abhay has to provide more details as called for. Only then can anything meaningful be done. But I do wonder how this can happen wherever he got employed. Something seems to be wrong.
At the same time, Mr. Abhay may feel it's impossible to provide all details here. It would be wise if he could reply personally to at least one of the seniors here so he can be helped if the complaint is genuine.
From India, Madras
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At the same time, Mr. Abhay may feel it's impossible to provide all details here. It would be wise if he could reply personally to at least one of the seniors here so he can be helped if the complaint is genuine.
From India, Madras
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Mr. Abhay,
I am not clear with your briefings above. Kindly brief it well. Notably, you are working in India. I do not believe this happens in India. You might have received some wrong information (gossips). Please try to understand that a physical relationship does not lead a particular employee to higher grades. Do you all believe this and accept this, citehrians?
For your kind information, I have good respect for women. More or less 200 women workers are working in my company, and I have not found even one case like this now.
Regards,
Ramkishore
HR Manager
From India, Bangalore
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I am not clear with your briefings above. Kindly brief it well. Notably, you are working in India. I do not believe this happens in India. You might have received some wrong information (gossips). Please try to understand that a physical relationship does not lead a particular employee to higher grades. Do you all believe this and accept this, citehrians?
For your kind information, I have good respect for women. More or less 200 women workers are working in my company, and I have not found even one case like this now.
Regards,
Ramkishore
HR Manager
From India, Bangalore
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Dear Abhay,
I am surprised reading your response. Honestly speaking, I am not convinced with the explanation you have put forward. Also, refrain from using abusive words; this is a respectable forum.
You are a 26-year-old mature man, with good education and a positive career ahead of you. As you mentioned, three big MNCs wanted you to have an intimate relationship with your female colleagues. This is unacceptable, illogical, and indigestible. Moreover, in India, although we are advanced, India still remains a conservative and hypocritical country with respect to premarital sex.
Even assuming that you have received sexual advances from many girls in your three employments, you can politely turn down their advances and concentrate on your job. Management would be concerned with your boardroom performance, not bedrooms!
Generally, women have been victims of sexual harassment at more significant levels compared to men. In the case of men, it is more out of obsession with one or two women on personal levels.
You mentioned that you went to an IPS officer to complain about such harassment and hacking of your account. Trust me, whether you are a big shot or a commoner, the police will take your complaint seriously unless you are complaining against some big politician, then I can understand.
Certain points from your narration with which I am not convinced:
1. Non-action of Police
2. Management pressuring you to have sex
3. Bunch of girls chasing you
There are plenty of good professionals your company can hire; you are not the only superstar or showman working in the company. There are enough handsome boys in your city; you can tell those girls to chase them.
Abhay, my friend, don't take my words wrong. You know your truth; that's it! If whatever you said is true, one company, it's believable! But two and three companies... Come on, Abhay! You are not telling us something!
From Kuwait, Salmiya
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I am surprised reading your response. Honestly speaking, I am not convinced with the explanation you have put forward. Also, refrain from using abusive words; this is a respectable forum.
You are a 26-year-old mature man, with good education and a positive career ahead of you. As you mentioned, three big MNCs wanted you to have an intimate relationship with your female colleagues. This is unacceptable, illogical, and indigestible. Moreover, in India, although we are advanced, India still remains a conservative and hypocritical country with respect to premarital sex.
Even assuming that you have received sexual advances from many girls in your three employments, you can politely turn down their advances and concentrate on your job. Management would be concerned with your boardroom performance, not bedrooms!
Generally, women have been victims of sexual harassment at more significant levels compared to men. In the case of men, it is more out of obsession with one or two women on personal levels.
You mentioned that you went to an IPS officer to complain about such harassment and hacking of your account. Trust me, whether you are a big shot or a commoner, the police will take your complaint seriously unless you are complaining against some big politician, then I can understand.
Certain points from your narration with which I am not convinced:
1. Non-action of Police
2. Management pressuring you to have sex
3. Bunch of girls chasing you
There are plenty of good professionals your company can hire; you are not the only superstar or showman working in the company. There are enough handsome boys in your city; you can tell those girls to chase them.
Abhay, my friend, don't take my words wrong. You know your truth; that's it! If whatever you said is true, one company, it's believable! But two and three companies... Come on, Abhay! You are not telling us something!
From Kuwait, Salmiya
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Sir, simple logic works everywhere. Clapping can't be done by one hand. We need to get still more information from him before making any comments. The main question that strikes our mind is "WHAT IS THE MOTTO BEHIND IT?"
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Dear Mr. Abhay,
I have gone through your reply and I would request you to have control over yourself.
a) I have also noted a few points where your issue was not taken for granted just because you are "MALE," else it would have been a very serious issue in the history of INDIAN EMPLOYERS/MNC's.
b) I truly wonder how FEMALE EMPLOYEES are executing as planned by their superiors. We all need to consider BOTH SIDES OF THE COIN before we can arrive at a relative conclusion.
We are trying to counsel you to gather facts that could help us understand the whole scenario. There should be some logic for you being targeted, and we haven't got any clue as to why your employers have chosen you for such treatment.
All I can say is that you please try to answer our queries. Let's have fruitful discussions rather than exchanging filthy information.
Would you mind answering my queries?
1. "Is this happening only to you or to any other guys in your current and previous organizations?"
2. "Are none of the employees aware of what's happening with you?"
3. "Did you receive any support from your co-workers/colleagues?"
4. "Did you reveal this information to anyone else apart from the police?"
Please provide us with logical information. You can personally talk to any of the senior members; perhaps you can meet Mr. Dinesh Divekar as he is residing in BANGALORE. Reveal everything you have with you.
Kindly consider my request and proceed further. We shall arrive at a productive/effective conclusion for your workplace issues only if we are convinced; otherwise, no one can help you, dude.
Just to keep you cool, I would love to say that, YOU ARE A GUY, just chill dude, things will be fine pretty soon.
With profound regards.
From India, Chennai
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I have gone through your reply and I would request you to have control over yourself.
a) I have also noted a few points where your issue was not taken for granted just because you are "MALE," else it would have been a very serious issue in the history of INDIAN EMPLOYERS/MNC's.
b) I truly wonder how FEMALE EMPLOYEES are executing as planned by their superiors. We all need to consider BOTH SIDES OF THE COIN before we can arrive at a relative conclusion.
We are trying to counsel you to gather facts that could help us understand the whole scenario. There should be some logic for you being targeted, and we haven't got any clue as to why your employers have chosen you for such treatment.
All I can say is that you please try to answer our queries. Let's have fruitful discussions rather than exchanging filthy information.
Would you mind answering my queries?
1. "Is this happening only to you or to any other guys in your current and previous organizations?"
2. "Are none of the employees aware of what's happening with you?"
3. "Did you receive any support from your co-workers/colleagues?"
4. "Did you reveal this information to anyone else apart from the police?"
Please provide us with logical information. You can personally talk to any of the senior members; perhaps you can meet Mr. Dinesh Divekar as he is residing in BANGALORE. Reveal everything you have with you.
Kindly consider my request and proceed further. We shall arrive at a productive/effective conclusion for your workplace issues only if we are convinced; otherwise, no one can help you, dude.
Just to keep you cool, I would love to say that, YOU ARE A GUY, just chill dude, things will be fine pretty soon.
With profound regards.
From India, Chennai
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Dear Shri. Abhay,
It really looks absurd to me to hear that an employer forces a physical relationship with women. I do not think this could happen in any company, let alone any MNC. Every company is conscious of its social standing and definitely will not do what you have expressed.
I sincerely feel you should consult a psychiatrist immediately and find out why you feel like this. Better take action quickly.
From India, Hyderabad
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It really looks absurd to me to hear that an employer forces a physical relationship with women. I do not think this could happen in any company, let alone any MNC. Every company is conscious of its social standing and definitely will not do what you have expressed.
I sincerely feel you should consult a psychiatrist immediately and find out why you feel like this. Better take action quickly.
From India, Hyderabad
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Forcing physical relations with women, or rather to be precise, giving women in exchange for getting work done apart from a bribe is not a new thing in the Indian context. From my friend during my 11/12 standard, I used to hear stories about a particular license inspector who had to be given a bribe for signing permits for liquor shops. My friend owned a country liquor shop. Even in many corporates, they actually encourage, or rather it is mentioned that in the corporate world, if you ever receive sexual favors, do not reject it (read on the internet from an undisclosed location, which cannot be disclosed here). Usually, such things happen at most MNC parties, especially BPOs and IT companies, because I have seen employers deliberately arrange such parties in pubs and discos, leading to compromising positions and opportunities for future escapades.
Today, many MNCs and other companies, while entering into contracts and negotiations, use entertainment, girls, etc., to make things easier. So, what Mr. Abhay mentioned cannot be completely ignored. I realized this when I remembered my friend's experience with the liquor shop permit renewal incident.
And mind you, members here freely discuss and encourage DATING ALLOWANCE... Does that ring any bells? Search for dating allowance on citehr and see how many so-called ELITE HR people support it. Now, tell me, how can there be dating without sex? Almost 95% of dating ends in sex.
Check this:
What's this dating allowance? - The Economic Times
Why can't HR people name dating allowance as entertainment allowance or leisure allowance? Can't a person spend that allowance on family and kids? This has gone too far. I feel sorry for Abhay, who seems to have gotten caught in this. If you take my advice, Abhay dear, do enjoy life.
From India, Madras
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Today, many MNCs and other companies, while entering into contracts and negotiations, use entertainment, girls, etc., to make things easier. So, what Mr. Abhay mentioned cannot be completely ignored. I realized this when I remembered my friend's experience with the liquor shop permit renewal incident.
And mind you, members here freely discuss and encourage DATING ALLOWANCE... Does that ring any bells? Search for dating allowance on citehr and see how many so-called ELITE HR people support it. Now, tell me, how can there be dating without sex? Almost 95% of dating ends in sex.
Check this:
What's this dating allowance? - The Economic Times
Why can't HR people name dating allowance as entertainment allowance or leisure allowance? Can't a person spend that allowance on family and kids? This has gone too far. I feel sorry for Abhay, who seems to have gotten caught in this. If you take my advice, Abhay dear, do enjoy life.
From India, Madras
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Dear Mr. Abhay,
I would rather stay away from this discussion. My reply is only because some of the stalwarts of the forum have taken the time to respond to you.
What is your intention? Do you have some inbuilt problem? You mentioned that this is the third multinational corporation that has forced you into a situation like this. Why do you have to risk losing your job just because of this reason? What did you do when you faced this situation in the first two companies? There are still so many questions. Either come with a clear query or else kindly stay away, please.
Moderators, please look into the post.
From India, Coimbatore
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I would rather stay away from this discussion. My reply is only because some of the stalwarts of the forum have taken the time to respond to you.
What is your intention? Do you have some inbuilt problem? You mentioned that this is the third multinational corporation that has forced you into a situation like this. Why do you have to risk losing your job just because of this reason? What did you do when you faced this situation in the first two companies? There are still so many questions. Either come with a clear query or else kindly stay away, please.
Moderators, please look into the post.
From India, Coimbatore
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Hello Abhay,
I feel you have to change your industry to some manufacturing or even Defense Forces you may try... Or else, stand up and reveal the companies and also the Managers who are forcing you for this sin (only in your view). Here you can do a couple of things.
Stand up and publish the names as well as your employee number and all details with solid evidence, or else you will fall into big trouble as this will be a case of character assassination and company defacing issue. Or else go with the flow as you have got a rare chance as many of the guys are just praying for a chance like this... Or else you may join some social holistic groups or organizations where there are no such things happening.
Or else, as I said, change the industry. Or else take the help of a counselor to understand what's the real issue.
Regards, Jay
Director HR and Client Relations
From India, Bangalore
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I feel you have to change your industry to some manufacturing or even Defense Forces you may try... Or else, stand up and reveal the companies and also the Managers who are forcing you for this sin (only in your view). Here you can do a couple of things.
Stand up and publish the names as well as your employee number and all details with solid evidence, or else you will fall into big trouble as this will be a case of character assassination and company defacing issue. Or else go with the flow as you have got a rare chance as many of the guys are just praying for a chance like this... Or else you may join some social holistic groups or organizations where there are no such things happening.
Or else, as I said, change the industry. Or else take the help of a counselor to understand what's the real issue.
Regards, Jay
Director HR and Client Relations
From India, Bangalore
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Good morning.
I am from Chennai. Some months back, I saw news and heard about it from department people as well.
At Tidal Park Tharamani, the drainage was blocked due to a huge quantity of used condoms. So there is something behind that incident.
Thanks.
L. J. Rajagopalan
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From India, Madras
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I am from Chennai. Some months back, I saw news and heard about it from department people as well.
At Tidal Park Tharamani, the drainage was blocked due to a huge quantity of used condoms. So there is something behind that incident.
Thanks.
L. J. Rajagopalan
9840489783
From India, Madras
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Dear Mr. Abhay,
I think you either wanted to get your name highlighted, or you are in serious need of counseling. There is also a possibility that you have faced deja vu situations in all three companies from a very few girls, but it does not mean that the employer is practicing those. Another piece of advice is if someone approaches you, accept it and proceed. All the best!!! ;)
From India, Bangalore
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I think you either wanted to get your name highlighted, or you are in serious need of counseling. There is also a possibility that you have faced deja vu situations in all three companies from a very few girls, but it does not mean that the employer is practicing those. Another piece of advice is if someone approaches you, accept it and proceed. All the best!!! ;)
From India, Bangalore
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Dear Mr. Abhay Varma,
My take on this is as follows:
a) Your comment or "complaint" is just an attention grabber, or you need urgent psychiatric help. You may write to me in this forum if you want the name of a good psychiatrist.
b) I have worked in different MNCs and also two Indian corporates; never have I, or any of my colleagues, faced, seen, or heard of the issues mentioned by you. There is an old saying in medicine - the eye will see only what the mind knows! So, obviously, there is an urgent need for rewiring in your brain.
c) If you are keen to get answers, you should have mentioned (as others have asked you to do so) the industry you are in (without giving the company name), the number of years you have spent there, your own educational and cultural background, your family background, etc. A woman in a short dress may drive a person like you nuts, and you may think she is inviting you; but for most of us from civilized society, we would simply notice that the person looks good or that what she is wearing suits her, etc. The interpretation depends on your background. Remember, one person's food can be another person's poison.
d) I hope you are not one of those perverts who try to waste the collective time of people on this forum.
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Dr. R. Menon
From India, Mumbai
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My take on this is as follows:
a) Your comment or "complaint" is just an attention grabber, or you need urgent psychiatric help. You may write to me in this forum if you want the name of a good psychiatrist.
b) I have worked in different MNCs and also two Indian corporates; never have I, or any of my colleagues, faced, seen, or heard of the issues mentioned by you. There is an old saying in medicine - the eye will see only what the mind knows! So, obviously, there is an urgent need for rewiring in your brain.
c) If you are keen to get answers, you should have mentioned (as others have asked you to do so) the industry you are in (without giving the company name), the number of years you have spent there, your own educational and cultural background, your family background, etc. A woman in a short dress may drive a person like you nuts, and you may think she is inviting you; but for most of us from civilized society, we would simply notice that the person looks good or that what she is wearing suits her, etc. The interpretation depends on your background. Remember, one person's food can be another person's poison.
d) I hope you are not one of those perverts who try to waste the collective time of people on this forum.
Regards,
Dr. R. Menon
From India, Mumbai
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Hi This is just a Young Male’s Fantasy published in a wrong forum. Every bit of it is a made up story, so please don’t bother giving advice for it.
From India, Delhi
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Dear Mr. Abhay,
This is a common scenario. Before you proceed with any charges, try to identify the people who are supporting you. You may not have as many supporters as you assume, even if you are the victim.
Ashak Officer-IR
From Bangladesh, Chittagong
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This is a common scenario. Before you proceed with any charges, try to identify the people who are supporting you. You may not have as many supporters as you assume, even if you are the victim.
Ashak Officer-IR
From Bangladesh, Chittagong
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This is a bullsheet story created by this men.and try to defame MNC. I don,t agree with the story.
From India, Dehra Dun
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From India, Dehra Dun
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Oh, thanks for the feedback you all have posted here. Actually, I was expecting something like this to come back. People often only understand their own situations, so I prefer not to waste my time with you all and instead move on my way. One more thing that I gather from the responses is that some are just trying to provide evasive replies. Well, that's an easy task. Please keep your responses to yourself and allow those who truly understand the situation to answer. I hope not to offend any seniors here, but I request replies as a senior, not from someone on the roadside.
Regards, Abhay Varma
From India, Bangalore
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Dear All,
I believe Mr. Abhay has posted this query for amusement rather than for any productive purpose. It is merely frivolous and vexatious.
Therefore, I recommend that this query be promptly removed from the site.
Regards,
agdesai
From India, Madras
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I believe Mr. Abhay has posted this query for amusement rather than for any productive purpose. It is merely frivolous and vexatious.
Therefore, I recommend that this query be promptly removed from the site.
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agdesai
From India, Madras
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Mr. Abhay, I don't know how much truth is there in your query. Though your query is very much hypothetical, and I would say seems more like an attention seeker kind, but your allegations on your company and the staff working there are highly unacceptable.
If at all whatever you have said is true, have you tried to find the reason? Why is it that things are happening only to you? What steps have you taken at your personal front to deal with these matters (apart from involving the authorities)? Have you spoken to your colleagues, immediate seniors, or the management? Not everybody would react the same way.
You are questioning the fundamental objectives and foundations of MNCs, as well as the dignity of female employees as a whole. Stop doing it. Nobody pays you in an MNC for all these things. Respect people in your company as well as your company.
All the best.
From China
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If at all whatever you have said is true, have you tried to find the reason? Why is it that things are happening only to you? What steps have you taken at your personal front to deal with these matters (apart from involving the authorities)? Have you spoken to your colleagues, immediate seniors, or the management? Not everybody would react the same way.
You are questioning the fundamental objectives and foundations of MNCs, as well as the dignity of female employees as a whole. Stop doing it. Nobody pays you in an MNC for all these things. Respect people in your company as well as your company.
All the best.
From China
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Dear Mr. Abhay,
This is a serious issue. If you are really facing such kinds of problems, you can take up this case to the police with clear evidence. This is a kind of 'ragging'. This should not be allowed to continue.
Regards,
Raju
From India, Madras
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This is a serious issue. If you are really facing such kinds of problems, you can take up this case to the police with clear evidence. This is a kind of 'ragging'. This should not be allowed to continue.
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Raju
From India, Madras
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Dear Abhay Varma,
I have faced the same irritating situation in the last 2 companies where I have worked. So far, I have worked in 3 companies and have changed jobs twice. I have observed that some women in these companies behave inappropriately, inducing feelings by using indirect sexual speech and engaging in suggestive actions, like sitting near the system. This behavior has led to anxiety and made it challenging to focus on official work with colleagues who do not cooperate properly. I am 28 years old and unmarried. I detest having to deal with their inappropriate activities in the office as I consider the workplace to be sacred. Despite considering if there might be a mental health issue, I am certain there is none. As a man, I am familiar with women's gestures in these matters. Moreover, even higher officials are involved in these situations, which is why I decided to resign from my job.
I seek advice on how to handle such a situation in my next company. Please advise me, Abhay Varma.
Thanks in Advance,
Jmurugan
From India, Bangalore
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I have faced the same irritating situation in the last 2 companies where I have worked. So far, I have worked in 3 companies and have changed jobs twice. I have observed that some women in these companies behave inappropriately, inducing feelings by using indirect sexual speech and engaging in suggestive actions, like sitting near the system. This behavior has led to anxiety and made it challenging to focus on official work with colleagues who do not cooperate properly. I am 28 years old and unmarried. I detest having to deal with their inappropriate activities in the office as I consider the workplace to be sacred. Despite considering if there might be a mental health issue, I am certain there is none. As a man, I am familiar with women's gestures in these matters. Moreover, even higher officials are involved in these situations, which is why I decided to resign from my job.
I seek advice on how to handle such a situation in my next company. Please advise me, Abhay Varma.
Thanks in Advance,
Jmurugan
From India, Bangalore
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Dear Abhay,
The same situation I faced in the two companies. I have worked at three companies. So far, I have changed two companies because of sexual harassment by office colleagues. I was unable to work freely as the girls were sitting near my system and speaking bad, indirect words and engaging in sexual inducement. They wouldn't answer me properly on official matters. I suffered a lot and fell into anxiety by hearing and listening to their worst behavior. No one supported me. Everybody was involved in this bad activity, including higher officials.
Yes, you are correct, Abhay. Why should we go to the office to engage in nasty things? Men and women should not come to the workplace to participate in sexual activities. Those engaging in sexual activities in the office should go and engage in such activities in prostitution areas. They can earn a lot more money compared to the software industries. Workplaces are temples that provide a safe environment for you. Companies involved in sexual activities will definitely face consequences. They are earning only through prostitution, not in an honest way. They have no conscience. People engaged in sexual activities are even cheaper than dogs. Only an animal can behave in this manner, not a human being. It is shameful that such incidents happen in our country.
Abhay, I support you. Don't be bothered. You are a good human being and understand real life well. Don't get tensed. No tears, please. My humble advice is to get married to a good girl and lead a genuine life. Join an industry that is not involved in sexual harassment by seeking recommendations from friends and relatives or start a business. Take care. Bye.
Jmurugan.
From India, Bangalore
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The same situation I faced in the two companies. I have worked at three companies. So far, I have changed two companies because of sexual harassment by office colleagues. I was unable to work freely as the girls were sitting near my system and speaking bad, indirect words and engaging in sexual inducement. They wouldn't answer me properly on official matters. I suffered a lot and fell into anxiety by hearing and listening to their worst behavior. No one supported me. Everybody was involved in this bad activity, including higher officials.
Yes, you are correct, Abhay. Why should we go to the office to engage in nasty things? Men and women should not come to the workplace to participate in sexual activities. Those engaging in sexual activities in the office should go and engage in such activities in prostitution areas. They can earn a lot more money compared to the software industries. Workplaces are temples that provide a safe environment for you. Companies involved in sexual activities will definitely face consequences. They are earning only through prostitution, not in an honest way. They have no conscience. People engaged in sexual activities are even cheaper than dogs. Only an animal can behave in this manner, not a human being. It is shameful that such incidents happen in our country.
Abhay, I support you. Don't be bothered. You are a good human being and understand real life well. Don't get tensed. No tears, please. My humble advice is to get married to a good girl and lead a genuine life. Join an industry that is not involved in sexual harassment by seeking recommendations from friends and relatives or start a business. Take care. Bye.
Jmurugan.
From India, Bangalore
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Hey Mr. Murugan so could you let me know how have you dealt it. I would really like to know about it in detail.
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Dear Shri. Abhay Varma/JMurugan,
In Indian IT and BPO companies, I understand that a lot of sexual activities are taking place as the environment has considerably changed. There have been reports in a couple of newspapers regarding this issue. If you wish to maintain the sanctity of your body before marriage and find a good partner, you need to be mentally strong. Once you are determined mentally, no one can force you into a physical relationship. Develop this attitude by focusing on your work and avoiding colleagues who encourage physical relationships. If you come across a job that suits your nature, consider leaving your current job, even if it initially pays less. I believe this is the only solution to your current problems.
I hope this helps.
Best regards,
[Your Name]
From India, Hyderabad
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In Indian IT and BPO companies, I understand that a lot of sexual activities are taking place as the environment has considerably changed. There have been reports in a couple of newspapers regarding this issue. If you wish to maintain the sanctity of your body before marriage and find a good partner, you need to be mentally strong. Once you are determined mentally, no one can force you into a physical relationship. Develop this attitude by focusing on your work and avoiding colleagues who encourage physical relationships. If you come across a job that suits your nature, consider leaving your current job, even if it initially pays less. I believe this is the only solution to your current problems.
I hope this helps.
Best regards,
[Your Name]
From India, Hyderabad
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Dear Abhay,
I have worked in a very liberal environment company, but your assertion beats me - unacceptable. I have never seen this nor heard about this. Being from HR, I should have known. So just relax and get on with your professional life. Of course, if you have actually experienced what you claim you did, then there is always a redressal mechanism in each company, particularly in an MNC company. Why did you not report it to them?
I am sorry; I am unable to digest it.
Regards,
Neeraj
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I have worked in a very liberal environment company, but your assertion beats me - unacceptable. I have never seen this nor heard about this. Being from HR, I should have known. So just relax and get on with your professional life. Of course, if you have actually experienced what you claim you did, then there is always a redressal mechanism in each company, particularly in an MNC company. Why did you not report it to them?
I am sorry; I am unable to digest it.
Regards,
Neeraj
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I am feeling that your management advice is very wrong; it encourages you to do this. If somebody is interested in this, they automatically get involved in affairs. Secondly, does your job description say that you have to do it? If not, logically, you have to manage the show.
Regards,
M. Srinivas
From India
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M. Srinivas
From India
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Dear All,
Many of you have wasted time discussing this issue. Only a few misunderstand when a girl talks to them and view it as an invitation. This is a dangerous situation, and those individuals are in dire need of urgent medical treatment.
It is unbelievable that such incidents have occurred in MNCs that are typically vigilant about preventing sexual harassment in the workplace, unless all the MNCs he worked for are actually escort agencies.
Siva
From India, Mumbai
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Many of you have wasted time discussing this issue. Only a few misunderstand when a girl talks to them and view it as an invitation. This is a dangerous situation, and those individuals are in dire need of urgent medical treatment.
It is unbelievable that such incidents have occurred in MNCs that are typically vigilant about preventing sexual harassment in the workplace, unless all the MNCs he worked for are actually escort agencies.
Siva
From India, Mumbai
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Dear All,
Many have expressed their viewpoints. Of course, the matter is a serious issue. But the remedy is not with the forum members as it concerns individuals' likes, dislikes, work environment, ethics, etc. We could only discuss the matter here. Instances on the impression that it might have happened. Let us not go into a personal level and better refrain from accusing for what has been said. Instead, let us discuss the issue only.
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Many have expressed their viewpoints. Of course, the matter is a serious issue. But the remedy is not with the forum members as it concerns individuals' likes, dislikes, work environment, ethics, etc. We could only discuss the matter here. Instances on the impression that it might have happened. Let us not go into a personal level and better refrain from accusing for what has been said. Instead, let us discuss the issue only.
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Dear Abhay,
I feel either your interpretation of situations is wrong, or you must be a damn attractive man, the most eligible bachelor in your company's office. For your information, no company promotes any such activity in their offices. Please re-analyze the situations; wrong interpretations might cause you problems.
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From India, Jalgaon
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I feel either your interpretation of situations is wrong, or you must be a damn attractive man, the most eligible bachelor in your company's office. For your information, no company promotes any such activity in their offices. Please re-analyze the situations; wrong interpretations might cause you problems.
-Suneet
From India, Jalgaon
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Sadists try to make a victim in all the ways. I resigned from that job as everybody was involved in this matter. If you oppose them, they will definitely make fun of you while you are working. If nobody supports you in your team, you will feel lonely; they will make no evidence in a tricky way (worst hidden speech, disrespect...). According to you, your employer is also involved in this bad situation. Bite the bullet. Look for another job. Depression kills brain cells. So, my advice is: don't lose your health to earn your wealth because all your wealth cannot give you back your health. Get out of that hell. Refer to this website http://www.harassment101.com/Handbook/T1.html.
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