Questioning the Need for Marital Status Disclosure
In your second post, you mentioned, "When asked directly in the system whether single/married/divorced... has chosen to give his answer as 'single'." On this, I would like to ask one simple question: Why would you like to know the marital status of the employee? If you wish to know at all, why have you not given the right to the employee to withhold the information? By making disclosures mandatory, are you not breaching the privacy of the employee?
This information pertains to the employee's personal life; therefore, it is secondary information. How can you link the disclosure of secondary information to the "integrity" of the employee?
The Supreme Court has told the Central Government not to make the Aadhar card mandatory because it breaches the privacy of the individual. This is because ours is a democratic country, and democracy demands respecting the privacy of each citizen. Additionally, it was reported in the newspapers that our current Prime Minister, while filling out a form to contest the assembly election in the past, had left blank information about his marital status. However, while filling out the form for the Lok Sabha election, he disclosed that he is married. Nevertheless, for keeping the column blank about marital status, the Election Commission did not turn down the form of Mr. Narendra Modi. Therefore, what flexibility is the Election Commission ready to show, and why is the same flexibility your private limited company not ready to show?
If your logic is to be applied, then should we suspect our Prime Minister's integrity?
Focus on Primary Business Issues
Today's HR has far more significant issues to look at. I humbly request you to solve the primary business issues rather than delving or prying into employees' personal affairs. My experience while dealing with HR shows that there are hundreds of things that HR is supposed to do or can do that they do not.
In the olden days, in all practical purposes, business owners behaved as if they were feudal lords. The rigid social order of yesteryears has been crumbling. The workplace of the 21st century is different. Today, the major focus is on competition and innovation. It appears that you are yet to come to terms with the norms of the modern workplace. Today, even the LGBT community has gained social sanction. Just ten years ago, anybody would have frowned at such a community.
On Nomination Changes After Marriage
For Mr. Nathrao: You have written that "I know of cases where people have not changed the nomination after marriage and died with money/benefits then going to the mother or father of the employee." Such cases are common, and occasionally, such posts have come up in forums as well.
Not changing the nomination after marriage could be deliberate, or it might have happened inadvertently. Educating employees on the importance of changing the nomination after marriage is HR's duty. That is why I have written in my previous post about issuing a circular.
Cultural Differences in Privacy and Disclosure
Overall, Indians are family-oriented. That is why we end up asking questions about one's personal life. In contrast, in the US, interviewers cannot ask anything about marital life or family to job candidates. There is a list of prohibited questions for interviewers. In India, such demarcating lines are not drawn. Another aspect is about openness. We disclose too many things about family voluntarily. Therefore, those who refuse to be part of this culture of disclosure become a "different kettle of fish," as said by Mr. Nathrao.
Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar