aaron joseph
Hi, I got the Offer letter of a company, and I was supposed to join the company in a week. but I backed out from joining the company at the last moment. Now the HR has threatened me, telling that "he will make sure that I will never get into any company for the same designation. because he had made several arrangements etc.. Please help will he be able to block my opportunities. ?? ?
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What was the reason for backing out ? Backing out at the last moment is not a professional way of approach, but that does not mean that any HR personnel can block your opportunities. Employees are hired for their skills and if you have the desired profile for the post/job requirement then no one can stop you from joining them. The HR can talk ill about you in his/her circle that there is a risk in hiring you since you backed out at the last moment, but if you have a valid reason for backing out then no one dares to harm you.
From India, Ahmadabad

Hello Aaron Joseph, Like Saji mentioned, pl give ALL the details of the situation. You seem to CONVENIENTLY forget/ignore YOUR contribution to the impasse. Rgds, TS
From India, Hyderabad

Well, this is totally un-professional behavior if the HR and he.she should not behave kike this.
However, no HR's can block opportunities for you if you are skilled enough. But still better if you talk with HR and try to sought out the things in a positive manner.

From India, Lucknow

Hi Aaron,
First of all I would like to highlight that, backing out at the last moment without any notice is not at all professional, you would have told the company HR in a polite way that you are not been able to join the company. But still if you have done so, no one can block your future opportunities, If HR has said so, then he/she is also not having a professional as well as ethical approach.

From India, Kollam
vijayan Krishnan

Dear member
Any HR will try to save their face as they have to report to their higher ups about your not joining the organisaton.
Especially when you back out at the 11th hour, obviously, company may have incurred heavy loss like time consumption, advertisement, your interview cost and above all you have broken the faith in that company.
Therefore, you should not jump to any decision before rethinking twice and only after knowing the pros and cons any your future career, take a firm decision. This will avoid unwanted delay in recruitment process by HR. Finally, remember that due to your backing out the decision of joining the organisation, a company may be at a loss in every angle, which a candidate may not understand.
Hope you understand the gravity of situation of both.


Hi Aaron,

If you are having some specialized qualities, which have good values, in the industry circle, e.g. in shipping industry, people attending Customs jobs efficiently, or in Pharma industry, good MRs who have good contacts with Doctors, most of these type of people are known in similar companies by their names, personal style of work, attitude etc. If such person decides to change his job, it becomes news for all other related Companies. Also when Executives, with higher positions, think of changing jobs, it becomes news, and if they play any mischief, it is troublesome for all concerned.

If you feel, you fall in such kind of category, then to some extent, HR, who is now annoyed, because of your backing out, may spread bad words about you. Since you have backed out at 11th hour, which is certainly not a good thing, anybody will become uncomfortable, and will think of teaching you a lesson.

Ofcourse, such kind of thinking /attitude, (Yours as well HRs), is totally unprofessional, and nobody should actually behave like this. I am 100 percent sure the concerned HR has just threatened you to make you frightened, and in reality will not behave what he has said. This is a temporary anger, and he will forget the issue, once little time passes away, and once he becomes active in selection of another candidate of your designation, and also sees another equally competent person, like you. Even he may give you a big thank you, if you meet him coincidently, on any occasion, or suddenly in travel, and will say, ‘Good that you didn’t join, I got much much better person, and my bosses have given me appreciation for my Excellent job of selection of perfect candidate’. (These will be ofcourse his sarcastic remarks, to make you uncomfortable).

To conclude, I don’t think, in whatever capacity, the person is working, no HR can spoil anybody’s career by such kind of tacties. So Relax !

Suggestion : Meet the annoyed HR personally, very politely give some good reasons, for your backing out, which should sound genuine. Apologise and say Sorry (again it should sound genuine, and from bottom of your heart). I am sure, if at all he is planning to disturb your Career, he will become cool.

From India, Mumbai

Hi Aaron,

Let me add my two bits to try and address your concerns.

First, every organisation, while recruiting, goes through a whole host of resumes and the makes their selection.

Nearly always, there is a fall back plan, because no HR professional seriously excepts ALL the offers made to be accepted. Assuming the first choice does not accept the offer, the offer is made to the next candidate in "line".

It is a tall order to believe that the entire set of HR professionals are so well networked, that they will be able to (a) share the information with all the other recruiters and (b) the recruiters will reject candidates on such inputs. Apart from sharing this information with a bunch of friends in HR, nothing much will come out of it. Also, it is unlikely that even if the name is shared, the other HR folks will remember it to reject the candidate.

An overall assessment of your situation, it is unlikely that there would be an adverse fall out of your not accepting the offer.


Raju Bhatnagar

From India, Bangalore
Once the offer is accepted by a candidate, its absolutely unprofessional to back out from joining at the last moment.. as it creates a lot of problems not only for the HR professional but also for the recruitment consultant if there is one involved..

For HR, its a waste of precious time as recruitment process is a lengthy one which starts from allocating a certain budget for a particular position for which the recruitment is initiated to the point of closing the position. This involves lot many steps right from preparing a JD to start hunting the candidates from various sources like Job Portals, Networking Sites, Personal Contacts and Recruitment agencies. After going through many profiles, HR shortlists a few suitable profiles which are called out of which handfull show interest and are interviewed and only very few clear the interview... After that too there are many factors involved like Salaray Negotiations, Notice period etc.. After setting down on all these. HR makes an offer to the person who is selected the Managers of that department.. Even at this stage if the candidate is not accepting the offer, its fine.. but once the offer is accepted by the candidate, and the joining date is decided, it becomes very difficult for the HR if the candidate doesn't join.

As far as Recruitment consultant is concerned, they get paid only after the candidate joins the organization hence if in your case any consultancy is involved, your decision of backing out is going to cost them a lot as well... and ofcourse they would think twice before contacting you again for any position in future.. Hence its absolutely important for a candidate to go through all aspects of the offer made before accepting it as once accepted and then backing out leaves a bad impression to all the parties involved.



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From India, Thana

There is no compulsion for anyone to join any particular company. But if the entire process goes waste without any result,it can irritate anyone involve with the process of selection.It has been observed that some candidates take the offer letter from the new company to negotiate in his present company to get a hike, if they get it they stay back.
From my experience I can say that the HR People do remember these kind of candidates and they do not shortlist these kind of profiles even if they are in different company.Also the Recruitment agencies can put negative comment in the Resume which any recruiter can read and can decide not to shortlist any such profile.No one wants to harm anybody's career, but at the same time no one would like to harm their career also by shortlisting such profiles!
One should be ,very serious before attending a Interview, and if he is not keen for any change should not waste each others time.

From India, Chinsurah

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