Someone said, "Nice People Finish Last." Whosoever said so perhaps missed the real point altogether. He or she couldn't understand that nice people are generally not part of the race at all. So being first or coming last cannot be their focus. Not that they don't participate in races; only they shun the races being fought on the ground for they always live on a higher plane.
Tell me folks, what do you say? And what should be the true definition of being nice? For me, it's simple - not to harm anyone in any way for personal benefit. Living a life of integrity without expecting anyone else to follow the same and to contribute your best in whatever you do for achieving positive results which will manifest in something good, which would give a feeling of comfort. That's it!
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8Tell me folks, what do you say? And what should be the true definition of being nice? For me, it's simple - not to harm anyone in any way for personal benefit. Living a life of integrity without expecting anyone else to follow the same and to contribute your best in whatever you do for achieving positive results which will manifest in something good, which would give a feeling of comfort. That's it!
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What's up, friends? No comments. I think this should lead to a discussion. Being nice could be very interesting because the struggle to survive and then grow is so challenging. What's the fun if the ride is absolutely smooth? So come forward, nice people. Thanks!
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No, I don’t think so. Nice people are always successful — only you cannot measure their success in terms of money, fame and position. Meenakshi
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Nice people finish last because they give space to others. You know when there is a meeting with our Executives, everyone tries to flock to them during several occasions such as conferences, dinners, etc. Who stays around the Executives? The people who have the inclination to wag their tails. Who stays away from them? The nice people who want to give space to those who have the inclination to wag their tails in front of bosses.
In this process, organizations lose a lot because the sycophants enjoy the patronage of executives better than the nice people who are more talented if their personality traits are explored and properly motivated. The executives also mistake the self-respect aspect of these nice people as a lack of initiative, comparing them with these sycophants.
There are two kinds of people in organizations: those who serve the bosses and those who serve the organizations. The former ones rise to higher positions because of their ability to wag their tails.
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In this process, organizations lose a lot because the sycophants enjoy the patronage of executives better than the nice people who are more talented if their personality traits are explored and properly motivated. The executives also mistake the self-respect aspect of these nice people as a lack of initiative, comparing them with these sycophants.
There are two kinds of people in organizations: those who serve the bosses and those who serve the organizations. The former ones rise to higher positions because of their ability to wag their tails.
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Ha! Ha! Ha! Fantastic Chandrasekhar, well said! People wagging tails may walk big but they can't walk tall. Standing in front of the mirror, they do curse the person looking at them and shrug off and start to live the same way. In the end, they do not even have any footprints left for people to follow.
Isn't it good to see that nice people don't wag tails because they don't have one... for they are humans...
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Isn't it good to see that nice people don't wag tails because they don't have one... for they are humans...
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People who are always inclined to "follow" cannot "lead", which means they also lack "leadership qualities". They also lack courage because they cannot afford to say NO to the person they want to impress (wag)...
I don't know why we accept such people as leaders in our organizations and place them in high positions...just because they are capable of wagging their tails?
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I don't know why we accept such people as leaders in our organizations and place them in high positions...just because they are capable of wagging their tails?
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Dear Ravishankar,
Celebrate life, man, for being different! It needs courage and inner strength. You appear to have both, so why ask for wood? Enjoy the struggle; it makes life so beautiful. God bless!
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Celebrate life, man, for being different! It needs courage and inner strength. You appear to have both, so why ask for wood? Enjoy the struggle; it makes life so beautiful. God bless!
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One of the reasons why nice people end up last is that they are not recognized in our country that has dynastic politics influencing the political and administrative setup. The same culture is inculcated in the corporate system too. If we can throw new leaders in politics emerging from the middle class, this sycophancy problem will come to an end. But how will new leaders emerge in politics where people vote for "choiceless" elections?
No political party would give tickets to the intelligentsia; they prefer those who are already in politics or those who are famous (like film stars and other celebrities) or those who either have muscle power or money power.
That is how Indian politics have become insulated from the intelligentsia. During the freedom movement and thereafter for two to three decades during the prime ministership of Jawaharlal Nehru and L.B. Shashtri, there was an influence of the intelligentsia on Indian politics. Thereafter, educated people started shifting towards the corporate sector, and Indian politics was occupied by people already rooted in politics or people with money or muscle power.
That is why I have been fighting in many forums for the implementation of my Constitution reforms package wherein I have introduced several measures like "No MP or MLA can contest elections more than once." That will ensure new people entering politics. I am enclosing my Constitution Reforms Act, 2009, which also contains Q&A (questions and answers) that will shed light on what it is all about. I wish you all read and debate it in as many forums as possible so that you brilliant people can come into politics, not only to save the nation but also to provide "quality leadership" to the people of India.
You may not understand the Act because it requires insight into the Constitution, but you will definitely understand the Question and Answer session following it.
I hope you will play your part...
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No political party would give tickets to the intelligentsia; they prefer those who are already in politics or those who are famous (like film stars and other celebrities) or those who either have muscle power or money power.
That is how Indian politics have become insulated from the intelligentsia. During the freedom movement and thereafter for two to three decades during the prime ministership of Jawaharlal Nehru and L.B. Shashtri, there was an influence of the intelligentsia on Indian politics. Thereafter, educated people started shifting towards the corporate sector, and Indian politics was occupied by people already rooted in politics or people with money or muscle power.
That is why I have been fighting in many forums for the implementation of my Constitution reforms package wherein I have introduced several measures like "No MP or MLA can contest elections more than once." That will ensure new people entering politics. I am enclosing my Constitution Reforms Act, 2009, which also contains Q&A (questions and answers) that will shed light on what it is all about. I wish you all read and debate it in as many forums as possible so that you brilliant people can come into politics, not only to save the nation but also to provide "quality leadership" to the people of India.
You may not understand the Act because it requires insight into the Constitution, but you will definitely understand the Question and Answer session following it.
I hope you will play your part...
From India, Hyderabad
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OK, Sir. I can understand your silence. But the hard reality in our country is that nice people always finish last. The proof is the book I am attaching herewith this message, written on Law. I had written so many laws, including the "Empowerment of Women's Act, 2009," providing reservations to women. Whether anyone would agree with those laws or whether I am eligible to write or not are different issues.
There is quality and competence displayed, initiative taken by me. What job should the country have given me for this work and the competence shown? You all assess seeing the book I am attaching herewith.
As an HR professional, what job do you think I am eligible for?
From India, Hyderabad
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There is quality and competence displayed, initiative taken by me. What job should the country have given me for this work and the competence shown? You all assess seeing the book I am attaching herewith.
As an HR professional, what job do you think I am eligible for?
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Pursue what your heart says and what you feel comfortable doing... That's about it. If one is not happy, whatever be the status, one can't really claim to be successful. This is my perception. We can be different.
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"One of the penalties for refusing to participate in politics is that you end up being governed by your inferiors." - Plato
Sometimes, our happiness depends on outside factors too. We get up in the morning. When we go on to drive on the road, we find manholes open, drainage overflowing on roads, dust and filth accumulated in dustbins causing dirty, unbearable smell and viral fevers to our children. Cities like Tirupathi and Visakhapatnam in Andhra Pradesh, which are major cities of the state, still have an open drainage system.
What would we do? Do we say, "all these things cannot make me unhappy, it is all there in my mind...." closing our eyes and nose?
May I suggest you read the book?
It may not be possible to read the laws because the syntax is difficult to follow. But the Q&A (question and answers) after each of those laws will give you a fair idea of what it is all about.
By the way, I am very happy about what I do. Unhappiness is not about what I do, but about what others don't do. The intelligentsia sitting as a spectator when goons occupy political space is one such factor that disturbs me a lot. That is why I had written the Constitution Reforms Act, 2009, which requires that no MP, MLA can contest elections more than once. That means professionalization will come to an end in politics if these reforms are implemented.
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Sometimes, our happiness depends on outside factors too. We get up in the morning. When we go on to drive on the road, we find manholes open, drainage overflowing on roads, dust and filth accumulated in dustbins causing dirty, unbearable smell and viral fevers to our children. Cities like Tirupathi and Visakhapatnam in Andhra Pradesh, which are major cities of the state, still have an open drainage system.
What would we do? Do we say, "all these things cannot make me unhappy, it is all there in my mind...." closing our eyes and nose?
May I suggest you read the book?
It may not be possible to read the laws because the syntax is difficult to follow. But the Q&A (question and answers) after each of those laws will give you a fair idea of what it is all about.
By the way, I am very happy about what I do. Unhappiness is not about what I do, but about what others don't do. The intelligentsia sitting as a spectator when goons occupy political space is one such factor that disturbs me a lot. That is why I had written the Constitution Reforms Act, 2009, which requires that no MP, MLA can contest elections more than once. That means professionalization will come to an end in politics if these reforms are implemented.
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It's not always that nice people finish last... Let's go back to our school and college days where students who are bright always top the charts. It's not necessary that a student is on good terms with the teachers. Life teaches us both good and bad things; how we respond and lift ourselves up depends on our strength. We understand that politics exist in every organization, but how you handle them also reflects your maturity.
Our president, Dr. Manmohan Singh, is one of the nicest persons, but I believe he has not wagged his tail in front of anybody. Instead, he has used his experience to grow and reach a higher level.
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Derek Gomes
From India, Mumbai
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Our president, Dr. Manmohan Singh, is one of the nicest persons, but I believe he has not wagged his tail in front of anybody. Instead, he has used his experience to grow and reach a higher level.
Regards,
Derek Gomes
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I agree that nice people finish last and also disagree with this term.
Why do I tell you? Everyone knows why it is true that nice people finish last, and I do not think I can give more examples. You know better than me.
Now, why it is not true. In my opinion, people think nice people mean the person who gives space to others and also keeps the peace in the place, organization, or any other institution. This is the wrong definition. Winning does not go to a nice person or a bad person. Winning goes to the person who stands up and fights for his point of view and sticks with it when things are not going well or are rough. Take the example of any person. Mahatma Gandhi is a nice person, but he did not take the responsibility to make peace. He stood out on his point of view or goal and stuck with it. He is responsible for so many deaths because people obeyed his non-violence code and were killed by the Britishers, but he did not lose heart or give up. And those efforts paid off.
A nice person does not mean that you are looking for an opportunity. Did a bad person look for the opportunity, and when they found nothing, did they give up? No way. They do everything to attain their goal by hook or by crook, so they win. If a nice person works like a bad person in terms of dedication and sticks with it no matter what, then he can win. A nice person does not mean that they get the certificate that they have the right for the sympathy of others. I can write a lot of things about it, but I know that all of you are so intelligent that you can understand what I am trying to say.
Hope this helps.
Nice guy (who shares good things)
From India, New Delhi
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Why do I tell you? Everyone knows why it is true that nice people finish last, and I do not think I can give more examples. You know better than me.
Now, why it is not true. In my opinion, people think nice people mean the person who gives space to others and also keeps the peace in the place, organization, or any other institution. This is the wrong definition. Winning does not go to a nice person or a bad person. Winning goes to the person who stands up and fights for his point of view and sticks with it when things are not going well or are rough. Take the example of any person. Mahatma Gandhi is a nice person, but he did not take the responsibility to make peace. He stood out on his point of view or goal and stuck with it. He is responsible for so many deaths because people obeyed his non-violence code and were killed by the Britishers, but he did not lose heart or give up. And those efforts paid off.
A nice person does not mean that you are looking for an opportunity. Did a bad person look for the opportunity, and when they found nothing, did they give up? No way. They do everything to attain their goal by hook or by crook, so they win. If a nice person works like a bad person in terms of dedication and sticks with it no matter what, then he can win. A nice person does not mean that they get the certificate that they have the right for the sympathy of others. I can write a lot of things about it, but I know that all of you are so intelligent that you can understand what I am trying to say.
Hope this helps.
Nice guy (who shares good things)
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Stick to your stand whether it is good or bad, or whether it leads to good consequences or bad consequences - that is what Mr. Niceguy wants to say. However, I am not clear whether all successful people are nice people or all nice people are successful people. Maybe he will throw some light on it.
Coming to Mr. Derek Gomes, being "smart" is different from being "nice". It is not necessary that all bright children who top the charts are good people or nice people. By the way, Mr. Manmohan Singh is our Prime Minister, not our President. Anyway, thanks for the response.
There are two kinds of leaders in politics or in organizational life. Those who have a need to compete to show what they have and convince others about their abilities, and those who don't have to do it with anyone - by virtue of their birth to an already established person - that image itself is sufficient for others to pay their obedience. They don't have to face any debates, accept views of others, and listen to their opinions. Many successful people in our politics belong to the second category.
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Coming to Mr. Derek Gomes, being "smart" is different from being "nice". It is not necessary that all bright children who top the charts are good people or nice people. By the way, Mr. Manmohan Singh is our Prime Minister, not our President. Anyway, thanks for the response.
There are two kinds of leaders in politics or in organizational life. Those who have a need to compete to show what they have and convince others about their abilities, and those who don't have to do it with anyone - by virtue of their birth to an already established person - that image itself is sufficient for others to pay their obedience. They don't have to face any debates, accept views of others, and listen to their opinions. Many successful people in our politics belong to the second category.
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Hello,
No, how do you measure success in life? Is it solely based on vertical growth within the organization? Many times in life, despite putting in all efforts of this kind, we miss the bus.
Let me give you an example of a successful person in the organization who retired as Chief General Manager but could not become DMD. What happened was, he became frustrated as CGM for 5 precious years. If we suppose he lives for 80 years, it means he will have had 25 years of a frustrated life. Can he bring back those 25 years?
Imagine someone who has retired as a GM. It is better if he has not resorted to below-the-belt means of achieving success. Do we still respect individuals like Narsimha Rao or Dev Godda? No, because we do not expect such cheap performance in life.
Sanjay
From India, Bhilai
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No, how do you measure success in life? Is it solely based on vertical growth within the organization? Many times in life, despite putting in all efforts of this kind, we miss the bus.
Let me give you an example of a successful person in the organization who retired as Chief General Manager but could not become DMD. What happened was, he became frustrated as CGM for 5 precious years. If we suppose he lives for 80 years, it means he will have had 25 years of a frustrated life. Can he bring back those 25 years?
Imagine someone who has retired as a GM. It is better if he has not resorted to below-the-belt means of achieving success. Do we still respect individuals like Narsimha Rao or Dev Godda? No, because we do not expect such cheap performance in life.
Sanjay
From India, Bhilai
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"Don't rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can't love and respect yourself - no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are - completely; the good and the bad - and make changes as YOU see fit - not because you think someone else wants you to be different." - Stacey Charter
I wish people knew the difference between the respect paid by others to our positions and to our person. The best form of respect of all kinds of respect that we receive as human beings is self-respect. Those who worry about the respect given by others for the positions they achieve have not known the difference between 'person' and 'position'. The image and respect given by position goes off with retirement. However, the respect earned as an individual will live forever.
Those who think 'person' is subordinate to 'position' will suffer. Those who think 'position' is part of my 'personality' will enjoy whatever be the position they achieve in their vertical growth.
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I wish people knew the difference between the respect paid by others to our positions and to our person. The best form of respect of all kinds of respect that we receive as human beings is self-respect. Those who worry about the respect given by others for the positions they achieve have not known the difference between 'person' and 'position'. The image and respect given by position goes off with retirement. However, the respect earned as an individual will live forever.
Those who think 'person' is subordinate to 'position' will suffer. Those who think 'position' is part of my 'personality' will enjoy whatever be the position they achieve in their vertical growth.
From India, Hyderabad
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