I am arguing for love marriage is better. Each other understanding before getting married. The life becomes more smooth and manageable between the couple in love marriage.
From India, Kochi
From India, Kochi
May be to an extent you are right but....... Ok let me differentiate
Love Marriage :
Whenever we talk of Indian wedding we try to equate it with arranged marriages.But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. On this people may argue that even after knowing each other for so long than why people get divorced after marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where every day you discover a new thing about your partner. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern
Arranged Marriage :
In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Arranged marriages, offer more protection, security to the women. As the parents decides the family. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages.
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Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage.
:-PWhether it is love or arranged marriage the core essence in both remains the same that is true unconditional love and understanding of each other. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage:-P
From India, Madras
46Love Marriage :
Whenever we talk of Indian wedding we try to equate it with arranged marriages.But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. On this people may argue that even after knowing each other for so long than why people get divorced after marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where every day you discover a new thing about your partner. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern
Arranged Marriage :
In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Arranged marriages, offer more protection, security to the women. As the parents decides the family. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages.
Conclusion::icon1:
Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage.
:-PWhether it is love or arranged marriage the core essence in both remains the same that is true unconditional love and understanding of each other. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage:-P
From India, Madras
Love Marriage and Arranged marriage are extremly different.
Knowing each other and getting together in love marriage.
Not knowing each other and getting together in Arranged marriege.
There is differences.
From India, Kochi
Knowing each other and getting together in love marriage.
Not knowing each other and getting together in Arranged marriege.
There is differences.
From India, Kochi
Good and thorough explanation Malini... good one.. I think nothing is left to say further...
the debate is endless.....
But the bottom line is... Success is marriage is based more on the understanding than Love... is an ultimate fact.
From India, Calcutta
the debate is endless.....
But the bottom line is... Success is marriage is based more on the understanding than Love... is an ultimate fact.
From India, Calcutta
here i am not agree at all....some tiems in arrange marrige there is arrangement....but do ukno after a period of time arrange marriage bcme so healthier than love marriage..and its my persona exp ..with my mom, dada...and many more people i kno.....in old days people wre blving in arrange marriage only ,,and that time realation was so healtheir than today's....tht time people knew the value of realtion..people wrer resptcing eachother...so arrannge marriage is not bad at all..but its a gamble some time... ..
From India, Pune
From India, Pune
As per the recent survey most of the divorce cases are from love married couples. If in love marriage there is love then wht is the need of divorce.Even love persists in arranged marriage. Love is universal.
Let me know onething whether all couples who fall in love will get married........No.........Now-a-days out of 100 love couples only 10 - 15couples marry.........Love before marriage can change or end at any point of time but the love that orginates after marriage will persist forever.
Couples in love before marriage will not have any commitments they just timepass in parks, roads, theaters, college etc....But there is only 50% chances to know their real faces and if that couple gets married they especially the girl wish to have the same kind of environment around and could see the changes in their behaviours will leads to conflict and all these is due to previous sweet memories which we wish to have even after getting married. Practically this is not possible.
But the love that orginates after marriage will have family commitments, they know the extreme end and because of the understanding factor they know what are the possibilities and there are 90% chances to know their real faces. Commitment is merely nothing but adjustment.........They adjust. yes they do. Its hard to break relationships.
Let it be Love or arranged marriage it depends on the understanding and adjusting capabililty of the individual. without that no love can last long........either before marriage or after marriage.
From India, Madras
Let me know onething whether all couples who fall in love will get married........No.........Now-a-days out of 100 love couples only 10 - 15couples marry.........Love before marriage can change or end at any point of time but the love that orginates after marriage will persist forever.
Couples in love before marriage will not have any commitments they just timepass in parks, roads, theaters, college etc....But there is only 50% chances to know their real faces and if that couple gets married they especially the girl wish to have the same kind of environment around and could see the changes in their behaviours will leads to conflict and all these is due to previous sweet memories which we wish to have even after getting married. Practically this is not possible.
But the love that orginates after marriage will have family commitments, they know the extreme end and because of the understanding factor they know what are the possibilities and there are 90% chances to know their real faces. Commitment is merely nothing but adjustment.........They adjust. yes they do. Its hard to break relationships.
Let it be Love or arranged marriage it depends on the understanding and adjusting capabililty of the individual. without that no love can last long........either before marriage or after marriage.
From India, Madras
its called life/.//life is full of everything...we should take positive things only..andnow days love marraige & divorce ..do u kno bth are directly proportional..and in arange marraige..its nthing like that ......so its coms to humanbeings..there is no fault in aarange marraige and love marraige.......its deos not mean there is love in love marraige and no love is arrange marraige......finally its cmes to person ..who is on that postion.....its coems to individual thinking...maturity level ..its comes to humanbeings......and iwil tell u one thing pepole are in love marraiage are hving more prob than arranged ....and people who are in lovemarraige hving more expectationfrom the partner..they cant bear any little things also..but while in arrange marraige ...people started love slowly...people trying to kno each other......without sharing anything..pepole are trying to read the eyes even..pepole are trying to kno abt the partners through their activities.....without saying anything pepole hv o understand each and everything,feelings emotions.........mind blowing ....i really like ths.... which makes the relation stronger
From India, Pune
From India, Pune
Well defined Malini......
The fact is, there are entirely diffrent Criterea of Love & Marriage.....
Love is all about be dreamt....
and marriage is all about the life, its practicality and it's bitter facts....
In Love, We just don't want to think of those situations /or else pretty confident to handle all the situations without knowing the facts..
It is ture that........We must do love at least once in the life... and We should marry also (once only :) )... but the fect is both the terms are separate all together with the diffrent motto... might be sounds
and bottmom lines is .... I repeat again.... it is understanding which makes marriage succesful... and love too.
and just think... what's the heaves sake.. most of the love marriges have problems then arranged one....
so dont go on literal meaning... and trust on the fact whatever told by the exprienced persons.......
and remebers......There is no correction of this action in future course of life....
and the bottom line is ... repeating again.... understanding which makes marriage a success... and love too..
From India, Calcutta
The fact is, there are entirely diffrent Criterea of Love & Marriage.....
Love is all about be dreamt....
and marriage is all about the life, its practicality and it's bitter facts....
In Love, We just don't want to think of those situations /or else pretty confident to handle all the situations without knowing the facts..
It is ture that........We must do love at least once in the life... and We should marry also (once only :) )... but the fect is both the terms are separate all together with the diffrent motto... might be sounds
and bottmom lines is .... I repeat again.... it is understanding which makes marriage succesful... and love too.
and just think... what's the heaves sake.. most of the love marriges have problems then arranged one....
so dont go on literal meaning... and trust on the fact whatever told by the exprienced persons.......
and remebers......There is no correction of this action in future course of life....
and the bottom line is ... repeating again.... understanding which makes marriage a success... and love too..
From India, Calcutta
there is no right and wrong abhi. From my point of view LOVE MARRIAGE is pure in my case. If it is pure love than feelings love marriage would be an unmatchable experience
From India, Kochi
From India, Kochi
I am saying ths only .......there is no comparison btw love and arrange ..its a relation which we should give the vlaue//love .....everything...there is also the true love in arrange marraige...as i told its dpened on th eperson..who is loving whom??and wat they think abt love..relation ///value of relation and love......if i wil not undestand thses things ..i cant love in love marraige also.....and i f i wil undertsand ..i wil start love in aarange marriage....
From India, Pune
From India, Pune
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