Navigating Office Advice: Should I Focus Solely on My Performance and Promotion?

I am currently working in the HR department of a mid-sized garment manufacturing company. A few days ago, regarding a transport-related issue, one of the senior staff advised me not to offer personal help to other colleagues while in the office premises unless necessary. He suggested focusing solely on personal performance and promotion, basing work decisions on that premise. He mentioned learning this lesson throughout his career, which he continues to apply. Currently, he holds the position of CFO in the company, having been employed here for almost 10 years and accumulating over 15 years of experience.

Understanding the Advice

I am unsure about the exact meaning behind his advice. How should I interpret it? Is it appropriate for a senior staff member in his position to discuss this with a junior colleague like me within the office premises? I am curious to know whether this advice is positive, negative, or neutral.

Advice can be cynical. Help people in any way possible in a personal capacity, as it makes you a better person. In work, be professional and follow all rules and laws. However, do not spend time during working hours discussing personal problems or things that can detract from work and affect your professionalism. In no other way should you change your basic helpful nature.

Dear Asif,

Your senior has advised you: "not to do any personal help (to other colleagues) while in the office premises unless it is required." When he gave this advice, you could have sought clarification immediately. Unless we understand his mind, it would not be fair to judge his advice. He is holding the position of CFO. Undoubtedly, he must have been the victim of bad experiences in his past career. You may go back to him and seek clarification now also.

Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar

My take --

To help or not to help colleagues is a personal choice. It must be remembered that we all need help at work from others. I have tried to help others when asked or even when not asked and I sensed that the person needs assistance. New colleagues need help and guidance. I still remember and thank others who helped me. It is also a way to bond and creates a conducive working environment.

Col. Suresh Rathi

Dear Dinesh Sir,

Thank you for your valuable reply. I have a question: if I have had a bad experience during my past career, can that be used as an excuse to avoid doing something that is relevant to my current situation?

Please advise.

Thank you.