Dear Amitraj,
I do not know what to write about the definitions that you have invented. What is the source of your information? If you had provided, it would helped us to understand how come these wrong notions have crept in your mind.
Managing: - Your opening statement is quite sweeping one. You say that "
Managing your employees means damaging your employees". Managing need not be just “telling.” Managing is also giving right job to the right person. It also involves the management of the resources. The very first lesson of management teaches us that the five basic functions of management are planning, organising, staffing, directing and controlling. Do you have evidence to prove that these basic functions "damage one's employees".
Mentoring: - It appears that you do not have iota of mentoring. Mentoring is not providing the solution to the problems at workplace. Mentor need not be solution provider. Mentoring is not for building skills amongst the subordinates. You say that when a junior employee knows how to do and if you tell him/her what to do then it is Mentoring. This is against very
concept of mentoring as told in Wikipedia.
I have conducted training on how to establish mentoring programme in the company couple of times. To refer my past replies on this subject, you may refer the following links:
https://www.citehr.com/523760-mentor...ml#post2222360
a) Assessment of the ppt on mentoring: -
https://www.citehr.com/60452-mentoring.html#post621606
b) How to establish mentoring programme in the company: -
https://www.citehr.com/136301-traine...tml#post578667
c) Observation on the Mentoring programme: -
https://www.citehr.com/152868-mentor...tml#post758782
Coaching: - You have defined it is a process of asking questions which are solution oriented. However, it is against
definition of coaching given in Wikipedia.
Counselling: No comments as I have not read sufficient books on the subject.
Additional comments: - The following link gives exhaustive information on Coaching and Mentoring:
Everything you ever wanted to know about coaching and mentoring | The Coaching and Mentoring Network
As stated earlier, I have helped my clients in establishing the mentoring programme. To handle the assignments, I have read so many books on mentoring. However, I wish to quote two books. Your views totally contrary to what is being said in the above website as the following books:
The Mentoring Manager by Mr Gareth Lewis, Pitman Publishing
Coaching, Mentoring and Managing, A Career Guidebook by Micki Holiday, Published by Career Press, Inc
Gentleman, I was appalled at averment with which you have stated your views. For your convenience, I have attached one handbook on Mentoring. Go through it. Sooner you remove your misconceptions, the better!
Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar