Hello Al!
I am 2 years into the HR Field.Still at my first job. Last year I was given charge of handing HR for a circle. It is all good. I think I am doing well. But the bone of contention that my management has with me is that I am not serious enough / strong enough. They say this because I am very friendly with the staff. It took me a long time to see their point.My learning from this experience is as follows
1) HR cannot go around making friends with employees except may be with other HR's
2) I used to call every one SIR!!Right from the Sr engineer to circle head, i did so because every body was older than me. It was a colossal mistake from which I am still reeling. Like another HR friend told me, Sir Sir bologe tho sir par baitega!( excuse the grammar)
It is always wise to use the word sir judiciously.others can be addressed with a Mr.
3) My eternal need to be loved by all. As a person I have never ending need for approval from every one and to be liked. I am working on it. This has also worked against me.
Now I am trying to go in for a complete image make over . As a part of this, i have made the following changes
1) Lead by example: Never being late to office
2) Documenting Everything: To appear more professional , i write mails to document discussions.
3) I have reduced talking and laughing with everyone ( I have to fight my funny bones every day to not make a witty repartee or laugh at a hilarious joke). To not appear aloof or moody I just smile graciously.
4) There was a man who would make fun of me every time I took a leave ( Yes now you know how much of a free reign i gave every one to talk to me in any way they could)!Gave him a earful for it in front of everyone in a very humorous way but his face went red and he got the point.
I feel so safe and nice after having joined this community knowing that my community is there to help and guide. If you have the time , please let me know if I am doing any blunders in the last 4 points.Please give me tips to build a formidable reputation and not be taken for granted because of my age and experience.
I am 2 years into the HR Field.Still at my first job. Last year I was given charge of handing HR for a circle. It is all good. I think I am doing well. But the bone of contention that my management has with me is that I am not serious enough / strong enough. They say this because I am very friendly with the staff. It took me a long time to see their point.My learning from this experience is as follows
1) HR cannot go around making friends with employees except may be with other HR's
2) I used to call every one SIR!!Right from the Sr engineer to circle head, i did so because every body was older than me. It was a colossal mistake from which I am still reeling. Like another HR friend told me, Sir Sir bologe tho sir par baitega!( excuse the grammar)
It is always wise to use the word sir judiciously.others can be addressed with a Mr.
3) My eternal need to be loved by all. As a person I have never ending need for approval from every one and to be liked. I am working on it. This has also worked against me.
Now I am trying to go in for a complete image make over . As a part of this, i have made the following changes
1) Lead by example: Never being late to office
2) Documenting Everything: To appear more professional , i write mails to document discussions.
3) I have reduced talking and laughing with everyone ( I have to fight my funny bones every day to not make a witty repartee or laugh at a hilarious joke). To not appear aloof or moody I just smile graciously.
4) There was a man who would make fun of me every time I took a leave ( Yes now you know how much of a free reign i gave every one to talk to me in any way they could)!Gave him a earful for it in front of everyone in a very humorous way but his face went red and he got the point.
I feel so safe and nice after having joined this community knowing that my community is there to help and guide. If you have the time , please let me know if I am doing any blunders in the last 4 points.Please give me tips to build a formidable reputation and not be taken for granted because of my age and experience.