Challenges of Working with Female Colleagues
Earlier, I was in a different team, and in my team, there were all guys. The advantage of working with guys is that they aren't nosy and don't ask you personal questions. But working with female colleagues can be a pain at times. Of course, we gel up and relate with the same gender more compared to the opposite gender, but females can be nosy at times. Not all, but some of them. They want to know many or everything about you. I myself am female, and no offense to other females in general, but I faced this with many female employees in my current and previous organizations. They can go overboard by asking you personal questions which you're not comfortable answering. Are you married? And if you pause answering this, they get it that you're divorced, and they will have further questions - why were you divorced? What is your age? Do you love your husband? Why aren't you wearing a mangalsutra? Do you have a boyfriend? etc. And they have a habit of bragging. I don't want to sound rude by telling them "no personal questions" or "be professional" because I am new there, and they have been working there before me. So I may need their help for work in the future, so I can't afford to offend them. But their questions can be irritating at times.
I like to be friendly with people. But some people just take advantage of this friendliness, and if their comfort level increases with you, they tend to ask you personal questions. The day when I joined, one lady started asking my age and marital status, etc. And from my facial expression, she learned that I am divorced, so she said, "I understood," and her further question was - why were you divorced? I told her "No personal questions, please." The next day, she was reacting rudely and not helping me in learning my new work. It was very immature of her. Our TL is also not leading us properly. I don't want to go to HR for such small matters. At times, I wouldn't mind sharing my personal details to some extent, but some females do a lot of back-biting and badmouthing. But working with this type of team can be irritating. I am missing my old team with guys.
Regards
Earlier, I was in a different team, and in my team, there were all guys. The advantage of working with guys is that they aren't nosy and don't ask you personal questions. But working with female colleagues can be a pain at times. Of course, we gel up and relate with the same gender more compared to the opposite gender, but females can be nosy at times. Not all, but some of them. They want to know many or everything about you. I myself am female, and no offense to other females in general, but I faced this with many female employees in my current and previous organizations. They can go overboard by asking you personal questions which you're not comfortable answering. Are you married? And if you pause answering this, they get it that you're divorced, and they will have further questions - why were you divorced? What is your age? Do you love your husband? Why aren't you wearing a mangalsutra? Do you have a boyfriend? etc. And they have a habit of bragging. I don't want to sound rude by telling them "no personal questions" or "be professional" because I am new there, and they have been working there before me. So I may need their help for work in the future, so I can't afford to offend them. But their questions can be irritating at times.
I like to be friendly with people. But some people just take advantage of this friendliness, and if their comfort level increases with you, they tend to ask you personal questions. The day when I joined, one lady started asking my age and marital status, etc. And from my facial expression, she learned that I am divorced, so she said, "I understood," and her further question was - why were you divorced? I told her "No personal questions, please." The next day, she was reacting rudely and not helping me in learning my new work. It was very immature of her. Our TL is also not leading us properly. I don't want to go to HR for such small matters. At times, I wouldn't mind sharing my personal details to some extent, but some females do a lot of back-biting and badmouthing. But working with this type of team can be irritating. I am missing my old team with guys.
Regards