Being Kind or Clever?
Well both are important to live in this social, professional and smart society/world. We are social animal, so there is ultimately we require being kind in whatever relationship (Social / Professional) we have to live together and cleverness is to survive which is becoming utmost requirement today. We cannot deny this truth.
@(Cite Contribution) : A very good discussion, really appreciating and wonderful sharing “It's More Important to Be Kind than Clever“ Ma’m .. Superlike :))
And, I agree with Mr. Samvedan. One’s objectives and perceptions about his strengths/weaknesses in handling any situations are actually matters here that allow dealing with other in an appropriate manner. However, one thing I want to say here is that that expectations never create problems but over the limit/too much of expectations, which never allow one to control the situation or self. What we require in this situation is to have a balance in life with them. Life is really strange but full of experiences and as i always say myself as "a student of life" and believe so.
I believe Expectation is also important for us and we cannot live without an expectation and that is almighty truth. Objectives, perception and nature can also be change one day because this is life that uses us in his own style but what helps us in this is SEFL-CONTROL.
Every-day every-minute we expect something or anything in our life from ourselves, from others and from life in many ways, therefore, expectation is not bad but expectation that has no control bothers us alot. There is a saying “Teacher Expectations Student Achievements (TESA)” and the same rules apply for all of us in our life here.
Our Bosses expect something from us and we expect something from our juniors, and that chain relationship actually gives us a relationship/builds a team that works for achievement. And for all these we all need to live a balance life or say mixed life with being nice and cleverness.
Point No. 1 – “Least expectation allows you to perform your best, as you lose the fear of failure.”
Right and accepted however, sometime this creates many problems.
How can a Senior and Boss expect least from juniors as he/she has to get work done and until he have high expectations and show this to them (that somehow work for motivation and create passion to reach the top/ achievements) can’t get succeed. There high expectation is also important but must not lose control or balance as stated above.
Point No. 2- “A situation offering no returns, remains the best option, when you want to try out something new. All you count at the end are the lessons you have learnt. Any cost relevance, would remain specific to the situation, creating a win-win situation for both.”
What I believe is there no situation can be found that has no return anyhow anyway. No matter at what percentile and in which context but certainly get return something and here comes the point that Mr. Samvedan has pointed out above is “difference in perception and objectives”. Depends how one perceive the situation and accept or refuse with the lesson. “To win ourselves by losing” is another thing that helps us here in this kind of situation and are inter-connected to both “Being Kind and Clever” we are discussing here.
As the query says itself about ROI which is the utmost element of today’s personal and professional life. We actually cannot live without ROI (an element of Expectations) and always expect and it runs in our mind whenever we plan to perform any task or anything. Say for example, the thread/post has allow us to discuss two important element of life is also having expectations (ROI). Moreover, I believe there is no need to say what outcomes we are expecting here as we all knows.
Point No. 3- “You get an opportunity to bring in a change in the process.”
Learning (Being Nice + Cleverness) = Experience = Change
Being nice won’t get you that you require but if you put that salt of cleverness in it can taste you the balance and successful life and winning situation. By doing this we certainly can play a good role to change the system I believe.
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