How Can We Foster Constructive Discussions Without Being Overly Critical?

After reading your views on different postings today, I have analyzed that you are more interested in opposing the postings made instead of engaging in a healthy discussion for problem-solving. I personally don't know you, but as per your signature, your profile should support leading the community members in a constructive way. Your writing seems to have more of a questioning attitude rather than focusing on problem-solving as a management consultant.

Nothing personal, but I would recommend that you consider the emotions of community members before posting your comments.

Regards, Harpreet Walia

I am enjoying the healthy discussions that the forum is conducting. Having said that, "holding the salary of an employee" sounds very tyrannical! Translated into Hindi, it would mean "Jaa teri pagar japt kar li hai, Jo karna hai woh kar le." For thousands, this is exactly happening in the hinterlands and many other parts of India.

Subtle and Submissive Last Plea

However, we are discussing the very subtle and submissive last plea: "Maine Aisa Kya Kiya Hai Jo Muje Mere Mehnat Ke Paise Nahi Mileinge??????. Main Kab Aaoon???"

Please ponder.

Regards,
Retainer.

We honor views, but here's a request. Before commenting on anyone, please consider how you would present it if that person were standing in front of you. With due regard to the views shared on what someone is posting, let's keep the focus on sharing knowledge.

About Mr. Dhingra

He is a very senior professional from the industry. His words are guidance, best taken with due respect. Communication is often tricky. What we may find commanding in someone might seem like an air of casual sense and often tardiness to them.

A clear question helps us brainstorm and provide the apt solution. Here's a thread where you may find what I wish to explain: https://www.citehr.com/367546-employ...ase-guide.html

Regards,
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Respect and Understanding in Forum Interactions

Let's not judge any member on any grounds, irrespective of seniority, experience, qualification, etc. Please recall these quotes before responding to any thread:

• "All five fingers are not the same."
• "None is perfect in this world, and I am nobody."

Respect individuals as humans and nothing else. We don't hate anyone in this world; I can prove it, as we only hate bad habits visible to us.

The Nature of Written Communication

Written communication is non-direct communication. A reader perceives information from his or her perspective. If not understood, our prime responsibility is to understand the originator or thread owner and his or her queries. We should seek more information by putting forward our suggestions to gain relative information rather than commenting with an informal (negative) tone. There is a way to make individuals understand the consequences involved or associated rather than making them feel that they are wrong. If we succeed in supporting queries posted with relevant information, then the objective of the forum is met.

Purpose of the Forum

We are here to share, learn, acquire knowledge, support, promote good practices, understand trends, and do many more good things.

I didn't mean to hurt or support anyone. I don't believe in doing anything that can be a reason for losing anything that we didn't wish for. Words spoken cannot be taken back... in a similar way, once it is posted, after it's read, even if you modify it, we can't regain our lost image.

Please practice being a "down-to-earth personality." Good luck, members.

With profound regards

Dear Saswat, I think you have not seen properly in response to which post of Shivani I posted my reply. His post contained the following text, with no specific reason: "The reason I wrote I started a thread is to gain knowledge and to know what happens if this area persists. It's not necessary I am being a part of such an activity or it's my feeling. It's merely a question." If she posted some specific reason which could justify withholding pay of an employee, I would have replied accordingly. XYZ cannot be any valid reasons. In my reply, I merely asked her to quote A SPECIFIC REASON on which she would like to enhance her knowledge.

EVEN AFTER THAT, SHE HAS NOT QUOTED ANY SPECIFIC REASON SO FAR AFTER HER PREVIOUS POSTS. I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU FEEL WAS THE REASON SHE QUOTED.

Dear Mr. Dhingra,

After reading your views on different postings today, I have analyzed that you are more interested in opposing the postings made instead of engaging in a healthy discussion for problem resolution. I personally don't know you, but based on your signature, your profile should support leading the community members in a constructive manner. Your writing reflects more of a questioning attitude rather than problem-solving, which is expected from a management consultant. I mean nothing personal, but I would suggest that you consider the emotions of community members before posting your comments.

Regards, Harpreet Walia

Dear Harpreet,

Healthy discussions are not based on unknown grounds. If Shivani was interested in enhancing her knowledge, she could have asked about the reasons for putting a salary on hold instead of inquiring about "XYZ" reasons. You were also welcome to share your views for a healthy discussion to help enhance her knowledge, instead of criticizing my post.

However, if you prefer a solely negative approach as an HR professional, it will not benefit the company you work for, yourself, or the employees. An HR professional should focus on building a sincere team of employees effectively, rather than creating a group of disgruntled employees without any specific reason, merely to demonstrate ego while being in a controlling position. I believe that employees suffer the most due to the negative approach of some professionals in leadership roles.

I hope this message finds you well.

Best regards

Harpreet, only you and Shivani needed to pay attention to Alwar's advice, as both of you seem to believe in unspecified reasons for taking a wrong action, not me. I have already replied to your earlier post criticizing my response, on which you need to pay specific attention, rather than wielding your uncalled-for and undelegated powers over the employees.

If you see my post, I have later mentioned two reasons I could think of at that point in time. I have not been very active on Cite HR, and now I will make sure to write in a lucid manner so that it is communicated effectively. At the same time, I would appreciate it if you share your knowledge but don't criticize anyone. Let's share and learn together as no one is perfect.

I would like to agree with Shalini, as she eloquently conveyed a message: "Kindly consider us as learners. Don't expect that we cannot ask a simple query, which is equally important. This forum provides us with the opportunity to sort out and discuss our doubts and learn new things."

We should refrain from commenting on any member in this community. All have their own areas of expertise. Mr. Dhingra is a very senior, humble, and humanistic person, as I could gather from his posts. If you do not agree with his point of view, that is your prerogative. You may present your views with reasonable reasons in that same post. I am sure Mr. Dhingra will accept it if he is wrong. However, simply stating that he opposes every post is not the correct approach.

Thank you.

Dear Harpreet, these types of questions you can directly ask him by sending him a private email using his name, instead of placing or posting a new thread in the open forum. I would like to tell you one thing here. The development in thinking skills from early humans onwards and still taking place is only due to asking questions. After a class session, if a teacher is asking some questions, it is not with the malevolent intention to trouble you but to know how much you have learned and if there is any misunderstanding, to clear that doubt. Have you ever analyzed this thread from that perspective?

As a matter of fact, Shivani, as a learner (as you have mentioned above), you must have some politeness towards a very senior person like Mr. Dhingra. You should feel proud that you have an opportunity to interact with talented individuals like Mr. Khadir, Mr. Dhingra, and Ms. (Cite Contribution).

You can explain the complete scenario to Mr. Retainer regarding the grounds on which your payment has been put on hold. Then, surely you will receive proper guidance from this forum. Secondly, I would like to mention that instead of focusing on who is wrong, let us discuss what is wrong and how to rectify it.

I would like to reiterate one thing here; we must utilize senior persons like Mr. Dhingra for enhancing our knowledge.

Regards