Dear Rishika, I am not surprised by what your professor has said because I had a similar experience just a year back. We hired a girl through campus from one of the reputed management institutes in Chennai for my team.
A few months later, during a casual discussion, she said she was curious to know why I hired her from amongst the final five.
Reasons for Hiring
I gave my reasons as below:
- Though you did your UG through correspondence and scored only II class, I was convinced by the reason you gave. (Her father fell ill, and her elder brother was doing his engineering then. Hence, she worked as a Travel Desk Executive for four years to support the desperate financial need of the family.)
- Because you worked in a service function like Travel, I could figure out from the way you answered my situational questions that you have a good grasp of people dynamics, handling customers, being assertive without being rude, etc. These are critical traits, and if you have these traits, I already have a winning team member in my team.
- When I inquired about those testing periods of your life, I could not find a sense of frustration or angst. Instead, I could see a sense of pride that you contributed to your family's well-being. Hence, the fact that you did not do your UG through regular did not really matter to me.
When I finished speaking, there were tears in her eyes, something that I did not expect. After a few minutes, she reassured herself and said, for these reasons, she was told by her research guide in the past that there is no way she would get a job through campus.
It is sad that we find teachers who cannot help their students dream, think big, create a sense of positivity, and help them realize their true potential.
For example, there is nothing wrong in a trainer saying to an aspiring mountaineer, "no one has climbed Mount Everest." But it is absolutely unacceptable to say, "no way you can achieve it."
For a moment, assuming what your professor said is true, what is more important is not just to tell the reality. It is equally important to say what should be done to overcome it. It is equally important to inspire and say that no matter what the circumstances are in life, human beings are bestowed with the spirit to overcome them.
Rishika, while there can be male and female at a physical level, at the spirit level, we are all just one. Trust in that and go ahead. Success and accomplishments will come kissing your feet.
Wishing you all the very best...