Dear "about-....."
I have gone through the thread and your clarifications to others' queries.
I could have expected such things from a fresher, who has no experience of life and work-life; but not from a person with some worthwhile experience.
You seem to be a very sensitive and emotional person .. almost ladylike; (pardon me for saying this, but I am not a male chauvinist; this is just to highlight the 'softer' aspects of human emotion); which i evident from your post and your responses.
As some have rightly pointed out; I shall reiterate and summarize the situation as below:
- Normally, existing employees feel INSECURE and threatened when a new joinee is assigned to them in a team.
- This feeling of insecurity gets heightened if the new joinee is more talented/qualified/experienced and/or the employee himself is not so bright.
- It is too NAIVE to expect that people would help you WILLINGLY from Day-1 just because the boss said so.
- It takes TIME and some positive actions/gestures to build up RAPPORT and TRUST as a Team.
- Bad feelings about someone are contagious and the vibes is not lost upon the other person.
What you have done so far is OK as you have honestly and correctly expressed your problems.
However, you need to do more to get willing co-operation from someone who has lesser qualification and experience than you and feels threatened of his own existence in the company.
You can make a start by being LESS JUDGEMENTAL, LESS EMOTIONAL and "accepting" the other person with all his shortcomings.
Please feel free to ask, in case you need any further assistance/clarification on this.
Warm regards.