Navigating Prioritization in Relationships and Family Dynamics: Insights and Challenges

Parents or wife... If you have to choose between your wife and parents, whom would you like to choose and why?

Parents hold a special place in our hearts as they are our caregivers and have been with us since the beginning of our lives. On the other hand, a spouse is someone we choose to spend our life with and build a future together. The decision between parents and a spouse can be a difficult one as both relationships are important in different ways.

Choosing between a wife and parents ultimately depends on individual circumstances and the dynamics of each relationship. Some may prioritize their parents due to the unconditional love and support they have received over the years. Others may choose their spouse as they see them as their life partner and prioritize the relationship they have built together.

It is essential to consider the feelings and well-being of all parties involved when making such a decision. Open communication and understanding are key in navigating such complex situations.

Guys always choose their mother over their wife when it comes to matters involving their parents.

I choose my parents... anyway, we can replace husbands, but not parents.

Nope. I will prefer my wife. My parents are only supposed to give me this responsibility. "Son, this is your wife, and you are the one to take care of her." So how can I leave my wife? How can I be irresponsible?

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"....dekhoooo. girls................ what he thinkssss.............. he prefers wife.......... responsibility ???? and parents our what....... not your responsibility................. I totally disagree... with youuu"

I think boys will always choose their parents, whereas girls will always choose their husbands.

Women are made like that. When they are married, that day itself, they have to sacrifice their love of current existing relationships and turn to love only the family of the husband. Otherwise, life will become miserable.

The God has made women so strong that she can control her feelings. After my marriage is over, whenever I visit my mother's place, I feel that I have come to a stranger's house. I don't know what a strange feeling it is. God is a mystery.

"I think boys will always choose their parents, whereas girls will always choose their husbands."

Right, Nithya. I cannot understand why God has made women like this. While a woman gives everything and loves a man, the man cannot come up to our expectations.

Tricky Question ... I think the wife should understand that boys couldn't leave their parents not because he can't do it, but because he never thought of doing that. His thoughts are restricted by our ancient moral values, which is also correct.

Nowadays, I've seen a number of guys just following their wives, whatever she says, whatever she likes. How in the world can you neglect your parents....

Hey Silky,

You must have seen guys giving everything to their wives, including their dignity in society. The parents who have given their whole lives to you now, in their old age, expect some love and care from you. You are now considering yourself a wife; consider yourself a mother, and you would have an answer, DEFINITELY.

I think it's a very tough situation for everyone if they have to decide to leave one of them. In both cases, they have to survive as they can't leave without their parents. Similarly, they can't leave without their wife either.

Come on, you are a man. Love your wife; love has the power to ward off any trouble. Just assure your wife that no matter what, you are with her always. And parents, they know that you love them, no matter what step you take.

Deepak, you are 101% right. They should think once they will be a mother. A mother can leave her husband but can't leave her son/daughter.

Men have to give their dignity and all belongings to their wives; it's their duty. However, Nithya has mentioned the rest in her post.

Wife and parents are the two eyes for a guy. So, let me know, are you comfortable with a single eye... are you ready to lose one eye... both eyes are important, dear.

Rightly said, Malini.

This comparison itself is not wise. Family is family - mother, father, sibling, spouse, everyone!

I also agree that both roles are important being a son or daughter and a husband or wife. We cannot compare them with each other.

One more thought I want to add here is that husbands also have a very tough task on their hands throughout their lives, i.e., keeping a balance between both relationships.

Thanks, Singh, and I agree with you. When it comes to family, the wife is also a member of the family, so how can one differentiate her from your family? There is no question of comparison.

Parents, wife lafda - so in your office, have a girlfriend/boyfriend and have fun. In the office, you are happy, and at home, your wife is happy, your parents are happy, everyone is happy, creating a happy world! 😊

Yes, Maliiii, this is right. You are saying how it is supposed to be, dear.

But practically speaking, how many men think this way?

I see very few people.

Not every woman is lucky to be considered equal to a family member.

I will give you a practical situation:

Let us all analyze that.

Say, a wife and husband live separately. The wife is very career-conscious. Suddenly, the husband's parents will ask them to shift with them to another place and try another job. In her current job, she is well settled, got a good hike, promotion, and so on. Now, what will happen if she has to shift to another location? Is it not that she will be upset? For so many years, the husband lived alone after marriage; his parents want her to shift there and handle the family business or search for a new job. Now tell me... definitely, the wife must compromise her name and fame. What all she achieved these years is gone. Now, again, she must begin her new career. Just think.

Will the husband convince his parents, saying they will continue the same job? Or will he force his wife to quit? Waiting for answers.

Absolutely, a person who thinks about choosing is a loser. He doesn't know how to balance relationships.

Prasad is speaking practically here... I like this answer.

Definitely, my hubby gives high priority to his parents and I respect that. Because without my in-laws, how can I have such a wonderful hubby for me...

My hubby's mother is wonderful. She has taught him the culture to respect women and elders. Isn't that enough for me? I am fine with him preferring his parents. I agree with that, frankly.

Run... Cheer up! Why are you getting tensed? It's just a discussion. Of course, it's an important thing too.

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Sorry for interrupting your conversation, Runal and Malini, but this reminds me of a mosquito near my ears.

Dear All,

This is my own thread. I am the owner of this thread, so please refrain from discussing any unnecessary or irrelevant topics.

A humble request to all of you. 😛😛😃

Kindly avoid talking about mosquitoes as they are the cause of Malaria, a disease I hate. 😊

Are you talking to me, Ms. Shikha Singh? 😎😎 Talk about anything, but don't talk about mosquitoes; it's infecting others. 😎

When they are living separately, why will his parents ask them to shift?

Even if they ask him to shift, husbands in this generation will first think about the job, both his and his wife's comfort, his wife's wishes, money, and his own comfort too. Money is needed, that's why everyone works, so how can we leave that as such?

If she is well-settled, got a good hike, and promotion, then firstly, the in-laws (especially my in-laws) will not ask them to shift. Even if they do, the husband will make them understand the situation, why they cannot shift (my husband will surely do so), before consulting his wife. In the end, he narrates everything to his wife and says, "Don't worry, we aren't going anywhere."

Instead, the guy will ask his parents to come to the place where they are. I mean, instead of us shifting, he will say, "Why don't you shift to our place?"

Maliiiiii.. You have told your case.. You're lucky. That's what I can say.

Today's word: Men are selfish, that's what I can conclude.

Dear Nithya,

I read the situation given by you. It's the same as my real-life story. My husband and I are living separately due to my job, and I am settled quite well with my job. However, I am required to shift to my husband's city to settle with him after compromising with a good company, position, salary, job profile, and everything. Under such situations, we girls also compromise for our husbands.

But, if boys were in our place and we in theirs, would they compromise with their career and job for us? No, right? It's as simple as that.

Moreover, when a girl decides to marry, she emotionally and practically leaves her parents and home and starts thinking about in-laws. This means that if girls are given a choice between their husband and parents, they choose their husband without second thoughts. Isn't it?

What do others say about this?

Nitu