First:
Write to VAFI !!! :-)
Second:
Kiran, Its nice that you uphold your values. WOrk is not for pleasing your Head HR, but for giving you the mental satistfaction that your hardwork has been acknowledged.
Being a girl - I know thats what is more important to a girl than money.
I suggest, be the way you are - concentrate on your work. If there is an official purpose alone meet him. Make sure all your work has a documented proof.
Why are you getting frustrated?? Instead the girls who visit him atleast 50 times must be angry that they are not able to be wise like you. You don need someone like your Head HR to appreciate your work right? You know what you are - just keep going in the track u have set.
If you are nmodern or not modern - who cares what your Head HR feels abt you... if you want to be moern, u will.. if u dont want - u will not. Thats ur wish... not his need.
Chill and relax - and yes - Join VAFI, you will love it!