Let's try and put this in the correct perspective if possible. Here are the facts as per Prachi:
1. One senior male employee serving the organization for 7 years, currently at a Director level position
2. Stake holders (Management) are happy with him as he has proved himself over and over again for the last 7 years
3. Marries another employee but who is at a very junior level
4. officially celebrates his birthday and enjoys it
5. Now has a problem with some official celebration of his wife's birthaday
I hope i've the facts correct ? So what's changed? Believe it or not.... Quite a lot has changed. As a matter of fact very few individuals that i know of over the last 17 years of my professional life accross 3 continents would remain the same person in the journey from point 1 to point 5.
First and foremost, it's not his feeling that's coming accross in point 5, it's his wife's. She is the one who is upset at not being treated like a Director's wife and her means of communicating this is through her husband. So here is the first problem... whom should you pacify - The director or his wife? but here is a bigger problem.... Today it's her birthday, tomorrow it could be her appraisal ? It is precisely for this reason that a lot of organization do not allow spouses to work in the same organization. What does your company policy say about spouses working in the same organization? I'm positive this clause does not exist.
Now here is the main problem... Is the wife wrong in expecting to be treated as a director's wife ? Is the husband wrong in expecting a certain level of respect for his wife ? NO not really. I have read all the comments about people talking of professionalism, effeciency blah blah!!! How many of us can tolerate our family members not getting the correct treatment from our office or collegues or even friends.
Prachi this is an opportuntiy for you to understand fast what many people take years in learning. How to Manage Expectations ?
I think you can solve this problem... It's not going to be easy and the solution will not come in day 1 because most of the time change is a time consuming process except when you are changing clothes...LOL
PM me and let's discuss the how's and the what's. Whatever the outcome, we will share it with all our friends in this forum.
Cheers
Navneet Chandra
1. One senior male employee serving the organization for 7 years, currently at a Director level position
2. Stake holders (Management) are happy with him as he has proved himself over and over again for the last 7 years
3. Marries another employee but who is at a very junior level
4. officially celebrates his birthday and enjoys it
5. Now has a problem with some official celebration of his wife's birthaday
I hope i've the facts correct ? So what's changed? Believe it or not.... Quite a lot has changed. As a matter of fact very few individuals that i know of over the last 17 years of my professional life accross 3 continents would remain the same person in the journey from point 1 to point 5.
First and foremost, it's not his feeling that's coming accross in point 5, it's his wife's. She is the one who is upset at not being treated like a Director's wife and her means of communicating this is through her husband. So here is the first problem... whom should you pacify - The director or his wife? but here is a bigger problem.... Today it's her birthday, tomorrow it could be her appraisal ? It is precisely for this reason that a lot of organization do not allow spouses to work in the same organization. What does your company policy say about spouses working in the same organization? I'm positive this clause does not exist.
Now here is the main problem... Is the wife wrong in expecting to be treated as a director's wife ? Is the husband wrong in expecting a certain level of respect for his wife ? NO not really. I have read all the comments about people talking of professionalism, effeciency blah blah!!! How many of us can tolerate our family members not getting the correct treatment from our office or collegues or even friends.
Prachi this is an opportuntiy for you to understand fast what many people take years in learning. How to Manage Expectations ?
I think you can solve this problem... It's not going to be easy and the solution will not come in day 1 because most of the time change is a time consuming process except when you are changing clothes...LOL
PM me and let's discuss the how's and the what's. Whatever the outcome, we will share it with all our friends in this forum.
Cheers
Navneet Chandra