My dear friend
In my humble opinion, once a member posts a thread,
he should go through all the responses minutely.
Also he should go through his
OWN posts minutely.
You seem to have
missed my two posts on 28th May itself, (your thread was posted on 26th May); wherein I have put up certain questions.
As far as your contention that "You never came up with a solution and just beating about the bush"; I agree with you to the extent that I DO NOT BELIEVE IN GIVING SOLUTIONS ON A PLATTER and SPOON FEEDING !! Had you read the post minutely you would have got all your solutions and answers.
However, since you are not an HR person, its not expected that you should understand all the underlying issues.
Now you say that "Well,the comments were not passed at office canteen,it was a canteen outside the company."
Please RE-READ YOUR EARLIER post, wherein you had written :
"Once he was into the company canteen sitting at some corner. There he heard about some wrong comments being passed by her wife's colleagues.It was the whole team."
Further you had written in subsequent post :
"Well,the husband was saying that her colleagues were speaking really bad. They had a bet on some colour of the undergarment wore by her & one of the colleaegue lost the bet.The person who lost the bet was giving the party. He told these things to her wife,but still she is speaking to those colleagues in a very friendly way."
You explain the apparent contradictions, now that you claim otherwise. Dear friend. an HR person needs to be very careful about the statements he makes, as they are at times required to give statements in judicial and labour courts. It is good that you are not in HR deptt.
- You also missed the post by Bindu, despite being repeatedly pointed out by Mahr.
- You did not take kindly to Mr. Dhingra's (who is a very senior person in terms of experience) posts - accusing him to be a young, inexperienced HR; whereas a poster should be thankful to everyone who has taken the effort and spared time in sending a reply, even if it criticizes the issues involved. Obviously, you were only looking for some pat in the back, rather than solutions.
Hope you will read this post carefully, without any anger for not getting the reply in the manner you would have wanted it to.