Dear Hansdah,
Reply, as addressed to you, by the author of the story clearly vindicates his irritation for any good advice for an HR man.
From the thread and his other additions, you can see the husband of a female employee, who had very serious objections over the interaction of his wife with the male colleagues and their derogatory comments, preferred to tender resignation. Further, the wife when not ready to adhere to the advice of her husband for not interacting with her male colleagues, even when they try to raise bad comments for the wife, it indicates, the wife did not have any objection even if her colleagues insult her. This great HR man was not interested to post the husband and wife at different offices of the company. So, the husband can be seen to have thought as if the problem would end with his own resignation and he would feel relaxed and happy in his married life. Still further, the author of the thread preferred to get his resignation accepted by the company even against the advice of the majority of the members of this community.
Probably the author of the thread thinks the problem is all over with the wife now on acceptance of the resignation of her husband and neither she would have to interact with or to listen to comments of her male colleagues. REALLY GREAT!! He does not visualize that he paved a way to more such type of serious indiscipline in the company where her male colleagues would get total free hand not only to tease but could even dare to molest her in the absence of her husband being nowhere in the picture to see all.
The author of the thread preferred at one time to say, "Once he was into the company canteen sitting at some corner. There he heard about some wrong comments being passed by her wife's colleagues. It was the whole team." The other time (in a recent post) he states, "Well, the comments were not passed at the office canteen, it was a canteen outside the company."
In fact, I consider and already termed it as totally a fictitious story created by the author.
It is not a case of single contradiction from the side of the author of this thread. If you see all his contributions to this thread, you can find several contradictions. In fact, he tried to add spice every time to make his original story more delicious and attention-grabbing by adding several new and even contradictory contributions to attract more and more comments from community members just for his amusement. I had already expressed my doubt whether he is really an HR man. A person who could become the cause to pave the way for more and more indiscipline within the organization by preferring to accept the resignation of the husband can never be an HR man.
Needless to emphasize, there must also be other female employees in the company. If such bad elements, whose behavior could lead to the husband's resignation, are not tamed and made to learn some lesson in time, the other women employees are also definitely likely to get maltreatment from those bad elements. Rather, they may also be getting already the same treatment from those employees.
So, can you think, the person who authored the story and ended the climax with the creation of an explosive situation for his own company and all of its women employees simply to leave the company to earn a bad name for the company for the time to come, could be an HR man?
My dear friend,
In my humble opinion, once a member posts a thread, he should go through all the responses minutely. Also, he should go through his own posts minutely.
You seem to have missed my two posts on 28th May itself (your thread was posted on 26th May); wherein I have put up certain questions.
As far as your contention that "You never came up with a solution and just beating about the bush"; I agree with you to the extent that I DO NOT BELIEVE IN GIVING SOLUTIONS ON A PLATTER and SPOON-FEEDING!! Had you read the post minutely, you would have got all your solutions and answers. However, since you are not an HR person, it's not expected that you should understand all the underlying issues.
Now you say that "Well, the comments were not passed at the office canteen, it was a canteen outside the company."
Please RE-READ YOUR EARLIER post, wherein you had written, "Once he was into the company canteen sitting at some corner. There he heard about some wrong comments being passed by her wife's colleagues. It was the whole team." Further, you had written in a subsequent post, "Well, the husband was saying that her colleagues were speaking really bad. They had a bet on some color of the undergarment worn by her, and one of the colleagues lost the bet. The person who lost the bet was giving the party. He told these things to her wife, but still she is speaking to those colleagues in a very friendly way." You explain the apparent contradictions, now that you claim otherwise. Dear friend, an HR person needs to be very careful about the statements he makes, as they are at times required to give statements in judicial and labor courts. It is good that you are not in the HR department.
You also missed the post by Bindu, despite being repeatedly pointed out by Mahr. You did not take kindly to Mr. Dhingra's (who is a very senior person in terms of experience) posts - accusing him of being a young, inexperienced HR; whereas a poster should be thankful to everyone who has taken the effort and spared time in sending a reply, even if it criticizes the issues involved. Obviously, you were only looking for some pat on the back, rather than solutions.
Hope you will read this post carefully, without any anger for not getting the reply in the manner you would have wanted it to.