Rajat Joshi
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Hello to all,
I need some help ...
am to sit for an assessment n need to be sure about the happenings in HR.
it can be the visit of any big name in HR to India, or some burning issue that i should know about.
can someone plz help me out on this front ....
also if there is anyother thread existing on such or similar topic plz do let me know.....

From India, Pune
Hi Pallavi,

Well..there are so many things happenings..all u gotta do is read up a lot..like today's issue on SC jugdement on overruling the company's right on withdrawl of resignation of employee even it accepts the same..

Would like you to read this article which may help you on personal

level…may help you to tackle successfully the test..

Best of luck!!



by Barbara Brady

Do you love what you do for work? Or, do you merely

tolerate it? Or, despise it, evidenced by Sundays

spent thinking about your coming week at work, as a

deep feeling of dread slowly permeates your entire

being. In your attempt to keep Monday at bay, you try

spending Sunday doing something fun or relaxing, but

the day passes quickly, and you were never fully "in

the moment" anyway, distracted with thoughts of work…

Does this last description fit you? I hope not. Yet if

it does, there is hope.

I believe one of the biggest causes of stress is due

to internal conflict, rather than external factors. It

arises from a discrepancy between who you really are,

and what you're doing in your life and work. Put

another way, it means living incongruously. To be

"incongruous" means to be lacking harmony within

yourself because what you are doing in your life is

incompatible and not in agreement with your


In this article, I encourage you to:

1. Reflect on internal stress you may be feeling about

your work.

2.Do some exercises that will help you get back in

touch with your essence.

3. Learn how to assess what type(s) of work would not

only be a congruent match for you, but would allow you

to wake up each day energized and full of enthusiasm.

How does being incongruent relate to stress? Any

internal conflict will drain you of energy, since

there are opposing forces inside you fighting for

control. When your energy is depleted, your immune

system is compromised, making you more susceptible to

stress, and illness. With respect to work, one voice

may be telling you, "I need this job for the benefits,

and stock options. I'll be able to retire in five

years." Another voice is saying, "I don't believe in

what this company is doing. I don't feel good about

working here." Or, one voice is saying, "The job's not

that bad. I enjoy the work alright." The other side,

"I feel uneasy going to work each day. I don't know

why…I don't feel connected to my co-workers. We have

nothing in common."

In September 1995, I was working out of my home as an

outside sales consultant for a telecommunications

company in Massachusetts. I was feeling numb and

stressed. One of my voices had been saying, "Don't

complain. I can't have everything. This is a great

job! I work out of the house, have a manager I

respect, a lot of freedom, and I make good money." But

the other voice finally won out. The voice that said,

"I love talking with customers. But I could care less

about long distance! I want to find out who my

customers are, and what makes them feel alive! I want

to help them remember their passions. That's when I

feel most alive!"

That day in September was the beginning of a search to

find work that held meaning for me. First, I had to

re-connect with who I was. The process has been well

worth it.

How do you know if the internal conflict you feel is

due to work? Some signs may include:

You decided on your job for reasons based solely on

logic, without listening to your "gut feeling" about


You wear a mask at work, afraid to voice opinions

differing from the "partyline".

Your values don't match those of the company.

You start showing physical signs of stress at the job.

You lose energy at your work, and/or feel numb.

You're counting the months and days until next year's


You hear a little voice inside your head that you

choose to ignore, saying things like "What am I doing

here?" "I've got to get out of here!" "I don't know

how much more I can take…" "I can't stand this." "I

hate this job!" "Somebody help me-please!"

______________________ (fill in your own)

Once you start taking the time to get re-acquainted

with yourself, it will be easier to define what you

must have in your work for it to hold meaning for you;

work where you will feel alive, energized, and


Getting re-acquainted with yourself is a gradual

process, and can be done any number of ways. It is a

necessary process if you want to alleviate stress, and

find peace within yourself.

1. Make two lists. Title one, "The Top Ten Things I

Would Do If I Had One Year To Live." Title the next,

"The Top Ten Things I Would Do If I Won The Lottery."

See what your priorities are.

2. Meditate and /or pray. Even ten minutes a day will

help, and can also reduce your blood pressure.

3. Keep A Journal. Write down all thoughts that arise

concerning your job. See where the conflict(s) exist.

Write your thoughts after meditation, the dreams you

had the night before, or anything else.

4. Take a trip. Traveling someplace new gives us a

fresh perspective and the chance to re-create


5. Read inspirational books. Peruse the shelves at

your local bookstore.

Re-assessing your work:

1. Take some assessment tests. There is the MBTI, and

The Strong Interest Inventory. The Johnson O'Connor

Research Foundation is a great place to go to get

experientially tested on your aptitudes.

2. Brainstorm - Write down everything you love doing,

including hobbies. See if you can group any/all of

these together in the form of potential paid work.

3. Make a list of criteria for everything you would

love to have in your work and a list for everything

you don't want in your work. Asterisk the absolutes.

Make these lists based on what you've learned from all

your past work experience.

4. Talk to close friends. Find out what they see your

strengths as being. Ask them what they could see you

doing. (At the same time, don't give your power away

to anyone. Remember, in the end only you can decide

what's right for you.)

5. Lastly and most importantly, pay attention to your

energy and signs from your body however subtle. If

your work is a good fit for you overall, it should

bring your energy level up. If you're feeling drained,

de-energized, tired and bored, keep searching.

Exercise: Begin today to listen to and honor your

feelings, body signals, energy level, and thoughts.

Look for patterns. One way to do this is to keep a

daily log. Record key events that happen throughout

the day. Next to each, have columns for "Feelings",

"Body Signals", "Energy Level" and "Thoughts". Record

what pertained to each. "Events" listed could be as

simple as:

8:00 a.m. Left for work

11:00 a.m. Sales Meeting

1:00 a.m.Lunch

5:00 p.m.Left For Day

7:00 p.m. Played Softball

Don't analyze what you write. This is very important.

Wait two weeks to a month, then go back and read what

you've written, looking for patterns. How are you

feeling each morning when you arrive at work and open

the office door? Are there certain people around whom

your energy always feels drained? Do you get a spurt

of energy at 3:00 when doing a particular task at

work? Does your body feel tense during meetings? When

do you find it difficult to be "present", with your

thoughts straying to "What will I do this weekend?" or

"How soon can I leave?"

This is a gradual process. Be patient with yourself.

When you move closer to congruence in your work and

life, you will find more unity and peace. This will

free up your energy to explore additional

possibilities. With each positive step you take, your

immune system will be strengthened, making you less

susceptible to external stressors and illness.

You will know when you've discovered what you're

passionate about. You will feel "in the zone". In

darts, it's the bull's eye. In tennis, it's the soft

spot in the center of your racket, which you feel as

soon as you've hit the ball. When you state what you

love to do out loud, you may feel a "click", a

"Eureka" experience of "This is it." You will feel

sharp, on target, and fully alive.

Barbara Brady, M.I.M. Job Stress Help Consultant

From India, Pune
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