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Remember that Employees as well as Management will have loads of hope on you.
Be what you are, while justifying your role.Leadership styles might be different , but being a leader matters.
24th April 2012 From India, Hyderabad
Well, what I understand is that an HR Manager needs to be STRATEGIC.
We daily speaks about Skills need to be required/ developed to be a good HR Manager and lot more but hardly people speak over Attitude, Behaviour/ interpersonal skills of an HR Manager which are really important thing and matters a lot. What I believe is to be a good or idealistic HR Manager one must have Magnetic Confidence, Good Interpersonal Communication Skills, Leadership and Presentation skills, Motivator/Philosopher and a good Learner along with a relevant experience. HR department/personnel are only who communicates with every department/employee working under premises of an organization and therefore it is really important for one to know when, how, to whom and what to speak and react on which and why.
HRD creates good resources to work with and maintain it by many ways to attained Organization objectives that we all know and these situation demands one to act/play an important role for Organization/Department accordingly, therefore, I believe to be a good and idealistic HR Manager one needs to be STRATEGIC.
24th April 2012 From India, Gurgaon
Are you worried that people will not take me serious or the process has already started. If it is just fear, gives yourself more time before reacting.
If already people started taking you light and it is affecting your workmanship, then develop this dual expressions fast. As long as performance is not hampered, you need not worry.
24th April 2012 From India, Mumbai
It is not always possible to be in a serious mood,But I feel HR people need to draw a certain line between employees and themselves.Since They are the persons who deal with people in diffrent situations,Many a times HR become scapae goat between management and employees.So we have to behave in such a way that employees should trust us as well as they should not take us for granted.An ideal HR should know where to get serious ,where to be calm and quite and where to be aggresive.
(This is my personal opinion)
24th April 2012 From India, Pune
No need to change your nature for anyone :)
Coz you are having a gud nature of making others happy. But for a HR, they need to be little bit :) firm... If its not possible for you, dont worry. Keep quiet in those situations. Being non reactive in situations make people realize that we are expecting them to do work. I tried it and got succeeded. please try this Strategy
25th April 2012 From India
May you please help me regarding information on how to teach Supervisors or foreman’s to do weekly schedules of their activies starting from Monday to Friday. Is needed by management for control. If can have Template to work on and some facts of why is so important to have it in any organisation.
25th April 2012 From South Africa, Pretoria
I hope the suggestions given by the seniors is quite holds good. It is nothing wrong for HR Managers to be mingled with staff members and colleagues freely, but at the same time, the HR Managers should maintain official decency and decorum to maintain strict discipline of the staff members. In regard to the official business and transactions, the HR Managers should maintain strict observation, watch the work of the subordinates to complete the targeted work. Able supervision and firm decision making is necessary for smooth functioning of the HR Department. As a Manager of the Department, you have your own goals and objectives, and you have to fulfill certain norms to avoid dislocation of work.
If people are not recognizing you as serious, it is your loop-hole given to your staff members. You, being HR Manager, must maintain some standards and systematic discipline to show the dignity of the position and as well as you can extract work from others by means of your joyful interaction and involvement.
25th April 2012 From Canada, Calgary
As a HR being jolly with employees is not at all a problem. Most of the employees have fear / afraid to approach Admin/HR persons.
But it is your basic duty to maintain distance with them, this will retain your imagine & weakness will not be known to others.
Avoid discussing personal problems / official issues / gossip about others with employees.
25th April 2012 From India, Karur
From your question I gather your organisation does not have a competency frame work in place. This would provide a good indication of the behavior / competencies expected in each function.
Being jolly, smiling and joking can be considered as "People Friendly" as long as you address the task on hand, and not put it off with a joke always.
You cannot & perhaps should not change your behavior just to satisfy few people who feel something is not proper.
I suggest you focus on
a. HR Skills - are you the best HR in your firm and do people feel confident approaching you. This would include your recruitment, policy making, appraisal, training skills, etc.
b. Level of maturity - as visible through your behavior combined with Business knowledge. This is what does your company do and are you - the HR capable of supporting the business
c. Strategic thinking - based on your knowledge of business, HR and general wisdom
Hope this helps
25th April 2012 From India, Mumbai
The typical HR manager is soft spoken but strict when it comes to his job responsibility. It is alright to be light hearted but your being so empathetic must not be taken as sympathy, Be cool but strict. I had seen 24 Hr managers and Deputy managers. They were all serious and they meant business. It is better to be that way but your being your business oriented should not leave room for your employees to make small talks. Any talk with your employee must be understood as a privillege given to them as the head of HR is talking to them cordially.
25th April 2012 From India, Madras
It is alright to be cordial to the employees. but that must not be taken for your being free with their deviant manner. Every man has self respexct and your self respect should not be tarnished. Be strict but cool in your expressions, That will take care of your image.
25th April 2012 From India, Madras
You being in HR, you are dealing with human beings - first and foremost thing to remember.
You need to be jolly in mood, serious at times, strict to meet objectives of the moment, etc. as you are dealing with human beings (repeat). You meet them with their mood swings and they meet you with varieties of requirements, situations; here your maturity as well as wisdom are tested to face the situation and win over.
One has to act depends on the situation and need-of-the-hour. Hope I am correct
25th April 2012 From India, Pune
i feel u should go with Mr. Richard suggestion. its very important for hr manager to be friendly in nature b'coz then only employee will approach you for their problems n if the solution is not with u dont make commitments but surely do your best.
25th April 2012 From India, Delhi
HR managers are peoples managers.Your nature as explained by you is an absolute fit to win the people.You must win the people and people will die for you.As professional I Understand that you may be getting few set back with your jolly nature and light heartedness, but educate people below you to learn that work is always accountable and therefore company policies, rules and regulations are handy to deal with people with adverse nature.Remember Manager are stratgic and Manager like you are magical.
26th April 2012 From India, Vadodara
As you explained about yourself as follows in your words:
1. I am not very strict man
2. I can not be serious all the time
3. I always maintain Jolly mood
4. Joking with employees
5. Take situation lightly
Result of the above: People are not taking you serious. It is true and happening due to your above behaviour. Firstly you rough it out from your mind that people should be happy with you and you should always get appreciation from them, why dear you are a HR Manager and you have your own and important role in the company. Just imagine you are playing a role and you have to change accordingly. There is a need to balance your attitude according to situation to situation. Following are some tips :
1. Talk less
2. Stop Joking with employees
3. Come forwards to help their Professional & Personal life (if need)
4. Smile but not laugh
5. Maintain some distance without harm relationship
6. Behave like parents
7. Try, people should be happy through your professional approach not personal appearance or acting.
8. Your actions should be very sharp but tone should be very calm see or remember voice of Arun Govil in Ramanayan.
9. Get respect from employee through Bench Mark of your Department’s work quality and knowledge sharing
10. Don’t react with people immediately.
You try some tips mentioned above; I trust you will get out from the present situation.
26th April 2012 From India, New Delhi
HR Managers should cultivate their logic of dignity, decorum, and tackle the issues with most professional way without giving room for others to take their liberty into their hands, as otherwise, the HR Managers would become buffoons in the eyes of their subordinates. It may not be good either for personal or for professional activities.
26th April 2012 From Canada, Calgary
you have to react & take decisions according to the situation..
In other words, "We have to be just like a Mirror"..reflect the image(ourself) as per the situation..
"Polite to Genuine Employees & Strict to Adverse"
Vital Subject for Juniors like us...
26th April 2012 From India, Mumbai
you handling the situation you have mention above i will suggest you that always approch a comtemperory theory.
work according to a situation. keeping a jolly nature is not bad.but you have to show a attitued like a authoried person.
26th April 2012 From India, Hyderabad
I would like to suggest you that being an HR person, you need be strict so that people can take you seriously.otherwise, they will ignore you & will not respect you.I think you should adopt autocratic type of leadership rather than democratic.
26th April 2012 From India, Delhi
H R means High Risk.
Handling machine is easy rather handling men.
So, apart from our HR “Job,” RECRUIT – RETAIN – RETAIN, one shall;
Be good; Not seems to be good,
Be flexible; Not seems to be flexible,
Be among; Never alone,
Be an adviser; Not a ruler,
Believe in Team; Be live in Team,
Handle with care n Caution
No hire and Fire Policy.
Maturity in brain; Purity in thoughts;
Clarity in actions, humanity in receiving
Guard the Three “T”s; Thoughts,
Tongue and Temper.
Trust n Respect
26th April 2012 From India, Hyderabad
Well what I think being Friendly is not at all bad, till you have a line of control beyond which no employee is allowed , I mean that being an HR manager you need to observe people, talk to them, Interact with them because thats the only best way you can truely examine them and understand them in there real work environment but as said before you need to have a limit to every thing to keep it going well, you need to maintain balance in your work responsibilities requirements and social .
And yes acting according to the stituation is not only a mandatory skill of Hr professional but also key factor to succeed in this field, so always keep this in mind before you react and whenever you get confuse.
Hope I helped you to some extent.
26th April 2012 From Kuwait, Kuwait
You should first make an impression amongst the team you are heading. I believe you should also practice calling them by their first name. Being jolly is a good thing, but then youneed to know where to draw the line between being personal and being professional. try it!!!!!! good luck
26th April 2012 From India, Pune
In addition to this I would like to share something that there is no question about to have cool/calm, strict and friendly behavior at work or deal with others but to act according to situation demand and need of this respective profession HUMAN RESOURCE. Because anyone who is not related to Human Resource, can also have the same body language to lead his/her department personnel but is not gonna deal with every department personnel/employees. They have their own territory to work but for an HR Manager who has to work for all, have to maintain Organization culture, responsible for formation and implementation of rules & regulations for effective and systematic work for Organization along with the best cooperation and support, needs to be strategic.
A Manager for Accounts & Finance also needs to have a different body language to deal with his/her peers/subordinates, and the same is required by all other department people. Why an HR Manager required 'strategic' body language/behavior bcz this is the only department personnel who deals and works for with every department comes under any Organization.
Human Resource (HR) is not just HR but it is Human Resource Management which is responsible for how people are treated in organizations.
"An effective Management policy of the people at work".
“You being in HR, you are dealing with human beings - first and foremost thing to remember” said by Mr Suresh is appreciable and I wanna offer my thanks to him too
26th April 2012 From India, Gurgaon
First let me congratulate you for the position you hold.
Guess what?? Your question will get never ending response as it’s a million dollar question for the one who is facing the situation and also to the experts who might have either experienced or seen similar personality in colleagues or X employees. As the question itself is so tempting that even I could not hold myself getting into the list.
In general, corporate world is all about wearing a mask and hide your actual personality. Every one in the corporate world wants to meet the professional requirement which in turn may/will change their attitude, style of function, body language, behavior and so on…. as per the process needs to fulfill the role taken up. In the due course, some of them will even forget what they were prior getting into corporate world and what they are today. No fault of any one, its just Human tendency what I call it .
Now coming to the solution, your introduction says that you are an HR Manager and definitely you might have worked for several years to get into this position. Since people in all the levels have accepted you, today you are in this position. So, there is some spark in what you are already following and which has helped you through out the way till this stage. Hence, I would recommend you to continue the same with little bit of fine tuning here and there and make your way for further tenure. However, if your prior experience was in a different stream all together then I would say, you need to start wearing the mask as suggested by other.
Just think about it and take it further..
All the best
Making an attempt is the step towards Success and not attempting will lead to failure.
26th April 2012 From India, Hyderabad
Ajay Mehta put it very well "You need to act as parents" - love your employees but also discipline them. When the employees trust you they will also take your advice on situations or concerns.
Create team players who are focused on the company goal.
26th April 2012 From India, Gurgaon
That doesnot mean you should neglect your customers(employees). its a part of the job where in sometimes you may be considered very casual, easy going but that can be misunderstood of being not responsible....
27th April 2012 From India, Bangalore
Employees should have faith that if any problem would be there you are with them to solve their issues but on the same hand they also feel that if we remain casual towards displine you are there to watch strictly.
There is nothing harm in mingling but at the same time you need to draw a line of the limit upto what you should be free with them.
27th April 2012 From India, Anand
"taking situation lightly" as mentioned in your note is a BIG concern, considering your role that you have at your current organization.
You'll have to work on that, which is the toughest job for most of us. Saying "No" where it's required is important and also balancing personal & professional relationship. HR is custodian of lot of stuff, you'll have to ensure that all are following these appropriately.
Wish you all the best,
27th April 2012 From India, Hyderabad
28th April 2012 From India, New Delhi
I would like to look at this in three different personal approaches (This is absolutely my theory of approach):
1) Authority and responsibility
2)Personality and relationships
3) Psychology and consequences
All the three are very crucially and sensitively interlinked with each other and goes implicitly together. Being an HR Manager, the first approach to this is, Authority and responsibility, the main important reason why you are in the company. Here, holding this status, you are not a natural person but a body established to perform certain prescribed roles. Hence, you are HR Manager in the company, not Mr/Ms XYZ. Hence, you are expected to behave in the capacity of HR Manager - that means since you are not a natural person holding yourself the status and position of HR Manager (established person), you are not supposed to bring in your personal emotions which any day, anyway affect your work styles - like which may include partiality (though not materialistic and may not hinder others, but still...)
likes and dislikes (though not strong enough to make you love or hate, ignore or concentrate on some one...)
anger and exaggeration (which hinder your decision making abilities)
enjoyment and interdependency (affect your quality of work and moods of working)
attachments and detachments (affect your interests, performance and development)
speech (most important, affect confidentiality, matter of empathy, sincerity..) so on and so forth...
Personality and relations, here I completely speak about holding the personal, amicable and societal relationships,
Psychology and consequences, here comes the real problem!! Since, as we all know basic of psychology is same in all of us, but the psychological behavior is different from one to one almost entirely. So, what ever you are and how ever you are, the kind of behavioral impact of yours differ from one to one. Mental process : If I enjoy your behaviour I tend to like it, but my psychology says, why should I like it, I may enjoy it doesn't mean I should like it (ego), if he cracks jokes I laugh, every one laughs so I too do, when every one laughs every day, it has become routine, I no more observe the difference, hence I call it a liberation, (here you lose the grip on employer employee relation), now, being it routine and I have got some personal distraction too, hence I would like to call for a change or being relaxed, (person mixed with employee status), so let me take advantage of our kind HR manager, who is being liberal to us, who may probably understand my situation, and one takes your liberal attitude for granted, so the other starts, one by one, so when your attitude is taken for granted by all...!!, PSYCHOLOGY. Now the consequences, is that you are still a HR Manager, but employee has become no more employee but also a person, since you are responsible for triggering his emotional part of brain to react in a way that it started expecting more than usual and human tendency becoming more and more moody and expecting sensual enjoyments. CONSEQUENCES.
Hence, with the above explanations, it is clear that, First one has to be given the most importance to the core, second the average and third the least.
You are neither the employee's family nor friends to give a vice versa approach to my theory discussed above.
Hence, I would suggest you that you maintain a strict official relationship with the employees. Act like the Authoritative person. And utilize your behavioral gift during leisure, T&D times,and be jovial and build a good bond. In this way, you are triggering both kind of behaviors from the individuals, as employee as well as a person. This makes them feel you are the person who is more amicable, empathetical and understanding, at the same time strict when it comes to responsibilities and works to be done in the way it has to be done.......
When you want to have a discussion always try to keep it personal, between you and the employee, like if you want to warn, or try to improve your employee and figure out his problems affecting the work, never touch any one's emotions in front of others..!! Afterall, we are human, though employees...
Hope, you understand the implied suggestion behind my efforts.......
I also thank you, it's an opportunity to share my approaches...
All the very best
1st May 2012 From India, Bangalore
11th October 2012 From India, Pune