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Good topic! I am sure we will get a range of views on this. Here's my point. It depends directly on the culture of the organization and the values of the boss, in question.
There are many firms, which take pride in not playing favourites. There are bosses who would write off team members who may try to impress them. These leaders would have "the organization first" attitude.
At the same time, in cultures that are completely driven by human emotions, there would be an equal degree of subjectivity. Hence, they are susceptible to power plays, which will require a considerable amount of fan-following. Consequently, setting rewards to garden loyalists than meritocrats.
I look forward to the experiences as shared by our members.
Let me correlate your query with mine. Its from the employee perspective.
"Whether, shall i SATISFY MY SUPERIORS or MEET COMPANY OBJECTIVES"
You need to think on a broader spectrum while correlating my query to conclude your views, suggestions, opinion etc...
I am sure, we will enjoy sharing your views, positively....
With profound regards
You are only worried about your JOB. I am not sure whether you tried to improve your skills, talent, etc. You need to understand "why an employer can hire my services". We are not hired for satisfying employer(individual) but, we are hired to meet company's objectives.
According my knowledge, "One who meets company objectives, should be the BOSS FAVORITE" and he should be TRUSTED for his SINCERITY, HONESTY, LOYALTY, DEDICATION, HARD WORK and UNSELFISH NATURE.
Kindly do remember, BUTTERING UP nature will never last long because, HONESTY will win at any cost. Kindly don't even try to gain trust by BUTTERING UP your BOSS, such TRUST will never last long.
There is something known as INNER SATISFACTION and EXTERNAL SATISFACTION. EXTERNAL is related with BOSS and INTERNAL is related with your SKILLS, TALENTS, TRUST, WHAT YOU ACHIEVE or HAD ACHIEVED ON YOUR OWN etc..
THINK BIG, THINK OUT THE BOX, DARE TO DREAM BIG AND TRY YOUR BEST TO REALIZE YOUR GOALS......
Kindly don't mistake me because, i am very straight forward in nature as i only support SINCERITY, HONESTY, LOYALTY, DEDICATION and HARD WORK.
I was waiting eagerly for someone to post their suggestions proportionately to what you had exactly suggested. This reflects your HIGH MATURITY LEVELS.
What you said is 101% TRUE. According to me, TRUST should be found in TOP MANAGEMENT and it is TOP MANAGEMENT or BOSS should inculcate the same down the hierarchy line....This is how TRUST CAN BE BUILD in organisations.
with profound regards
Thks for ur comments.. but still i stick with the same fact like what i said before.. Boss is the final decision maker .. if u satisfy him, u r inside the company.. if not u know like what happens.. this happens in all the organizations ..I have seen many employees who have given everything to the company and got no rewards bcos of the bosses.. Truth hurts... but we cant avoid that...apart from being straight forward, also try to learn the company culture.. this will help u in future...let me remind u one thing.. Employees leave company not bcos of jobs.. but bcos of bosses... hope u understand.
First u should understand one thing that Employees leave company not bcos of job, but bcos of bosses... boss is the decision maker about an employee's future.. an employee without the support of his boss will definitely cant survive in the organization until he wins the heart of his team and boss.. apart from being straight forward u have to concentrate on the present organizational culture, which will help u grow even more better...
THKS For ur comment...
Advantages for being a Boss Favorite
1, You have complete right to do any thing (No one ask anything or obstruct)
2, You will be provide less work then others, (But Payment is In-Full)
3, For Time being you will be treated as a Special, (Lemonade by others)
Dis-advantages for being a Boss Favorite (Keep Counting)
1, You will be always dislike by other colleague's with in your office.
2, You will lose your strenght,ability, talent, internal feeling day by day.
3, You will be the first to be terminated once the Boss got changed.
4, You will not have good reputation in organisation as they see u like spy of the Boss.
5, You will be habitual of dependable in your life where ever you join.
6, Last but not least - You wasting your prestigious Time in Buttering to the Boss, Instead of gaining Knowlege and Experience.
Advantages for being Trusted Team Player.
1, You will be self confidence, with good explode of Strenght, Talent, Trust, Ability Etc.
2, You will be liked by all Members, Colleagues with in and out of the organizations.
3, Your Reputation were much higher then the Boss Fav.
4, You will be not worried of any termination, as you will stand alone in any circumstances.
5, Your hardwork will be appreciated by members at any cost.
Dis-advantages for being Trusted Team Player
1, Its only one point That is you are not the Boss Fav ...But your honesty,Hardwork will count for sure.
I do agree with you but do remember that, its organisations who are loosing TALENTED WORK FORCE, this is the major reason for ATTRITION besides PAY/COMPENSATION. There are many talented employees, who believe that, if not this organisation, someone else will hire my services.
I seriously doesn't want to grow by buttering up a wrong/bad boss, just to safe guard my job. I would love to support a GOOD BOSS, out of my way. I am sure there a GOOD BOSS in this world.
Moreover, when you match your frequency with your boss, lets say a good matured(by all means) boss, then you can see the major difference in your life..........This is the fact......A GOOD BOSS will never promote WRONG THINGS/MOVES.
Very few tried their best to change their boss mentality.....
So, why do you worry about yourself when you are not wrong......It is our HONESTY that is supporting us and even a BAD BOSS cannot harm us...
What Mr. Sayeed wrote, is the fact.......
ADVANTAGES of BEING TRUSTED TEAM PLAYER or EMPLOYEE are more than "being BOSS FAVORITE"
I have one practical query for you, hope you will respond positively...
"Just assume that, your boss had done injustice with other employees, you had realized the fact that, your boss had taken a wrong decision.
a) Now, do you still support your boss? or
b) try to convince him to change his decision
c) What if, if you fail to gain the TRUST of those employees, as you all need to support each other. Can you and your BOSS manage the organisation without the support of other employees?
With profound regards
In today's world, bosses need to know what 'drives' the employees... If impressing a boss is a driver, then one needs to leverage it to bring the best of the organization. Writing them off is probably the wrong thing. One needs to know how to manage the situation rather than get swayed otherwise!
The problem is that one could many times be both, yet suffer (in line with Sayeed's post).
Matheen is not wrong, because if the boss is oriented to the organization, your impressing him will mean that you are definitely oriented to the organization!
Let's face it... Afterall, as they put it in the US, the paradigms reads: Its my way or the highway!
But the above will be applicable only where the organisation and the boss of the organisation is having the trust and running on the strength and decision of trusted team player.
Once the boss is biased to someone and he keeps someone in his good books and believe the someone whatever he says, then it cannot be a good organisation to work at all.
As said by Ms. (Cite Contribution) if the attitude of boss is like Organisation First and running on the Trusted Team Players then the organisation will be heaven for the sincere workers and trusted team players and obviously the organisation will always be ahead.
Most of you are talking less of what the preferred choice should be, rather you are trying to tell how the boss should be.
Interesting, how one is extrapolating it to the organization being good or bad, when this is actually an individualistic phenomenon!
How i missed such a nice topic...:)
I think trusted team player with his/her consistency in performance becomes a favorite amongst boss too...yes, it will take time to fight bias and competition with many Yes Men in the company but eventually with a large team supporting you there is no way an unskilled or low skilled person stay favorite forever.
As we have seen majority here would love to be Boss's favorite, so the less traveled path is being a trusted team Man......hence less competition..so probability of success is higher....
IMHO, It entirely depends on preferences of immediate boss, unless and until 360 degree feedback mechanism well institutionalized in the company and culture of company is well managed by thorough professionals. So, I suggest, understand your immediate boss preferences (if you don't have good contacts with boss of your boss :-)) and act accordingly. That is the only way to get success in most of the companies.
Remember, if you are a team player, you would only develop skills which would stand you good even if you have someone replaces your boss for some reason or other. Keep your focus on your long term goals, you would realise, short term rat race does not serve your purpose....
The most important person who can help you in your career growth and learning, at work, is your boss. Whatever he says, good or bad, about you, definitely has an impact on your career growth. Because career growth is more than working hard, meeting deadlines, being dapper & diligent. Most often to get a promotion, increment, in any organization, you need to be in good books of your boss.
Every boss has a favourite. Ethically they should not but it’s a human nature. Like we all have favourite co-worker, favourite friend and favourite family member. If you get a boss who is going to have favourites, you have to cash on this opportunity and be the one of his favourites. If you become one then don’t flash this out proudly in front of your colleagues. Don’t acknowledge this news in front of anyone and try to be reticent, modest and humble.
To get to be favourite one has to depend on skill, hard work, talent, taking initiative etc. One has to be loyal, team player and boss appreciating to get more opportunity, exposure and learning. To become favourite one should never depend on buttering up, blandishing, servility, sycophancy etc.
Do not strive so hard to become favourite of your boss that you become dirt ball for your colleagues. If you genuinely deserve because you are efficient, dependable, honest then only your colleague will also abide with it.
Also, make sure to know all the favourites in other departments. This is not a tough job at all. They will be treated with the same very way like you are treated from your boss. You can spot them because they would be:
• Spending more time with their boss.
• Trusted and intimate.
• Get the rewarding and prestigious job/work/perk.
• Part of every meeting.
Once you spot them, be friends with them. There is nothing like getting recognition/recommendation from other bosses. This way you also get to know what’s going on in other department, company and become part of that ‘elite crowd’.
If you are on the other side and you disapprove of favouritism, do none of anything mentioned above.
Share your workplace experience about favouritism.
The HR Executive of the Organisation has sent the Master Salary file to all @ India email id, every employee came to know everybody salaries. All employees were waiting for an action to be taken towards that Executive.
But believe me or not no action instead she has been promoted to the next level because she is boss`s favourite.
I was speech less.......
Pls. comment on this.
* Commitment to the Organization and one's job
* Work hard to perform better and better
* Continually increase one's skills
* Maintain good relations with all including Boss and hence hence achieve position of both trusted person and Boss's preferred. Normally the happier situation will be to achieve both.
But world is not necessarily pefect than better be trusted person due to your abilities as first no one will ask you to leave due to your own strength and you are not limited to work only in one Organization as there are enough Organizations who would want you to join them.
If you are only Boss's preferred and do not have personal strength then you only have limited honeymoon period as someone else may occupy that position of preferance with boss or else Boss itself might leave the Organization.
As Nobomita puts it, the culture of the organisation that makes a difference.
To be or not to be boss’s favourite:
See the below link to see Sanjays view on the above topic.
To be or not to be boss
Have a great day.
If you want to be succesful, you have to be trusted team members,so that you can get the support from other team member as well, being a boss favoruite can affect your performances by not supporting by other team members ( jealousy ) ....and if you work better, you will be supported by all ,whther its boss or team members.
Its nice to know most people believe in being a trusted team player rather than a boss's fav. I have been in this situation. I guess many would have been.
My HOD wanted me to be at his beck and call and i always believed that my work should speak for me and not favouritism.. My immediate boss liked my work and trusted me, so did my entire team. My HOD didnt like the fact that i didnt want to be his fav. So he chose a colleague of mine as his 'pet' who willingly obliged (coincidently was not a good worker but a great orator). It resulted in 5 years of day to day suffering, but my team mates respected me and were always willing to help me. That HOD got transferred eventually. My colleague became the butt of jokes and ridicule and till date is known for being a 'chamcha'.
So, being honest to oneself and work is important. Everything else is secondary.
should not avoid either ( some or the other way that makes you in trouble which leads you frustrated condition ) , both art are the two eyes that is very important to view the world
try to learn both the things so that your professional life would be happy
Nowhere you can see perfect person as your boss , all human likes that his/her subordinates always to support and bow their heads to him, however don't neglect such personality , act infront of him , then do your duty with perfection . according to my first and second point , its an art .
You can't change your boss , let us change ourselves accroding to the individuals ( again remindig its an art )
One must possess various kind of art in our life to lead success in which this is also one among them
learnt it , try it , become an expert
wising you all the very best for this new learnings
I am sure Mr. Nikhil will understand and realize "the power of honesty to oneself and how important is company's objectives rather being BOSS FAVORITE or SUPERIORS PET"
With profound regards
I have also seen this happen several times... bosses tend to take their favorites whereever they go. That way, they know their team and can quickly focus on what they need to do...
However, many of you think that the team player option is the better one. Thats interesting too...
What do u think that... what is more important? Being your Boss's fav. or a trusted Team player....I mean what does your instinct says? It surprises me to see that there are people who have said that it is more important to be boss favorite these days.....but, quite humbly i would like to ask them few questions:
a. How long can you go by being your Boss favorite? What if the boss changes?
b. How long can you just 'pretend' to be competent under the shadow of your boss?
c. What about your own ethics, wherein you can just take all the credits just because you are your boss favorite wherein others who are the real performers keep suffering?
d. You think you can ever grow with an attitude like this wherein you will always be called a 'Sycophant'.
e. Real happiness comes when people around you love you trust you. Money and success just follow then......
Pardon to all those members who feel that I have gone a little out of way...but that's what i feel as far as this topic is concerned.....
If you will be a TTP then you can enjoy your work and you can allow others to enjoy their work.
Boss always will be there. You can not live without boss but should not forget that there are collegues .
Senior HR Professional, Pune