Hi all, I have been working at a software company for the past 3 years. I joined with 2.5 years of experience, and now my total experience is 5.5 years. Unfortunately, when I joined, I misrepresented my experience by giving a fake 6 months of experience. I deeply regret this decision and will always feel guilty about it. I am unsure about what to do next. Should I inform HR about this discrepancy? I am in desperate need of this job as my family depends on me. Please, can you help me with some advice on how to handle this situation? Thank you for your understanding and guidance.
From India, Mumbai
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It depends on how much you want redemption for the wrong you did. Are you willing to lose your job for the fake experience you showed? You possibly wouldn't have gotten the job had it not been for the lie.
So decide this on your own—and always remember that things get tough for everyone at some point or the other; the ones who survive, become successful, and remain at peace are the ones who choose to build their character. The others just keep juggling the lies they've thrown up in the air throughout their life.
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Sid
From India, Gurgaon
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So decide this on your own—and always remember that things get tough for everyone at some point or the other; the ones who survive, become successful, and remain at peace are the ones who choose to build their character. The others just keep juggling the lies they've thrown up in the air throughout their life.
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Sid
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What you are experiencing has been precipitated by an event or the likely occurrence of an event. Otherwise, why would it bother you this late into the piece? What that event is and its significance are best known to you.
However, I totally agree with Sid's comments above. While on the surface they may sound philosophical and may not seem to directly answer your question, nothing could be further from the truth. Please read and re-read Sid's reply a million times if you have to, and then ask yourself whether you really seek redemption (from yourself) or want to 'right' a 'wrong'. Whichever way you decide, you are right.
But make sure that your decision this time around is totally in sync with your value system and what your heart is telling you. You won't go wrong in determining your appropriate choice! Good luck and all the best!
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However, I totally agree with Sid's comments above. While on the surface they may sound philosophical and may not seem to directly answer your question, nothing could be further from the truth. Please read and re-read Sid's reply a million times if you have to, and then ask yourself whether you really seek redemption (from yourself) or want to 'right' a 'wrong'. Whichever way you decide, you are right.
But make sure that your decision this time around is totally in sync with your value system and what your heart is telling you. You won't go wrong in determining your appropriate choice! Good luck and all the best!
From India, Gurgaon
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I liked your query, which is different from the usual. It is not a question of career, as you have chosen to state it in the title, but a question of one's personal ethics and one's growth and maturity in one's spiritual journey of life, which guide our thoughts leading to decisions that translate into actions having far-reaching consequences—consequences that are more than what had been anticipated.
I agree with the opinion expressed earlier and how you can help yourself.
Examine the reasons why this thought arose in you and why it is making you feel uncomfortable now when you have willingly and proactively committed something years back. In my opinion, these are good signs that indicate your emerging spiritual growth. You wish to correct a wrong, redeem yourself from the guilt.
There are several ways to correct a mistake. Certain kinds of mistakes can never be corrected, and some mistakes become life-enduring lessons. You shall find and choose your own way to deal with this. Consider this realization and re-awakening as a blessing from the Divine.
Warm regards.
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I agree with the opinion expressed earlier and how you can help yourself.
Examine the reasons why this thought arose in you and why it is making you feel uncomfortable now when you have willingly and proactively committed something years back. In my opinion, these are good signs that indicate your emerging spiritual growth. You wish to correct a wrong, redeem yourself from the guilt.
There are several ways to correct a mistake. Certain kinds of mistakes can never be corrected, and some mistakes become life-enduring lessons. You shall find and choose your own way to deal with this. Consider this realization and re-awakening as a blessing from the Divine.
Warm regards.
From India, Delhi
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Dear Vishu,
Your past decision is clashing with your personal values. Living with values is not easy. There are temptations around to give short shrift to these values, and this is what happened when you faltered at that moment. Your repentance shows that your parents have imbibed values in you.
But then, why are you digging out your past now? Has your company started any kind of verification?
At this stage, concentrate on your performance. Give your best, learn new things in your area of activity. Take up training on soft skills on your own and groom yourself to be a better manager.
If you brood over your past decision, it may affect your performance. The second risk is that, in a slip of the tongue, you may end up revealing this black mark on your career or character.
In Marathi, there is a proverb: "Zakali Muth Savva Lakhachi." The loose meaning of this proverb is to never reveal unnecessarily what is in your closed fist.
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Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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Your past decision is clashing with your personal values. Living with values is not easy. There are temptations around to give short shrift to these values, and this is what happened when you faltered at that moment. Your repentance shows that your parents have imbibed values in you.
But then, why are you digging out your past now? Has your company started any kind of verification?
At this stage, concentrate on your performance. Give your best, learn new things in your area of activity. Take up training on soft skills on your own and groom yourself to be a better manager.
If you brood over your past decision, it may affect your performance. The second risk is that, in a slip of the tongue, you may end up revealing this black mark on your career or character.
In Marathi, there is a proverb: "Zakali Muth Savva Lakhachi." The loose meaning of this proverb is to never reveal unnecessarily what is in your closed fist.
Thanks,
Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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Hey, I'll just say, "DUDE, it's fine now as you needed it badly for the survival of your family and yours too." Now, to make up for this guilt, what you can do is give your 1000% to this company where you are working, with full loyalty, faith, and dedication, and come out with the best. And yeah, don't do it ever again. Good luck
There are better and more worthwhile things you can do to make it up, I am sure.
From India, New Delhi
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There are better and more worthwhile things you can do to make it up, I am sure.
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Thank you all for your suggestions. I found out today that my company is merging with another. If they ask for my documents, what should I do? Can I inform HR that I lost my original experience certificate, so they shouldn't consider that 6 months of experience?
The company we are merging with might have a background verification policy, but I am not certain yet.
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The company we are merging with might have a background verification policy, but I am not certain yet.
From India, Mumbai
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