In order to fight with irrational fears, I suggest you to read this story:-
One fine day, a bus driver went to the bus garage, started his bus, and drove off along the route. No problems for the first few stops - a few people got on, a few got off, and things went generally well.
At the next stop, however, a big hulk of a Pathan got on. Six feet four, built like a wrestler, arms hanging down to the ground. He glared at the conductor and said, "Pathan doesn't pay!" and sat down at the back.
Conductor didn't argue with Pathan, but he wasn't happy about it. The next day the same thing happened – Pathan got on again, made a show of refusing to pay, and sat down. And the next day, and the next..
This brought in feelings of insult, lack and shame in the conductor's heart. The conductor finally decides to go on a vacation. He works hard to building a strong physique, taske self defense classes and finally, comes back to take the role of conductor 3 months later.
He now has the courage to ask the question he should have asked the Pathan 3 months ago; why he wouldn't buy a ticket. He asked Pathan, “ticket!”. Pathan said, "Pathan doesn't pay!" So he again asked in loud voice, “ticket!’ and the driver stood up and glared back at the Pathan and screamed, " And why not?" Then the Pathan replied with a surprise look on his face, "Pathan has a bus pass.”
The moral of the story- Sometimes the problems are not as big as we make them. We overestimate our problems and underestimate our self. Like in this story, the bus conductor overestimate the problem and he made that problem so big that it never existed.
Once Mark Twain said, “I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
One fine day, a bus driver went to the bus garage, started his bus, and drove off along the route. No problems for the first few stops - a few people got on, a few got off, and things went generally well.
At the next stop, however, a big hulk of a Pathan got on. Six feet four, built like a wrestler, arms hanging down to the ground. He glared at the conductor and said, "Pathan doesn't pay!" and sat down at the back.
Conductor didn't argue with Pathan, but he wasn't happy about it. The next day the same thing happened – Pathan got on again, made a show of refusing to pay, and sat down. And the next day, and the next..
This brought in feelings of insult, lack and shame in the conductor's heart. The conductor finally decides to go on a vacation. He works hard to building a strong physique, taske self defense classes and finally, comes back to take the role of conductor 3 months later.
He now has the courage to ask the question he should have asked the Pathan 3 months ago; why he wouldn't buy a ticket. He asked Pathan, “ticket!”. Pathan said, "Pathan doesn't pay!" So he again asked in loud voice, “ticket!’ and the driver stood up and glared back at the Pathan and screamed, " And why not?" Then the Pathan replied with a surprise look on his face, "Pathan has a bus pass.”
The moral of the story- Sometimes the problems are not as big as we make them. We overestimate our problems and underestimate our self. Like in this story, the bus conductor overestimate the problem and he made that problem so big that it never existed.
Once Mark Twain said, “I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”