How Do You Handle a Talkative Employee Without Changing Your Polite Approach?

Good Day!! I am new in this field and I prefer to talk politely with all employees in the company. However, I have noticed that nowadays they have started taking me very lightly.

Handling a Talkative Employee

There is an employee who is very talkative, and I don't know how to handle this situation. Should I change my behavior? Please give me your suggestions....

To reply to your answer, kindly share what your position is in your organization and what position is held by the employee who is very talkative and with whom you want to change your behavior. This information will enable all members to provide you with suitable suggestions accordingly.

Regards,
Supriya (HR)

I do agree with Supriya. However, if you are in the HR department, I would like to say, "Be friendly but do not be friends." I have learned this. You need not shout, but you have to be extremely firm.

Hope it helps!

I fully agree with Supriya and others that you should share the position of yourself and the person in question, who is referred to as very talkative, and you are considering changing your behavior towards him. This would help many in assisting you with their experience, and you would be better equipped to make your decision.

I would also like to add that someone rightly said, "Be friendly/conduct professionally but do not be friends" - this would be very helpful for you and the organization you serve.

Hope my small contribution is helpful to you!

Regards,
Subhash

No, you don't need to change your behavior. You just have to check his work. Also, check if he is utilizing the freedom. Just give him a warning.

I would suggest that you please don't change your behavior for everyone because of one person. Secondly, try to keep an eye on that particular talkative person to determine whether he is a constructive individual in terms of his work and organizational commitments. If he is constructive, you can utilize him in many ways, such as obtaining feedback from him on specific issues, company policy advocacy, etc. Finally, make changes in your behavior specifically regarding that person.

Regards,
Anadi Shukla

Sarika, all the suggestions you have received so far are good. I am curious, however, as to what you mean by 'talkative'. For example, is this person normally gregarious, outgoing, and extroverted by nature, or is this something he (I assume) shows only with you?

Understanding the Core Issue

Second, what really troubles you? Is it your perception that people have started taking you lightly, or the talkative employee? Or do you think they are linked?

The question of change does not arise unless your understanding is complete. Seek to understand first.

My best wishes!

Regards,
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[QUOTE=Mobala;2137452] Sarika, all the suggestions you have received so far are good. I am curious, however, as to what you mean by 'talkative'. For example, is this person normally gregarious, outgoing, extroverted by nature, or is this something he (I assume) shows only with you?

Secondly, what are you really troubled by? Is it your perception that people have started taking you lightly? Or is it the talkative employee? Or do you think they are linked? The question of change does not arise unless your understanding is complete. Seek to understand first.

My best wishes! Mohan Bala

I agree with Ms. Supriya; we can suggest properly if you provide a brief about the position/designation in your company.

I also agree with Ms. Monca & Mr. Vicky. Nice learning/punchline.

Being Talkative: A Different Perspective

In my view, being talkative is not bad. The person speaking, the place, time, and the subject matter a lot. I observe that talkative persons are usually open-hearted and speak from the heart. They speak unintentionally. I somewhat disagree with Anadi. Don't discuss Company Policy, Advocacy, or other topics related to HR matters. Yes, you can talk to him regarding their departmental topics or other matters except HR-related topics. You can tell him/her in person (separately) to control talks in the workplace. Being talkative is not a basis for giving a warning to any employee. You can only guide him/her verbally to stay within limits. You need not change yourself for anybody if you are representing HR, as you will encounter lots of people with different types of nature. To give better suggestions, please brief the designations of both of you.

Regards,

I understand the actual scene of your present situation. You mentioned that you are new to the field. What you are facing with your colleagues is simply called office politics, in my opinion. But don't worry, it's temporary. Very soon, you will learn how to handle these talkative people. There is no need to change yourself; generally, this happens to all new entrants. It's like the seniors ragging the juniors. Similarly, in a company, the older employees may do this to show their superiority.

Best of luck and never give up.

If you're polite and you love to speak politely, that's good. However, sometimes you need to handle situations diplomatically and professionally.