Feeling Stuck and Ashamed: How Do I Ask My Old Job to Take Me Back Again?

I am Ali from Pakistan. I am really disturbed these days. I left my previous job four months ago to join one of my family's new businesses as a manager, but unfortunately, it didn't work out well as the business progress is very slow. Personally, I am not satisfied with the work I am doing here, and all the colors of my life have faded after leaving my previous job. To add to this, my previous company had rehired me when I left that job earlier. So, in short, this is the second time I want to rejoin that company, and personally, I feel ashamed of myself about how I should approach them once again. However, I want to rejoin them if they rehire me as I felt much more comfortable in my previous job despite the hectic nature of it. Please help me out in this situation as I am in deep depression and have no idea what to do. :(

Thanks...

It's quite commendable and admirable that you have the courage to face life—both its triumphs and tribulations—squarely. Not many possess that trait and quality, which are very necessary for anyone to move forward, regardless of circumstances.

Some additional details may help the members provide more focused suggestions: Since you have already rejoined once, how was your departure the last time it happened... rough or smooth?

Options to Consider

Regarding your situation, consider the following options—you would be the best judge to decide which one has a better chance to work out:

1. If you have any friends still in that company, why not 'sound' them out and see what comes out? That could provide you with some insights to help you decide your next step.
2. How was your relationship with your former boss? If it was good, you could also call him up and ask for some time to discuss this face-to-face—I wouldn't advise discussing this over the phone.

Regarding your 'feeling ashamed,' I believe that only indicates your sincerity and genuine willingness to make amends.

All the best.

Regards,
TS

Going back can be a good option at this stage if you truly value what you have there. Don't ignore the fact that you may not be receiving good offers elsewhere at this point in time. Generally, one does not find everything perfect everywhere, so it is up to you to prioritize what matters most in life and make necessary adjustments.

Since you have a good relationship with your previous employer, consider speaking to them to explore if there is a suitable position available for you. Just ensure you avoid repeating the same mistake again.

With Regards,

There is nothing serious in your case. You left to join the family business. It didn't work well, so there is nothing big in going back. The important point is if the employer is taking you back and if yes, he was and is satisfied and sure of your performance. Going back is not important and never hurts anyone's self-respect. A performer is only rehired and taken back, and as long as you are performing well, you are an asset to any company. So without any second thought, you can go back but must justify them by performing well and even working better than your previous stint.

Wish you all the best.

Our friends have given very good suggestions regarding the decision to rejoin the previous employer. Don't repent, and don't be disturbed. Your previous employer has decided to rehire you because of your performance and good behavior during your tenure. This is called a smooth parting.

"We have observed many cases where employees don't consider their existing employer at the time of exit. They neglect serving the notice period and obtaining relieving letters. Subsequently, they face many difficulties. This type of behavior not only reflects poorly on these employees in the existing company but also in the new company."

So Ali, don't be disturbed and don't regret your decision to rejoin.

With Best Wishes

Thank you all for your kind suggestions. Yesterday, I met with my department's director, but from his attitude and conversation, I feel that he doesn't want me to rejoin. His main focus was that "we can't trust you this time" and suggested I look for another job, wishing me the best of luck. I am disappointed by the feedback he has given, but he asked me to reconnect with him after two weeks as he mentioned he needs to confirm the rehiring policy with HR and other stakeholders. Let's see what happens, but at least now I don't have regrets that I didn't try from my side. I will surely update you on what happens after two weeks. :)

Thanks,
Ali

Also, I suggest keeping an eye out for other job openings so that you don't get stuck in the worst-case scenario—the director saying no in the end. Like the saying goes: "Don't put all your eggs in one basket."

Regards,
TS

We are glad that you tried. Here's what I suggest: try to recollect the tasks you delivered and chalk out a plan on how you can deliver them better. Try conducting some research to identify if the workflows have changed and customize your plan accordingly.

Email the document to the director and do take his feedback. This would show your eagerness to deliver better this time and might help you secure the role.

We wish you success. Please keep us posted.