Hi Shivani,
As a female HRM, I emphathise with your situation. I think you have gotten a good share of advice from the above posts. I would like to suggest you read-up on 'Impression Management' from whichever source you can get. Sometimes consciously or unconsciously, our actions and words will always cause people to form impressions of us ranging from whether we are professional, novices, firm, fair, respectful, considerate, helpful, etc. Unfortunately some impressions formed of us by others are never discussed directly and we have no opportunity to explain or correct ourselves.
My advice is based on your comment "all other staff members are very traditional and cannot communicate even properly. All of them are very unprofessional and from villages. Somehow i m not matching with them". Could it be that you have mental stereotypes of how village or traditional type people normally are and so are getting a 'self-fulfilling prophesy' - i.e. why act differently if she has already concluded on what we are?? Or they too have a stereotype of 'young female/urban bosses/HR executives' and the two parties are caught up in a cycle of sorts?
You might be surprised that while you may not have uttered such words to them, they can infer them from your attitude, communication style or decisions you are making on a day to day basis. You have to determine first what impression do I want my staff or seniors or even external parties get of me as a HR practitioner - and then align your actions accordingly.
I hope you find a way out and I like your attitude of 'not escaping' but sometimes I vote if you have given it your best shot and still a job is beginning to affect your personality or health beyond reasonable degree, then it is no crime to decide there is no cultural fit and find somewhere else where you enjoy your job and work environment - after all we spend much time at work and deserve to be happy there too...
Good luck...
Winnie
As a female HRM, I emphathise with your situation. I think you have gotten a good share of advice from the above posts. I would like to suggest you read-up on 'Impression Management' from whichever source you can get. Sometimes consciously or unconsciously, our actions and words will always cause people to form impressions of us ranging from whether we are professional, novices, firm, fair, respectful, considerate, helpful, etc. Unfortunately some impressions formed of us by others are never discussed directly and we have no opportunity to explain or correct ourselves.
My advice is based on your comment "all other staff members are very traditional and cannot communicate even properly. All of them are very unprofessional and from villages. Somehow i m not matching with them". Could it be that you have mental stereotypes of how village or traditional type people normally are and so are getting a 'self-fulfilling prophesy' - i.e. why act differently if she has already concluded on what we are?? Or they too have a stereotype of 'young female/urban bosses/HR executives' and the two parties are caught up in a cycle of sorts?
You might be surprised that while you may not have uttered such words to them, they can infer them from your attitude, communication style or decisions you are making on a day to day basis. You have to determine first what impression do I want my staff or seniors or even external parties get of me as a HR practitioner - and then align your actions accordingly.
I hope you find a way out and I like your attitude of 'not escaping' but sometimes I vote if you have given it your best shot and still a job is beginning to affect your personality or health beyond reasonable degree, then it is no crime to decide there is no cultural fit and find somewhere else where you enjoy your job and work environment - after all we spend much time at work and deserve to be happy there too...
Good luck...
Winnie