I do appreciate and empathize with the situation you mentioned. However, it looks like there are THREE issues that seem to have been mixed up—quite understandable when it's YOU who faced the flak.
The Issues
The issues are: (1) Background Checks (2) Break in career—leading to all sorts of queries from HR in the interviews, and (3) how tough it is to get a job after a divorce.
Background Checks
Taking the first one—Background Checks—like (Cite Contribution) mentioned, they are 'primarily to validate the educational and employment data, as provided by the candidate.' As of today, any Employment BC in India does not include Criminal BC—which actually needs access to Police records [it's prevalent in other countries though].
Career Break
Next, the second one—Career Break. I suggest looking at this aspect from the HR's perspective [like you put yourself in your friend's shoes, for a moment, think you are HR]. How would you be sure that the career break is for logical and reasonably justifiable reasons unless you inquire pointedly—while watching the words being spoken along with the body language?
If you go through some of the threads in CiteHR, you would realize that there will be persons who resign for flimsy reasons and then, when he/she finds it tough to get another job, come out with all sorts of stories for the career gap. Hope you get the point.
Settling in Career After Divorce
Now coming to the third—actual—reason for you posting this thread—Settling again in career after a divorce [with the associated career gap, mental agony, and low psychological threshold]. This specific issue was discussed earlier in CiteHR [not sure when exactly, but it would be over a year back, I guess].
The key to handling such issues in interviews would be to PREEMPT the topic veering towards this issue at all. Since once this point comes on the table, there's no way one can avoid answering any/all queries with respect to the divorce—if the reply is avoided, it COULD be perceived as 'avoiding' rather than a 'hesitation to revisit a painful past.'
Frankly, I know this is tough to accept—but that's the world we live in. So better to preempt than to give scope for the situation and then go about resolving/handling it.
I recollect having suggested in the earlier thread that the best response for a career gap due to this specific reason could be: "My presence was absolutely needed at home due to personal/family reasons. With personal commitments, I didn't want to do a job half-heartedly—hence left the earlier job. Now that things have settled down on the personal front, I want to take up a job again."
Though the wording can change, the gist is this.
There are three angles one would be covering by such a stand: (1) NOT lying—since a divorce too is a strictly personal matter (2) Usually, no HR insists on discussing the issue further once the 'personal reason' stand is taken—preempting the topic to go in the direction you DON'T want to (3) Once things settle down [assuming the Offer is made] and depending on one's comfort level, the details can be revealed later to whoever can be trusted to understand the situation, without adverse/cynical comments—thereby avoiding any unwanted attention from 'male chauvinists' (like Jacob mentioned).
And, I think, I had also mentioned in the earlier thread that you would ALSO be SUBTLY conveying the commitment to anything you take up to do—you didn't continue with the earlier job just for the sake of salary, even though you could have done it. Hope you get what I mean.
Hope I have understood and covered what you actually wanted to convey.
All the Best.
Regards,
TS