Hi Riya
Your problem of lack of
self esteem and the answer to it lies in your own sharing above.
The answer lies in your statement ' soon I get depressed when I see others going ahead of me'.
Let me elaborate on it. People normally tend to
compare themselves with others ostensibly to find areas of improvement for themselves. However in the process of comparing we end up making the mistake of 'selectively' comparing. This is like school days when most parents would pick up the marks of those who scored highest in a subject and then compare their child's score for that subject with that of the topper. The net result is that the child's performance seems average or mediocre even if the child is in the top percentile overall in the class.
On the other hand in the business world, they use a term
bench marking to compare products with those of the competition. Here all parameters of the product are evaluated against that of a competing product. The areas of deficiency are then identified and efforts made to rectify it so that the product meets the customer expectations when evaluated with a competing product.
Ideally you must
focus on your strengths and abilities rather and aim to make the best of these assets that you posses. At the same time
be realistic about your weakness (e.g. your fear of public speaking that you indicated in your sharing above) and systematically work towards eliminating it. As you are prepared to work towards your goals, it is important that you
WRITE down your long term, medium term and short term goals preferably following the
SMART goal formula. Do not forget to periodically review your goals and make changes as you deem necessary. You must
periodically benchmark your progress with those of your peers not merely as a measure of evaluating competition but to give you a realistic feel of how you are faring.
Finally, it is essential that you are motivated. While the extrinsic motivators would be vital for career growth and financial well being, in the long term it is the intrinsic motivators that will determine your passion, zeal and persistence to achieve your professional, personal, financial, social and self actualization goals. You also need to
regularly identify, enjoy and celebrate the big and small success that you achieve, to keep your enthusiasm high, your motivational levels at peak levels and reinforce your own self belief.
I would also invite you to go through the inputs in the following Inspirational and Motivational blogs listed below, which can also give you a lot of inputs on keeping your enthusiasm, spirit and zeal alive and dynamic.
www.actspot.wordpress.com
www.poweract.blogspot.com
Best Wishes