Exploring Perspectives on Daughters and Parenting Roles in Modern Society

DAUGHTERS ARE GOD’S GIFT TO PARENTS

Anytime if parents feel being surrounded by all the world's unhappiness, then try to spend some time with their daughter with all their heart, talk to her with all their frankness with an open heart, then they will acquire more than Mount Everest's coolness and experience the utmost peace.
Daughter is parent's eternal breath that they cannot live without and when the time comes, they cannot leave.

God has created daughter and made a favour to the parents.The daughter's love towards parents is always the same from birth to eternity.

The daughter will go to any corner of the earth but will never be far from parent's heart.

The attachment of the daughter with parents will never be loose.Daughter is the real truth. A son sometimes could be in a doubtful situation. May be that's why our learned ancestors always said a daughter is a father's heart... and that's why anytime the daughter marries and goes away with her husband, the parents shed tears.

Ensuring of one's self, those who have done good deeds in previous life would have the God’s given gift of a daughter!

(Sincerely, no offence intended to sons)

You are right, but why do they give their God's gift to someone else? Why do they share their gift with someone else?

For security reasons, they cannot take care of the treasure (or gift) until the end. So, they decide to give it to safe hands that can take care of the gift as they did.

What do you mean by sharing? I didn't get you. How can you share?

Hi Ruchi, I quite agree with your point, but this is for her better future only. Nevertheless, my salute to all the daughters of this world. Mr. Karthik deserves a hats off for this post.

Regards,

I mean, why is it so necessary to marry and leave our parents? It's very tough to leave them and to stay with others for the whole life! I am not saying others are bad, but it's not fair to girls, not at all.

In some cases, boys settle down in girls' houses - the other way around. This custom is actually followed in a village. I remember the news, but I do not recall the name of the place. Times have changed; even in metros, girls get married and have their husbands stay at their home. I've personally seen a dozen cases like this in Chennai. It happens everywhere and is no longer a rare phenomenon.

No, girls are not a gift; they are considered a burden. Whenever a girl is born in the world, parents start thinking about her future, marriage, and dowry. When she is around 10-12 years old, they are in tension because of her security. Then, every time they have to take care of the girl, which never happens in the case of boys.

After marriage, only the girls have to suffer. They have to adjust in the new family, change their world, leave their parents, and even quit their career. Girls play roles in both professional and family life; still, when their family is unhappy, they feel helpless. Girls really have no option but to survive.

So, I am not in favor of the statement. No matter how modern we become or where we live, the life of girls will always be influenced by males, like a wheel being driven by males.

Thank you,

Hi Neha, we are in 2011, and time has changed. Male chauvinism has considerably reduced. Nowadays, no parents will think of their children as a burden in their life, except in the rarest of cases. In corporations, and not only in corporations but in any organization, whether government or private, the number of female employees is constantly increasing. This is a good sign of improvement. Not everybody insists on a girl quitting her job after marriage. In most cases, it's the girl's decision not to continue employment after marriage.

Perhaps you are not updated about the current scenario, or you are not a keen observer and are oblivious to the changing times.

DUNIYA BADAL GAYI HAI MEMSAAB...AUR INSAN BHI BADAL GAYA...JAGO NEHA JAGO...

No, girls are not the gift; they are a burden. Whenever a girl is born in the world, parents start thinking about her future, marriage, and dowry. When she is around 10-12 years old, they are in tension because of her security. Then, every time they have to take care of the girl, which never happens in the case of boys.

After marriage, only the girls have to suffer. They have to adjust in the new family, change their world, leave their parents, and even quit their careers. Girls play roles in both professional and family life. Still, when their family is not happy, what can they do? The girls really have no option but to survive.

So, I am not in favor of the statement. No matter how modern we become, whether we live in a metro city or anywhere else, the life of girls will always be like a wheel driven by males.

Thank you.

Neha ji, I think you do not have an answer, that's why you have cut and pasted your earlier reply. Kya idea hai Neha ji!!!

Dear Karthick Sir,

To adjust to the modern world, everyone has a view that the scenario has changed and women have gained the most valued position in society. However, at the core of the heart, the same belief persists that men still feel they are the masters.

Undoubtedly, times have changed, and women have entered the corporate world. Yet, in their family life, they are solely responsible. No one will come to lessen her responsibilities, even if both partners are working at the same level. In 2011, we still cannot allow our girls to go out alone after 9 PM due to the lack of security. Additionally, many issues persist that may never change, regardless of how modern we become.

Thank you.

I agree, but everything has a beginning, and this is it. We are marching towards change. Eventually, everything will change. I completely agree that men always hesitate to take responsibilities. Women are more responsible, no doubt. But these days, 50 to 60% of husbands support their spouses even at home by sharing responsibilities. Change will not happen overnight; it will take time. But, I reiterate we are marching towards a better world.

You said we are not allowing girls to go out alone after 9 PM. For your information, the female headcount is more compared to males in call centers and BPOs where they work night shifts and sometimes graveyard shifts throughout the night till early morning. Time has changed, Nehaji. I agree with you; it has not changed completely, but this is a good beginning for a better world to live.

Neha, you are right, but I am not totally convinced with you because whether it's a girl or boy, parents start thinking about them, their future, and marriage too. The tension of security is not only connected with girls, but also with boys, i.e., the tension of indulging in wrong activities. But I can say the tension for girls is at a higher level.

You can't say we are a burden. Of course, when we get married, we have to adjust in a new family. In that new family, we have to work for them and according to them. I think we are here to serve two families, to love them, to take care of them. All should treat us as a God-given gift. ISN'T IT?

Well said, Ruchi. I second your opinion. The point you are trying to drive is very well taken. :)

I can't support Neha. We are already aware of the needs of girls. Instead of gathering money for her marriage, parents should give her the best education they can and never show any discrimination.

I know one father who loves his daughters very much. He always tries to fulfill whatever the girls ask for! He always says, "They will be with me for a very short period, so I have to make them happy as long as I can. After that, we can't predict."