Hi, I am Rahul Mehrotra from India. I am facing a problem in English. I am not able to speak in an appropriate manner. Actually, I completed my schooling in a Hindi medium school. But now, in the business world, there is only a single business language, i.e., "English." Can you please tell me how to overcome this problem?
It is very common. If I look at my personality some years back, I was facing a similar problem. Not only with English but even if I had to communicate face to face with someone, even in Hindi or my mother tongue. The problem was a lack of confidence, shyness, and my introverted nature. But every problem has a solution, and even your problem can be solved.
Communication Challenges
Communication is the base of any form of interaction. Speaking is a little more difficult than writing because:
• While speaking, one's mind should work at a speed greater than while writing as we cannot fall short of words while speaking and go blank.
• Speaking will not involve just plain words - Each word we speak would be added by the weights of our tone, clarity, expression, pronunciation, the accent, etc.
Hence, it is a common problem with many of us that though we are strong in written communication, when it comes to speaking, we take a back seat.
Steps to Improve English Speaking Skills
1. Read novels or dramas that involve dialogues and speak out loud the dialogues with proper emotions and intensity.
2. Speak to the mirror: At first, it would be difficult even to look into our own eyes in the mirror. But eventually, we'll be able to, and then we can speak. If you're not comfortable making a rapport with your mirror image, talk with it in your mother tongue and later start conversing in informal English. Do this for almost 15-20 days, and when you think you have a little grip over English, then you can start forming some prepared notes to speak to yourself (formal ones) and later go for unprepared or extempore.
3. Play: Honestly, we forget the child in us who wishes to flourish and learn more. Give yourself 1-2 minutes to prepare pointers on any given topic. Keep a timer/stopwatch to keep track. After this, time yourself for 3-5 minutes and speak whatever you can in that time. Do not think if what you're saying is right or wrong, on the topic or off, as there would be no one to judge you. But speak, speak out whatever comes.
4. Once you think you have a better grip on the language, you can ask someone to judge your extempore play and evaluate it for you. Ask someone who you confide in so that you are not scared.
5. Whenever you meet different people, talk. For example, I stay in Mumbai. I meet so many people every day. From my watchman to laundry man to auto driver to co-commuters in train and bus to colleagues to random people in the lift, etc. Smile at them and at least wish them for the day. This will help you gain confidence and make your day as well as theirs. Neither you nor they lose, right?
6. Have self-confidence. You know that your written format is good. So don't be scared of faltering somewhere. And if you listen carefully to many of the people who speak fluent English with lots of confidence, you'd be able to make out mistakes in their language.
In simple terms, all I wish to say is - We all make mistakes, but that doesn't mean we stop doing the thing. Failure is not the actual failure, but not trying is definitely a failure...
Also, refer to the following threads that have the same/similar issues, and there are ample solutions which you can try for yourself:
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https://www.citehr.com/446692-good-w...s-but-not.html
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https://www.citehr.com/117196-presen...unication.html
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https://www.citehr.com/284792-how-i-...unication.html
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https://www.citehr.com/118064-how-im...ls.html#641155
Don't worry; have a little confidence. Hope it helped.
All the best.