How To Deal With Mentally Harassment At Work - Please Help

Dear all,

Currently, I am working in a bank, and the issue I am facing is mental harassment from my operations manager. She is a lady who does not handle any work pressure and transfers it to others. She spends the whole day talking on the phone. I am responsible for handling all cash and remittance-related tasks. However, I am unable to handle any more work. I wish to transfer to another branch, but she is not allowing it.

This is a difficult time for me, and I am unsure of what to do. I need your suggestions and assistance.

Thank you.

Dear Kashifbhai Khan,

It is all happening everywhere in the workplaces. Let's have a positive attitude to accept the pain. Strongly believe that all things happen for the best. When you are responsible for doing all the work, it shapes you in terms of experience and job responsibilities. Be mentally strong to face those situations. Develop a joyful mood while working. It will make you enjoy the work. Only then will you not feel that it is a hectic job.

I hope this will help you at least by 1%.

I am totally in agreement with you. Actually, I am also going through the same situation. I am working in a private company. I joined as an administration staff member as I have less experience in working. My boss has given me the responsibility of accounting and also handling the front desk. In addition to this, he also expects me to work as a secretary. I am not satisfied with this job as I do not feel well while doing such tasks. He is also sometimes dominating me because of some personal issues. Despite this, I am continuing in this job.

A positive attitude is really necessary in such situations.

Hello Kashifbhai Khan,

You didn't mention if you are working in a private-sector or public-sector bank. The response options one has under such circumstances would differ depending on this aspect, among other situations.

To give a broad-level direction, I would put it in three ways:

[1] You need to develop a mental attitude where such behavior (today it's this lady, tomorrow it could be someone else... and not necessarily a boss or even a lady) doesn't allow you to lose your balance. Whether one agrees to it or not, what the other person says or does isn't in your hands - but what you do or say is in your hands. The sooner you inculcate this changed attitude, the better.

[2] Also, please try to look at such situations as an opportunity to learn new skills or hone up old ones - mentally thank such a boss for giving you such an opportunity (not literally though, as that may lead to further issues).

[3] Regardless of whether you work in a public or private sector bank, nowadays the banking sector is booming. Look out for options to change the employer - as a worst-case solution.

Hello Suchita Achavan,

The same options mentioned above could apply to you too, and you rightly said: a positive attitude is really necessary in such situations. After all, that's what is called experience and the learning process, isn't it?

Regards,

TS

Hello friends, I just went through the discussion above. The situation described by K. Khan and answers given by Moh. and T. (apologies for name spellings). I am a researcher in the field of workplace bullying. The phenomenon mentioned above is workplace bullying, which is immoral, unethical, and illegal. Mr. Moh and Tej do not recognize the phenomenon and deny it, resulting in the solutions provided having adverse effects. To understand the phenomenon, Mr. K. Khan, you can refer to the work of Dr. Gary Namie, Tim Field, and the literature available. Name workplace bullying as a phenomenon and raise awareness, which would be a start to solving this problem. You can contact me at pratapnavayan@gmail.com. Regards, Pratap