Transforming Anger into a Tool for Success: Have You Tried This Approach?

My dear friends,

Everyone wants to contain and control anger. Anger is the most dangerous emotion one fears. The attached PPT explains how one can use this as a positive weapon for success in life. I am practicing this and remain successful. Why not you?

Regards,
R. Ganesh

P.S. My friends, after uploading the attachment, I found a few mistakes in the text on the slides. Please bear with the same.

Regards.

I do personality profiling and often have to convince some people from anger-averse cultures that feeling angry is a legitimate emotional response. Learning to express and receive anger appropriately is necessary in true multinational companies.

Wonderful article. However, if a section on how to exercise controlled anger without losing one's senses were added, it would be appreciated. This addition would likely enable a person to be in command.

Regards,
Bhavin M Trivedi

Programming the subconscious mind after self-introspection is a simple and effective technique. Some of these techniques are best practiced in a workshop setting and can be challenging to articulate in writing. Thank you for your kind appreciation.

Regards,
Ganesh

Wow, Bhaskar, I admire your analogy—it's simple and very appealing. With your permission, I think I can use this in my Training Program (no honorarium, please ). Thank you for your tips. Keep in touch, my friend.

Regards,
R. Ganesh

I will be more careful in the future, Murali. Before uploading, I should have corrected the mistakes, which I failed to do. That's why the Post Script in my mail. I also, many times, think the way you do when I see such silly mistakes in any presentation. Thanks for your comments made in my interest.

Regards,
R. Ganesh

Very thought-provoking presentation. The idea that controlled anger can achieve results is aptly brought about. Thank you very much.

Regards,
K. Ravishankar
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Good Morning Ramn Ji,
Very educative article. Anger is one of the Six Vikars (i.e., Shadripus viz. Kaam, Krodh, Maad, Matsar, Lobha, Ahankar) which a human being is expected to control. Thank you for your guidance on how to use it to have positive effects.

Regards,
Chandrakant

Thank you for the valuable presentation. Anger is an expression of spontaneous negative emotions. Being spontaneous, it requires very high and quick analytical skills to derive a positive drive. A high level of maturity and positive thinking may be useful. When angry, we feel that the other person is somehow wrong or guilty. That perception needs to be changed with an analytical mind.

Take care,

Regards,
Tunar

It was an excellent presentation and a thoughtful way of handling our negative weapon - anger. The best part was, "ANGER IS A TWIN-EDGED WEAPON, KNOW THE TECHNIQUE AND BE A SKILLED PERSON IN HANDLING THIS WEAPON TO YOUR ADVANTAGE." Really good and worth following.

Thanks and Regards.

Appreciate your thought, Bhaskar. I would like to add to it. If you feel angry, close your eyes and try to concentrate on past memories that were good to you, like your life journey. Imagine yourself as being capable of doing anything you wish. Your temper will surely calm down, and you can cheer up again.

No Basker, what Deepali says is not a technique one should do in front of the person with whom we are angry. The first thing we should do is to just move away from the place or person.

Angry moments will get stuck for long in our memory, creating another scar in our subconscious. Deepali's technique is aimed at removing those bad memories and the resultant scar. This is an NLP Technique that we teach to others. Since the rays of anger will move 90 degrees, i.e., vertically, the angry person is advised to lie down on the ground. Have you seen anyone lying on the ground and shouting too? The person will immediately get up and shout. These are all techniques.

But most of us have the curse that Karna had in the Mahabharata. That is, whatever technique we learn, we forget at the time of exigency! What to say? That is the reason why we are putting them into practice, and even mock drills will be useful, it seems :-)

With warm regards,
R. Ganesh

Dear Vasant Nair, It is a fairly decent effort by Ganesh to impress upon the need to appreciate and understand "Anger Management." The presentation, both in terms of content and language, could certainly have been much better and more qualitative. Certain suggestions like "nervous breakdown is the cause for most of the diseases" (I wonder if this is medically correct. I am not too sure.) All I am suggesting is that let us not make statements which we cannot validate. Please also appreciate that I am NOT trying to belittle the relevance of the PPT circulated by Ganesh. It is a decent effort by him. I will strongly recommend viewing Sister Shivani's VCD on Anger Management. It is very simple, easy to understand, and extremely meaningful. (Sister Shivani is a Brahma Kumari. She is seen almost daily in a TV Show called "Awakening With Brahmakumaris" on Astha Channel at 7 p.m. and at 10 p.m.) I will also suggest that let's not call ANGER a WEAPON...it somehow has a negative flavor to it. Can we call it a "TOOL" or an "INSTRUMENT"? Best Wishes, Vasant Nair

Thank you very much, Mr. Vasanth, for your frank and fair comments. "Nervous breakdown is the root cause of all diseases" is not my own statement. If my memory serves me well, I read it in one of the books of Osho. Somehow, a few mistakes did creep in, which I also mentioned in the postscript of my email accompanying the PPT.

Vasantji, I can never ever be compared with Sister Shivani, who is a great and developed soul of a high order. Definitely, her approach to the issue would be much more appealing and potent than my presentation. I am extremely thankful for you bringing forth a few points in which I am lacking, which I will set right in my future presentations. I tried according to my knowledge and perception on this vital issue.

"Instrument" and "Tool" sound good—somehow it did not strike me. Thank you once again, Mr. Vasanth, for your constructive comments.

With regards,
R. Ganesh