I work for a consultancy firm.
During my last year appraisal, since I felt that I was going through an unmerited performance evaluation despite the good job that I accomplished in my project, my manager put me with the HR for resolving the difference of opinions. The HR personnel advised that I should understand that the manager is new and he does not know me well enough to rate me properly! She also advised me my improvement plan. One of the action items in the plan was that I should escalate issues that I think would affect my performance, well in advance or at least on time. Two weeks later, I encountered an issue that I had to escalate to my manager. My manager is a very angry person. I've heard about this behavior of my manager from other people also. When I went to escalate the issue, he was angry for some reason (unknown to me) and he yelled at me and called me mean names. Since I knew that I cannot change another person's reaction to a situation and I knew that the HR personnel will only support him even if I complain about him, I decided to let the issue die in my mind and move on to some other unit within the same company. After the incident, I noticed that my manager always avoided and ignored me. When I was leaving the project, the same HR person wanted to know the reason and hence I had to explain to her what ever had happened. After hearing all the mean names that the manager called me, she said that the manager must have said all that in a fit of anger but I was being unprofessional by seeking other opportunities. She also blamed me for breaking the verbal commitments that I made before (I had committed that I will stay in the project for a year when I joined the project. I had only completed 9 months while I was leaving). I left it to her to think whatever she wanted to regarding this matter and I moved out of that project. And before I moved out, the manager told me that he will not talk to me again :)! (But of course, I burned the bridge, that I did not want to do.) The HR person told me that she will make some confidential notes about me in the HR records that will not be shown to me but will be given to my next manager! I'm not concerned about the confidential notes that she would write about me because I know that I have not done anything wrong. But I'm surprised about the HR's and the manager's behavior. Since my next appraisal time is coming up I would like to know from a third person (I always feel that I wasn’t wrong) if I were wrong/unprofessional in dealing with this situation? If my current manager mentions about this incident, can I confidently give my explanations about this matter?
During my last year appraisal, since I felt that I was going through an unmerited performance evaluation despite the good job that I accomplished in my project, my manager put me with the HR for resolving the difference of opinions. The HR personnel advised that I should understand that the manager is new and he does not know me well enough to rate me properly! She also advised me my improvement plan. One of the action items in the plan was that I should escalate issues that I think would affect my performance, well in advance or at least on time. Two weeks later, I encountered an issue that I had to escalate to my manager. My manager is a very angry person. I've heard about this behavior of my manager from other people also. When I went to escalate the issue, he was angry for some reason (unknown to me) and he yelled at me and called me mean names. Since I knew that I cannot change another person's reaction to a situation and I knew that the HR personnel will only support him even if I complain about him, I decided to let the issue die in my mind and move on to some other unit within the same company. After the incident, I noticed that my manager always avoided and ignored me. When I was leaving the project, the same HR person wanted to know the reason and hence I had to explain to her what ever had happened. After hearing all the mean names that the manager called me, she said that the manager must have said all that in a fit of anger but I was being unprofessional by seeking other opportunities. She also blamed me for breaking the verbal commitments that I made before (I had committed that I will stay in the project for a year when I joined the project. I had only completed 9 months while I was leaving). I left it to her to think whatever she wanted to regarding this matter and I moved out of that project. And before I moved out, the manager told me that he will not talk to me again :)! (But of course, I burned the bridge, that I did not want to do.) The HR person told me that she will make some confidential notes about me in the HR records that will not be shown to me but will be given to my next manager! I'm not concerned about the confidential notes that she would write about me because I know that I have not done anything wrong. But I'm surprised about the HR's and the manager's behavior. Since my next appraisal time is coming up I would like to know from a third person (I always feel that I wasn’t wrong) if I were wrong/unprofessional in dealing with this situation? If my current manager mentions about this incident, can I confidently give my explanations about this matter?