A Heartfelt Reminder: Why Spending Time with Loved Ones Matters More Than We Realize

lewellyn111
I came across this and thought all of you might like it, hence posting it here...

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you." The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. "What's wrong, are you well?" she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late-night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. "I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you," I responded. "Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much." That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting." We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Large print. Halfway through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed. "How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I did not do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son." At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU!" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."
Sneha Bhosale
Really touching story. It's so true. We never treasure anything or anyone unless we lose them.

Regards,
Sneha
ap.vadivelu
Really good one regarding a valuable lesson for all who work.

I came across this and thought all of you might like it, hence posting it here...

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you." The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night, I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. "What's wrong, are you well," she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late-night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. "I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you," I responded. "Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment and then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up, I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting."

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Large print. Halfway through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed. "How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I did not do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there, but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU!" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off until "some other time."
Tarang Arhat
Thank you for sharing this feeling with all of us, brother. As HR professionals, we always have something to develop our organization's human resources, but what about our own resources who patiently wait for our time? Let's start spending a weekend with them too! :)

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Uday Kodati
It's a nice sentiment to help people understand what is important in life. Do you believe me or not? Mine is a love marriage, and before we got married, I told my wife that the only treasure in my life is my mother (my father passed away). I promised her that I would treat her the same way she treats my mother. Touch wood, they are both my treasures now. We all live together, and I can't imagine making my mother live elsewhere; it would be the end of my life.
shweta11
Really heart-touching... we all need to follow it in life... no one would know your feelings unless they are expressed.

So, all here, let's practice what the moral is...

Regards,
Shweta
kvsr220861
Simply superb. It is very touching. It is an eye-opening presentation for all of us who are always busy with our jobs. When we truly decide to spend time with our loved ones, we will definitely be able to. Anyhow, it is excellent and it brought tears to my eyes.

Thanks,
Subbarao
same410
Love this story. I was touched. Indeed, family should always be a top priority.

Sam Ehebha
Lagos, Nigeria
harpk
This is not only touching but also has some moral value in it.

Never forget those who bore you; they sacrifice their whole lives to raise their kids, fulfill their needs, desires, etc. When we are grown enough, we often push them out of our lives because we don't have time to spend with them.

Have you ever had a date with your parents? Think about it once and reply.
jude mayne
Dear Citehrians,

Whether from the old school or the new one, we as humans have forgotten to "Touch Humanly". Please stop and think: where are we heading? We have left behind our ability to love our loved ones - we forget love. At the end, who wins "a rat race"? Rats only?? Why have we become rats??

Take the time out and spend a little of it with your family!

Regards,
Col J H Mayne
pdakshna
Hi,

Thanks for sharing the information; it's really touching. Every human being needs to think for the modern world. We need to spend time with our loved ones.

Regards, DakshnaMurthy.
Girimaji
Hi,

Good one and very touching indeed. Most of us live in this world as though we are born again and again to get another chance to fulfill our parents' desire and obligation. Well, obligation is not the word. The truth is that we are currently living in this world now, and we are blessed to have our parents. We can see, feel, and experience their love and affection towards their children. So let's look after them and experience the joy of caring for them before it's too late.

Girimaji
Priyadarshini K
Very true! We always blame the time... in fact, everything is in our control and reach. Let's value our loved ones indeed and live life to the fullest before it's too late. Thanks a ton for sharing such a precious note :)

Regards,
Priya
sheetal.niwalkar
I think we always take our family for granted and keep ourselves busy and tied up with non-value-adding things in our lives. Once the time goes, it's never going to come back, so make the most of and enjoy every moment of your life with your loved ones and family. That's the only true sense of eternal happiness.
MouDas
Lovely story. However, we need to follow this in our real life as well. We should start taking care of our loved ones, especially our parents, who have a lot of expectations from us but never express themselves.
dhinahar
Hi,

It's true. Just as we celebrate our birthdays without realizing that our days are being subtracted from our lifetime. I believe that's why we blow out the candles. We need to show our love while they are still living.

Regards,
Dhinahar.P
rnuj@nnepharmaplan.com
It's truly applicable to all working people. We hardly have time for our personal lives. This one is so touching and inclines one towards loved ones! Thank you for sharing it with us!!

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Gotcha_13
Dear lewellyn111,

I couldn't agree more. My story goes like this...

In 1995, my father had a mild heart attack and was hospitalized. During that time, I was involved in a car accident which resulted in my car being totaled. After my father was discharged from the hospital, I called him to check on his well-being. Unfortunately, we had a verbal disagreement over a purchase he wanted me to make for him, which I refused. This led to a two-week period of not speaking to each other. Finally, two Fridays later, we reconciled over the phone, and I promised to visit him the next day, a Saturday.

As I was on my way to see him, I received a call on my mobile phone informing me of my father's passing. I was devastated, and I couldn't begin to comprehend how my mother must have felt. When I arrived at my father's home, my mother shared how thrilled he was to hear my voice the night before and how eagerly he was anticipating my visit.

Even now, I find it hard to forgive myself and often wish I could turn back time to handle things differently.

This story encapsulates the moral lesson I learned.

Thank you.
hrsbrandman
Hi,

A very touching event. I wouldn't call it a "story" as many others have referred to it here. What a memorable moment it must have been...
MADAN MOHAN VERMA
Really heart-touching.

I came across this and thought all of you might like it, hence posting it here...

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you." The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. "What's wrong, are you well?" she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late-night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. "I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you," I responded. "Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up, I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting." We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Large print. Halfway through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed. "How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I did not do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son." At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU!" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve because these things cannot be put off until "some other time."
alamu._r
Hi,

The time spent with that nice lady before her last days might have been her most precious moments in her life. It highlighted the importance of family. Very nice.
aruna.g
Hi,

It's really a very nice story. I request everyone to go through it, not just to read it but also to make sure that you spend some time with them because they think you are the whole world to them. Remember one thing, parents are the visible gods.

Regards,
Karuna
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