How a Train Encounter Taught Me the Power of Changing First Impressions

Ramesh Sood
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Sharing here a true happening that gave me one of the biggest lessons of my life about perception...

The Last Impression: A True Story of Changing Perceptions

By: Ramesh Sood

The train screeched to a halt as herds of people alighted and converged from all sides on the only water tap to fill empty water bottles, cans, glasses or whatever good enough to hold some water. It was scorching hot, and one had to bear with it while traveling during summer vacations.

Because of the scheduled brief halt, the competition to fetch water became intense as the moments ticked by. And then things turned sour. A middle-aged tough-looking man slapped a young boy. It was disgusting to see such a blatant display of aggression. Some polite people intervened, and the fight ended. But it left a bitter feeling in my mind about that middle-aged man.

As the train whistled, he entered our compartment and while moving towards us he stumbled over a piece of baggage lying in the middle. A few people helped him to get up, and the man sitting next to me whispered almost in my ears, “He is blind.” The bitter feeling vanished instantly.

After some time, he came over to us and expressed his desire to meet my children whose clamor had attracted him. After polite introductions, when my little daughter, about two years at that time, held his left hand, he took out a colorful balloon with the right from his pocket. He blew it and gifted it to my daughter. My son persisted for one for him and was able to get it. The man was generous and large-hearted. I thanked him for the gifts to my little ones. My heart was filled with compassion for him. But a question had remained unanswered. So I asked, “Tell me, Baba, why did you slap the young boy?” I could clearly notice the pain in his voice as he replied, “Yes, in fact, I didn’t want to do it. But the boy had touched my self-respect by saying – Andha hai kya – and I lost control.” I just looked at him and couldn’t speak anything further.

After a while looking at the blank space, he moved ahead and called out, “Any little angels here?” He still had some balloons left in his pocket. And I felt sad over my first impression about him. This is what perception does. We tend to judge things as we see them based on our preconceived notions. But my perception about him had changed within no time from bitterness to compassion to respect. Thank God! First impression was not the last impression. I had learned a lesson.
s_shalu
Nice write-up and a great moral too. Time and again, it is proved that never judge a book by its cover.

Personally, I do not form opinions about anyone instantly; I always believed in second chances. So, it is not just a first impression that counts. The way I have interpreted this story is that we are in haste to judge and label others, that too in a real short time. What we think isn't necessarily the only right thing on this planet. Life isn't just black and white, but there are shades of grey too.

"We can never judge the lives of others because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path."
Ramesh Sood
Thank you so much, Shalini. It's great to encounter some thoughtful minds on the forum. Your interpretation is spot on. Full marks to you. I once read somewhere, "Six billion people, six billion worlds." It's a truly fantastic thought. If only one can grasp the dimensions. Appreciate your insights.

Regards,
Ramesh Sood
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