How the 90/10 Principle Can Help You Turn Stressful Days into Positive Experiences

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The 90/10 Principle: An Extraordinary Concept

The 90/10 principle is extraordinary! Unfortunately, very few people know and apply this principle. As a result, countless individuals endure unnecessary stress, trials, heartache, and problems. They never seem to find success in life. One bad day leads to another, with terrible events seemingly happening consistently. They live in constant stress, lack joy, and have strained relationships. Time is consumed by worry, anger ruptures friendships, and life seems dull. Friends are lost. Life becomes a chore and often appears cruel. Does this describe you? If so, don't be disheartened. You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

Understanding the 90/10 Principle

What is this principle? It posits that 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. The remaining 90% is decided by how you react. We have no control over the 10% of occurrences in our lives. We can't prevent the car from breaking down, or the plane from arriving late. We can't stop a driver from cutting us off in traffic.

The Power of Reaction

The other 90% is different because it's determined by our reactions. We can't control a red light, but we can control our reaction. Don't let people deceive you; you can control how you react!

A Practical Example

Let's use an example. You're having breakfast with your family. Your daughter accidentally spills a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened, but what happens next is determined by your reaction.

Instead of cursing, scolding your daughter, and starting an argument with your spouse, you could react differently. You could calmly tell your daughter, 'It's okay, honey, just be more careful next time.' You then quickly clean up, change into a fresh shirt, and get your briefcase.

You see your daughter off to school on time, share a kiss with your spouse before leaving for work, and arrive at your workplace early to a warm welcome from your staff. Your boss even comments on the pleasant day you're having. Notice the difference? Two different scenarios but with different outcomes, all because of how you reacted.

Applying the 90/10 Principle

Applying the 90/10 principle means letting negative comments roll off you like water on glass, maintaining your temper when cut off in traffic, and using your energy productively when facing challenges like losing your job or dealing with flight delays.

You've now been introduced to the 90/10 principle. Apply it, and you'll be amazed at the results!
c_oindrila
We as individuals later realize the "reaction" was not required.

Actually, apply the 90/10 technique for much more relaxed and less stressful days.
donB
After brooding over this 90/10 secret for about 30 minutes, I just realized that I knew this all along, albeit as a different word...MATURITY! Alas! How much simpler life would have been if I were to think maturely even for a second before acting! 8)
Attitude:

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think, say, or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes!

Anonymous
mahesh shukla
Hello,

I found the 90/10 secret very interesting, and I'll share it with my friend. I'll also apply the same thing to enlighten my life every day.

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