Dear Sekhar,
When you have faith and confidence in your self,you will do more and attempt to do more. I suggest you some tips about how to build confidence and courage. I have also attached two books one is Inferiority complex and self image. and other is Fearlessly Communicating and Talking with Confidence. Plz go through it. ,I am sure you it will prove fruitful for you. Provide me your feedback after reading it.
1. Prepare thoroughly.--Prepare the message of your speech thoroughly. Know exactly what it
is you want to bring across to your audience…and why. Knowing the
purpose of your speech will help focus and organize your thoughts,
thus allowing you to be relaxed when it comes time to make your
presentation.
2. Wear something appropriate and comfortable for the
occasion. --
When you look good (or when you know you look good), you tend to
feel good. When you are less self-conscious, you tend to be more at
ease. Whether we admit it or not, the way we look somehow affects
the way we feel.
Of course, don’t forget proper grooming.
3. Be convinced that what you have to say matters. -------Be convinced of the importance of your message. Doing this will put
you at ease and will make you appear more confident (and above all,
congruent).
4. Put yourself in a “confident” state.
There are many ways to do this. One of the best ways that I’ve found
is to “act as if” you were already confident (that’s if you feel you’re not
quite in the “confident” state yet). Walk and talk the way you would if
you were already extremely confident.
Sometimes, it helps to ask yourself the following questions:
“How would I feel right now if I were absolutely confident?”
“How would I breathe?”
“How would I stand?”
“How would I walk?”
“How would I talk?”
...and so on.
Another excellent way would be for you to imagine
when you were completely confident…then bring th
present moment…and speak/present while in that
Ask yourself the following:
“When, in the past, was I absolutely confident?”
“How did I breathe?”
“How did I stand?”
“How did I walk?”
“How did I talk?”
…and so on.
(It’s very important that when you ask these questions, and when you
do these visualizations, you are not imagining yourself outside your
body as if you were watching yourself as an actor/actress on a movie
screen. You must be in your body…seeing things in the outside world
from inside your own body.)
5. Keep your attention/focus away from yourself…at all costs.---- In other words, avoid being self-conscious at all costs…because self-
consciousness is one of the biggest causes of nervousness. Focus
instead on the message you want to bring across to your audience.
Focus on why you are there….why you are speaking to them.
6. Breathe naturally and in a relaxed manner.
7. Speak as if you were speaking to a close friend or loved one
(in a conversational manner).
8. Always remind yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes.
9. Avoid the need to gain approval.
10. Trust in the power of your mind (more specifically, your
subconscious mind). Trust that it will deliver the right words at
the right time.
11. Trust that you can handle whatever comes your way.