How Did You Turn Your Weaknesses into Strengths? Share Your Transformation Journey

Dear Friends,

This thread is going to be a place where you will share your ways and means of transformation. Transforming your weaknesses (which you had) into strengths. So, share the weaknesses you had and what are the means/ways you handled to overcome your weakness or transform it into your strength. I am sure this will help all of us, especially budding professionals.

To start with, my weakness: I was an introvert.
Consequence: People tended to dominate me.
Means of transformation: Voice exercises (Shouting), setting my mindset to start the first word in any conversation with a confident voice, mingling with strangers, engaging in social events, and initiating new events. Now, people say I am talkative and an extrovert.

Friends, share and learn. 🌟

Hi Chum,

Thanks for starting a nice thread! In continuation, my weakness is an inferiority complex. The consequence was that I was not expressing myself properly, which gave a wrong impression about me.

To transform this, I started mingling with many friends and going to new places frequently. I made new friends and started expressing myself as who I am. I realized that everybody will overcome this kind of situation at least once in their lifetime.

Now, my friends tell me that I am efficient and more interesting.

Hi,

My weakness is that I am not comfortable meeting new people. However, I don't know how to overcome it. Please suggest.

Dear,

Converting weakness into strength is a long-term process with conscious practice. I believe it is easier to further strengthen your own strengths. It is easier, motivating, and thus quickly done. Strengths become so widespread that one's weakness is overshadowed.

As for Pari's inhibition (I'll not put this as weakness), I feel you should start communicating with friends' friends, passengers sitting beside you, etc. Let them know that you are not comfortable meeting and communicating with a stranger; they will cooperate surely!

All the best!

=Lahiri, Kolkata.

Hi Lahari,

Yes, you are right. I am not comparing the level (duration) of transformation of Weakness to Strength with Strength to further strengthen, but to share the transformation means, which we carried out to overcome the weakness.

Pari, Just answer the following questions... Why is it that you are not comfortable in meeting new people? Does your voice sound feeble? Do you have any language problems? Do introspect... it will aid you to come out for sure. Friends, share your points...

Hi,

Thanks for creating a platform to discuss and share one's weaknesses and convert them into strengths. My biggest weakness is that I say YES when I have to say NO. I am extremely sensitive and get choked easily. I need to overcome this and be more assertive. I look forward to my friends and seniors in this forum to give their advice and suggestions for transforming my weaknesses into strengths. Please provide more insights on being assertive.

I eagerly await your suggestions.

Best wishes, Gayathri

Hi Gayathri,

Niz, you have come out with your weakness. Let us transform it into strength. Let me break down your problem into pieces, and answer the following questions:

- Do you have the weakness of "saying yes" only with your superiors?
- Do you feel empathy towards others' problems?
- Do people use you for their work?

Let me know, we will discuss further...

Hi,

1. I say "Yes" not only to my superiors but to my peers as well.
2. Yes, I always have empathy for others' problems.
3. Yes, people use me for their work and, in the end, leave appreciation that does not get acknowledged too...!!!

I am looking forward to your suggestions.

Best wishes,
Gayathri

Hi Chum, nice to see that you have started an interesting thread on the transformation of weakness to strength. As you have mentioned in the post earlier, we need to help only the needy. I also used to help many, like Gayathri, and went unsung in the end! Others reap the benefit of your contributions/your help without even acknowledging it, leaving you high and dry! Sensitive people can't digest that. In Indian situations (I can't comment on the experience in other countries), it would be a pragmatic approach for sensitive people not to have qualities like sympathy, empathy, etc., which are exploited by many around them. Choose the fellow citizens carefully before you help!

Dear Chum,:icon1:

Thank you for starting a thread like this which is really related to HR. I am aggressive :x. From the age of 15-16, I had a lot of losses because of my aggressiveness. My voice is a 'LITTLE' high. The tone I write memos in sounds like 'scolding'.

I wanted to change this when I got my first job in a hospital as an Admin Assistant. When somebody comes late from leave or comes late to duty regularly, my aggressiveness comes out. A nursing student cried when I scolded her for going to accommodation during duty time regularly. She later became my friend and tried her best to change my character. She was a nightingale. (Will my wife read this :huh:)

Still, I have not changed. But now if any employee/labor makes any mistake, their manager says 'you will be sent to Sadique.' Is it +ve or -ve?

Dear Chum,

I have some weaknesses. One of them is that I am generally not comfortable speaking with larger groups of people (i.e., more than 3-4). Another weakness is that in group discussions, when I would like to convey a simple point, I feel very afraid or find it very difficult to speak.

Please advise me on the consequences of these weaknesses and suggest ways for me to transform them.

Thank you.

Hi Gayathri,

It seems you are conscious, but hesitant to practice. When your conscience says NO, do not commit. You may say, "I don't promise..."

To your boss: you may try the "Yes... But..." technique to start with. For example, "Yes Boss, I see your point but one may look into the possibility too!"

Start slowly, but start. That's the mantra. Otherwise, you will be exploited, and your goodness will be taken as your weakness by people around you!

All the best!

=Lahiri, Kolkata.

Hi Mammu,

You are just opposite to Gayathri. You both are in two extremities. Being aggressive is no good, but be assertive. Try to understand others' problems, feel sympathy, and to the next step, feel empathy. Listen to what people say, analyze the issues in a practical scenario. The most important thing is to provide solutions for problems and not scoldings. Don't be too emotional, don't make decisions when you are emotional. Mammu, nobody is perfect in this world, and so you and I, human beings are bound with problems, so being HR, we have to act as a catalyst. Be assertive. Let me know if you have any queries. Keep rocking.

Dear Chum,

Thanks for starting a thread like this, which is really related to HR. I am aggressive. From the age of 15-16, I had a lot of losses because of my aggressiveness. My voice is a little high. The tone I write memos sounds like scolding. I wanted to change this when I got my first job in a hospital as an Admin Assistant. When somebody comes late from leave, comes late to duty regularly, my aggressiveness came out. A nursing student cried when I scolded her for going to accommodation during duty time regularly. She became my friend later. She tried her best to change my character. She was a nightingale. (Will my wife read this?) Still, I have not changed. But now if any employee/labor makes any mistake, their manager says 'you will be sent to Sadique.'

Is it positive or negative?

Hi Frn,

This thread is working now. Just check out the reply from Mr. Venki. Suits you. Few words from me.

Answer the following questions:

1. Why do you feel afraid of talking when you are with a bunch of people?
2. Do you think others will make a fool of you in front of others?
3. What will you think when you see or address a stranger?

Let me know. Let us get the right knot, then it is very easy to break it.

Hi all,

Thank you, Chum, for starting this thread. My first weakness is that I cannot communicate well with my seniors. Here the language is not a drawback. It's just that I do not know what to talk about. It's only work and nothing else.

My second weakness is that I cannot maintain my contacts. If I lose touch with any of my senior people, I do not know how to start back. The question again stands to be "What to start with?"

Please help me overcome this weakness.

Regards,
KLD

Hi KLD,

Nice that you have found out your weakness. Very simple, you are lacking interpersonal skills, nothing to worry, this is a common weakness. KLD, answer me the following questions, this is very easy to break. Do you have this problem with your friends? Do you prefer calm places to noisy ones? Do you feel comfortable talking with strangers? Do you feel your voice sounds feeble? Let me know, let's break this little nut...

Thank you for replying, chum.
The answers to your questions are:

1. No, chum, this does not happen with my friends. I am very comfortable with them.
2. The answer to your second question would also be no. I like both types of places equally; it mostly depends on my mood.
3. Well, there is not much of a problem talking to strangers as long as I feel comfortable.
4. As far as sounding feeble is concerned, I don't feel so while talking to my friends, but when it comes to a senior – say a superior at work or a professor at college – yes, I do feel that my voice sounds feeble.

Thank you.
Regards,
KLD

Hi KLD,

Sorry for the late reply. I've been a bit tied up with mundane work.

KLD, it's very simple. You have an internal image for every person you meet and value the people based on your own likes and dislikes. I feel this is not a weakness but rather a reflection of your thinking. If you perceive it as a weakness, then handle it with ease with your superiors. We do not need to search for topics to talk about with our friends, so view them as your friends, learn things from them, update them with new things, and be casual to be noticed. Whatever you do (don't measure the depth of the task), pay attention to your superiors, discuss, and complete the task right away. I am sure you will excel soon. If you have any queries, feel free to post them. Keep rocking.

Thank you for replying, chum.
The answers to your questions are:
1. No, chum, this does not happen with my friends. I am very comfortable with them.
2. The answer to your second question would also be no. I like both places equally; it mostly depends on my mood.
3. Well, there is not much of a problem talking to strangers as long as I feel comfortable.
4. As far as sounding feeble is concerned, I don't feel that way while talking to my friends. However, when it comes to a senior, like a superior at work or a professor at college, yes, I do feel that my voice sounds feeble.

Thank you,
Regards,
KLD

Hi, I think this is really a great thread that you have started.

My Weakness: I used to think that people whom I meet are always my friends.

Consequence: I was fooled by all.

Means of Transformation: I am friendly with all, but now I have become more practical. That is what is more important now.

Believe that whatever we do is done by God, and the consequences will also be faced by God himself. You automatically will gain strength.

Hi, all.

It is a good platform with a good discussion on this topic. It seems many of us face a similar scenario to what Gayathri faces. Here is what I can comment: Gayathri needs to take a quick moment to understand what she is asked to do, analyze the situation, and find a solution for herself. I know this cannot be done overnight; it will take some time for her to develop this attitude.

Hi Aarti,

Good work, Aarti. Quite a lot suffer from this weakness; your point will guide them. "Think and act practical" - that's a good point by you. Keep rocking.

To transform weakness into strength, we must become disciplined in whatever we do. If we are disciplined, the weakness will be converted into strength.

The life of a person is successful who can be useful to others in this world. Clouds take water from an ocean and are engaged in quenching the thirst of the thirsty earth. Rivers do not break the tradition of going on surrendering their own Self (Existence) into the ocean in order to protect the greatness of the ocean. Flowers blossom for making others laugh, plants grow for fulfilling intents of others. Wind delight liberally animate and inanimate entities by go on doing its meritorious process of blowing air. There is no selfishness of all of them in all these. Sun – Moon and Constellation of Stars go on moving day and night contributing to this universe the light; this is the usefulness of the life as well as this makes the life worthwhile.
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