Marriage/Compromise In Career- Please Help!

hi sangitha
It would be really helpful if you can give me information about SAP Hr. What is it . How much it is helpful? From where have you done it . Which is the best institute for this? Is it a Correspondence Course or a Regular one.

Dear Pragya,

I wish life were always the way we chose to live it. Hey but that has its flaws too... You never know that you can have a better opportunity out there at delhi.

Please excuse, for a while I need to be both your friend as well as someone who can help you chose (not advise..probably throw light on a few points that can help you decide)

As a woman, marriage is one of the best thing that can happen to her. I know that you have no second thoughts of changing your would-be :-)

so whats stopping you from just putting your papers down and looking for the change? Fear? fear of having a career break? How can you stop that? Ans: Stop fearing.

Have confidence in "LIFE". Until this stage you have come up confidently, found a job for yourself..now you have found the "better-half". And you very well know that living seperate for the sake of career cannot help you in your personal life.(and that is not the reason you are getting married either!) As long as you have no personal satisfaction, I doubt the satisfaction from job can help you at all.

Until now things have sailed smooth...so be sure that a little effort from your end can make things work fine.

what is your would-be's take on this? I am sure he can help you.

So see if you can network / seek help through friends & family members to find a job at Delhi. Talk to your would-be's parents about this (YOU HAVE TO), and ask them what help can come from their end in helping you find a job.

There are numerous opportunities/ways to find a job. Seek help through consultants.

Your worry is only "finding a job in Delhi". Dont mix it with other thoughts.

Just in case you dont leave Gujarat...and tomorrow if a problem arises at home/family, they will all point their fingers at you stating that "She preffered job over family". These things are bound to happen in our Indian family...howmuch love is attached, so much of such problems are also around it.

Be calm, prepare a good resume (take tips from citehr ;-) )Hunt for jobs through consultants, family friends & relatives.. I am sure you will find a better one that the one in Gujaraj... And good luck for your "Married life"

At the end make sure your In-laws & would-be is aware of the fact that you are quitting just becasue of the marrigae, and just becasue of your would-be 's job.

If this is not the case, and if your would-be is fine with you working elsewhere, then talk to both your and his parents. But take this decision only if you are sure if the marriogae can be alive inspit of being in different places.... can you afford to?

(moreover you can also take up freelance assignments, and cover it up for your "gap")

1. You can search jobs at Delhi sitting at Gujrat - on internet and job portals.
2. If there is an interview call, you will have to travel. You have to do this much.
3. After marriage, if you move to delhi, still without a job, do not worry. Keep looking for job and simmultaniously do some course for learning as well.
4. A small gap, for which you can clarify the reason is not considered so bad as long as your performance is good..if your current company will give a good feedback, you will get an job.
5. Delhi is a big market. You will sure get a job. At the most, may be at a lesser salary.

Dear Taz
At times, I feel, yours is the only sane voice in this world of "super-super-specialist" who love to make the simple COMPLICATED.
Members, please pardon me.
She has already stated that :
1. career is as important for her, as marriage.
2. her would be hubby can't leave Delhi.
Simple solution is : 1.Since she is in Gujarat, 2. Generally in India, it is the women who go to the husband's place after marriage, 3. Delhi is much much better than any Gujarat city (actually - no comparison), in terms of employment opportunity !!!!!!!
Where is the conflict ?? where is the need for decision making or evaluating variables ????
Right Taz !!!! :wink: Keep it up friend, you are like the child who shouts "the king is not wearing any clothes !!!"
Warm regards.

talk to ur hubby and convince him, because career is as much important as marriage. yun can try in delhi a lots of jobs are there

Dear Pragaya,
Right now there would be some time in your marriage. Try to search a job in Delhi till now and within some time you will get. No compromise with personal life. There is lot of scope in Delhi. You will definately get an opportunity.......
Regards,
Rakesh Kashyap,

Dear Pragya,

Nowadays, due to rise in cost of living I would say career is as much important as marriage. If both husband & wife in the family are working, they can enjoy today's life as much as possible.

Presently u r working in market leading company which has good fame globally. You will definitely find a good job in Delhi. Just u have to try. U would have a series of consultants in Delhi if ur hubby helps. Then take one week leave and acheive your goal at Delhi with your hubby.

Also the time upto marrige is the Golden period and if u are in touch as closer as with hubby will make your life wonderful.

As per my experience, When I was engaged, my wife was working in the same city. After our marriage, I went to another city. She left the job and joined a new job in the current city. Also market is going up, u will get the job easily.

My suggestion is to grab the opportunity in this Golden Period.

All the best.

Regards,

Shailesh

You can definitely try in Delhi as lot of opportunities are coming up there for HR.

Hi Pragya,

You don't want to leave your career as well as neither can your would be shift to Gujrat. According to me Marriage an Career both the things are equally important,you should not leave any one neither can compromise.
Finding a life good partener is a thing which happens once in anyones life that decision should be very carefull. as you have decided it earlier.
so see the things from another side of coin. for your would be getting a job in Gujrat can be a bit problematic coz opportunities in Gujrat are lesser as compared to Delhi, however you can find a good job in Delhi more easily.
As a HR i can suggest you few things,
1. First of all you can postpone your marriage for some more days, you can start job search keeping preffered location as Delhi.
2. You have a genuine reason as you are getting married(an believe me it's d most genuine & mostly found reason nw a days we are hearing from candidates.)
3. Everytime when you are forwarding your resume do mention in mail body that you are looking for a job in Delhi Just coz you are getting married soon an your would be is working in delhi, then only HR's will take you seriously.
4. If you start searching for a new job in Same place rigorously in a months time you will get new one+your notice period, an for a diff.location may be 2-3 months.

An believe me the problem which you are going through is very common,an it's nt that big also. just go step by step, find a good job an get married or else after marriage also if you shift to Delhi in 2months you will get a job surely.
But consistency, seriousness,rigorous follow up should be maintained.

All the best for your Job Search an Congrats!!!

Pratibha

I do agree that Delhi is a job market but getting the right job is a big challenge that i'm facing right now. It seems like the economic depression is still prevalent/or the recruiters are taking advantage of the situation to deflate salary.
Thank you everyone. I really appreciate your valuable suggestions.
Regards,
Pragya

Dear Pragya,
Greetings for the day ahead!!!
first of all you ask yourself that what is more importent to you,
i am sure you will find the solution. and i would like to tel you that you should come to delhi youl find an good job over here.