Handling Anger: How Did My 1992 Article on This Skill Resonate with You?

Hi Everybody,

This article was written by me a long time ago, in 1992, when I was working with GHCL (Sutrapada). Please read this and let me know how you like it.

Thank you.

Hello Mr. Bakshi,

The article is very well-written and is truly a helpful piece for individuals from all walks of life, in both professional and personal forums. However, we need to practice anger-controlling skills time after time to overcome it gradually.

Thank you once again.

Best regards,
Probhat Goswami

You get angry because you are not many a time properly organized or you are very poor in communication. You have to correct yourself. Find out why you get angry every time. It is because of your poor communication skills, leadership qualities, administrative failures, poor or ineffective delegation, lack of understanding that created the situation to get angry. Understand yourself and change yourself.

Hi,

I appreciate your attempt to give some solutions to handle anger. However, it won't work unless you feel happiness and peace within yourself at least once in your lifetime. I mean happiness and peace from within yourself and not from external sources, which can be achieved through yoga and meditation. I was a very short-tempered person a year back. I attended a yoga class (ISHA YOGA) in Chennai, and to my surprise, after regularly practicing (just 20 minutes a day) yoga and meditation, I gradually started to feel happiness and inner peace within me, and my anger dissipated. Apart from the physical wellness benefits, it also provides us with a lot of mental energy. Those who are interested can experience the same and enjoy.

All the best, P.L. THIRUVARUL

Hi,

Please don't try to suppress or control your anger; you will express it to somebody else or damage your own health. So, we can nullify the anger. For thousands of years in our country, a lot of yogis and sadhus have practiced, developed, and taught yoga. Even now, there are many yogis in our country. We might not be aware of yoga and yogis, but people from all over the world, regardless of nationality and religion, are moving in thousands towards yoga classes to beat their mental stress.

This is my very humble suggestion based on my own experience.

Thanks & Regards,
P.L. THIRUVARUL

Dear Jai,

I am very impressed to read your article about the anger of human beings. It is true that anger can spoil their positive thinking and creativity.

That was a wonderful article, Jay. Thanks for bringing it to light.

All the tips mentioned in the article to control and handle anger were very practical. When we are angry, we cannot control ourselves, so how can we handle our anger? It's purely dependent on the situation and mood. These tips may not come to mind when we are angry. Sometimes, after reacting, the person themselves feels, "Did I react like this? I shouldn't have said all of that. I behaved like a mad person. I lost my impression, my character totally changed, I abused someone," etc.

Getting into arguments is the first trigger for anger, and we can surely realize that if we continue, this anger will take on another form. Everyone can surely analyze it, so at that moment, the person should try to stop the conversation, divert the situation, or simply stay quiet (as much as possible). I personally believe that these actions will surely decrease the impact of anger because no one can fully control their anger, at least to prevent the situation from worsening.

I have seen my friends typing emails to employees or senior people when they are angry with them. Never do it. A person can never control his/her feelings when they are angry. If you are angry with someone, especially your beloved or at the office, stay quiet. Don't prolong the discussion, don't talk or discuss with anyone as it will increase your blood pressure. Go straight to your place, type an email with whatever you wanted to say there (everything, you can even vent your frustration), and keep it in your drafts (personal email). After a few hours when your anger subsides, read what you have written. You will realize that you have saved yourself from making a big mistake or hurting your beloved. Even if you feel that what you typed was correct, you can proceed with your thoughts. A person in anger has no control over their mind, words, and actions and may not be in a position to make the right decisions.