Does honesty help a relationship or it hurts a relationship?
This question bothers many of us when it comes to revealing something serious. Shall I tell him/her about everything? What if things go wrong? How to tell? What if I do not tell but he/she comes to know about it? So many questions hammer us when we want to hide truth. And revealing truth may be equally serious in our opinion. So what should be done?
If we are not totally honest and open with our beloved, that means we are not sure about our relationship. That means we do not have
confidence in each other. That means the relationship is fragile.
Why worry about a relationship, which is fragile. Such a relationship will break for some or other reason.
A strong relationship can take any storm. In a strong relationship, we are ready for some disagreement but know that ultimately things will be same as before. In a strong relationship we are totally open with each other. We tell everything to our partner and are sure that no break-up will occur.
Such relationship gives joy. If you hide something from your partner you will always suffer from the guilt and worry about hat if he/she gets to know about that. That is not a happy relationship. Such relationships cause stress, rather than giving any pleasure. To get pleasure, have confidence, tell your partner everything about your past, and expect that they will not only understand but also comfort you about that. That is the sign of a open and strong relationship.
There is another way out. Draw boundaries and agree about them with each other. I may do some thing in this area but you have no right to know about that. If such an agreement is drawn and agreed upon by the partners many problems get solved. But this kind of relationship is not close.
Have your choice about what you want to do.
Please share your views.